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First, it is quiet on the surface and strong on the inside. Some people say that women who have survived the trough are indifferent, but no one knows how helpless and broken he is through this trough period, and no one will care about this process, they often only understate that he has changed, but the fact is not that he has become indifferent, but that he has a strong heart, and in the face of all unreasonable joys and sorrows in the world, he can accept it calmly, such a woman has her own side of the world in her heart, and ordinary people have no way to easily hurt him. There is no way to easily enter his heart.
Second, no longer have high expectations of love and humanity. A woman who has experienced a low period, he can see at a glance the good and bad of the people around him, in his most difficult time, the so-called relatives and the most trusted husband have turned against him, and blindly accusing and complaining about him has made him understand what human nature is. In the adult world, the relationship between people and people is very realistic, even if the lover who lies on the pillow every day, he will speak ill of each other because of the loss of interests, and after seeing through these, he no longer has any expectations for the love and ethereal human nature that can be withdrawn at any time, but tries his best to make himself stronger and live his own life, because he knows that when he is weak, there are the most bad people, and only when he is strong, the world will be friendly and gentle.
The last point learned to love himself, this is the biggest change for a woman who has survived the trough, and he found that the previous heart-to-heart and dedication have become the ** that others attack him. He understands that instead of trying to be good to others, it is better to learn to love himself, no matter whether others say that he is selfish or unapproachable, this is the best for him to protect himself. When he puts all his attention on himself, he doesn't care about the opinions of the people around him, and his life is moving in a good direction, and even those who were not good to him in the past began to care about him after facing his changes.
For women in the trough period, all suffering is a medal, and all cold eyes must be slapped in the face, if you are also in this stage now and don't know how to get through it, you can find Xinyu to help you think of a way.
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First of all, he will become very determined. And the character will also become very strong, they will not rely on others for anything, but more on their own. At the same time, they will be very confident to face some difficulties they will encounter.
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These women no longer have hope for anyone, and it is difficult to believe in their relationship that others will no longer be sharp, that their edges and corners have been smoothed, that they don't care about other people's faces, that they don't care about other people's evaluations, and that they no longer force themselves to fit in.
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They will be stronger, they will be stronger in their hearts, they will be able to take on a lot of things, they will be more responsible, and they will not have hope for anyone anymore.
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A low point in life is inevitable for everyone, whether it is a man or a woman. As a woman, I think the key to getting through the low point of your life lies in the following points.
First, accept reality. When we are at a low point in our lives, we sometimes feel depressed, disappointed, and even hopeless. However, only by accepting the reality can we face the dilemma calmly and find a solution.
Accepting reality does not mean giving up, but it means that we actively choose to change things that are not in our control, and accept those facts that we cannot change.
Second, seek support and help. When life is at a low point, we often fall into emotional distress and feel lonely and helpless. In times of arguing, it is crucial to seek support from family, friends or professionals.
Sharing our confusion and pain with them, and listening to their advice and encouragement, can provide us with new perspectives and strength to help us find our way forward again.
Next, focus on your inner growth. The low point of life is also a time for reflection and growth. We can enrich our inner world, balance our emotions, and rediscover ourselves through books, arts, and other ways.
At the same time, we can broaden our knowledge and skills by attending various trainings, courses or interacting with like-minded people, laying the foundation for our future life.
Finally, stay positive. The low times of life can bring us a lot of challenges and pain, but if we can maintain a positive and optimistic attitude, then we may see the opportunities and hope for them. Believe in your own abilities, trust that time will dilute all pain, and trust that adversity will make us stronger.
We may feel lost and helpless during the low point of life, but as long as we can accept the reality, seek support, pay attention to our own growth and maintain a positive and optimistic attitude, I believe we will be able to get through this difficult period and find a better version of ourselves in it. No matter how long the trough lasts, we must believe that every challenge is a growth and experience in life.
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In the past, I was a very talkative person, and because of this, many people criticized me for thinking that I had been twittering. I didn't care at the time, I thought you didn't like me, and of course some people liked me.
But then, the people who could defend myself suddenly disappeared, and I realized that the world was full of dangers, but the reason why I was able to live so pure before was only because they were still giving me trouble.
Since then, I've started to influence, and I've become less talkative, and I try to take it to heart whether I'm happy or not. Many people around me say that I have become mature, but who can understand that my apparent calmness is due to the hardness of my heart.
I like being so strong, it's my own protective film, and I love the change because it makes me invincible. I hope that every woman who is in the trough period can figure out that one day you can become stronger, don't be afraid, don't be discouraged, boil slowly, experience pain in the process, and remember this feeling, and then warn yourself in the next few days, you need to be cautious and firm.
During the trough, I was asked to see a lot of people and things clearly, and I found that the effort I really gave was nothing more than a ridicule in the eyes of many people. Therefore, I told myself that I must love myself well after that, and I must love myself first, this is not selfishness, but self-respect and self-love.
In the case of the change at the beginning, the people around me were not suitable, and neither was I suitable myself, but when I forced myself to put my energy completely into myself, I didn't care so much about other people's opinions, and life seemed to be moving in a good direction. So don't be afraid of the trough, don't be afraid of change, all experiences have practical meaning, and so does pain.
Before you go through a low period, you don't have any goals for life, just live one day at a time and make yourself happy. But this experience made me understand that in the face of hardships and hardships under uncertain circumstances, I can only be injured. Therefore, I gradually set goals for my life, both long-term and recent, looking at this kind of overall goal, forcing myself to be diligent, and life seems to be less tormenting.
It wasn't until I completed my phased personal goals that I found myself at a low point, and the learning process became less long because I had been looking at the goals. Therefore, if you are going through a low period, you must set a goal for yourself, don't keep going around in circles, come out of it for yourself, and everything will be fine.
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First of all, he will become very confident, and he will be very decisive in everything he does, they will do it as soon as they want to, and they will not care too much about what others think.
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Women who have survived the trough are more calm in the face of loneliness, and they no longer feel angry in the face of injustice.
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They will become more independent, they will no longer rely on others, they will continue to make themselves better, and they will become invulnerable, and they will meet a better version of themselves.
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After getting through it, I learned a lot. I also understood the truth of life, and I made myself a lot more reticent. I've experienced it and learned a lot.
When people are at a low point, they most want to find the comfort and encouragement of others. But the opposite is true, ridicule and ridicule will fall at you. Most of the people who ridicule and ridicule you are your relatives and friends, and it is the strangers who can encourage you.
Therefore, when people go through the trough, they will become silent, which is to see through the faces of the people around them. Therefore, the best way to do this is to keep your distance from each other. At that time, the biggest feeling was loneliness, not pain.
Behind the loneliness is the understanding of human nature. Therefore, when you come out of the trough, you will no longer crave the warmth and coldness of human nature, but go all out to make yourself better and avoid the trap of repeating the cycle of life. They choose to be silent and go all out to do their thing.
After experiencing it, this kind of person never believes in "sending charcoal in the snow", only believes in "icing on the cake". They don't dream of other people's help, but work hard to improve themselves and get themselves out of trouble. I want to say that when you are at a low point, no one will look down on you, you can only work hard to improve yourself and get through the trough patiently.
People who have experienced it understand that there is no one to help people when they are at a low point, so they all force themselves to be strong. People have two paths to go, one is to go, the other is to want to go, you must take the road that must be taken beautifully, before you can take the road you want to go. Therefore, you need to experience more by yourself to slowly do better.
Instead of being afraid of experience, this is how people grow up.
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The hardest time was when I just started looking for something to do with my friends, and I found a good restaurant but I couldn't do it for a day, and then two people walked around for a few days and didn't dare to go home, so I bought a cool skin to eat a day, and looked for a place to see my friends at night** can sleep and take a bath, at that time, friends just came out to do things and lived in the collective dormitory, and it was not good to go to her to sleep every day, and I couldn't sleep so many people, at that time, I didn't come out alone, and I didn't want many places, The back friend also recruited people to go to work, the month after work was also so bitter, the boss carved 12 hours a day, did two months to give 800 yuan of wages, said that it was 1200 a month, the result was given 800, and then I didn't do it there, now think about it at that time was really hard, how did I persevere.
She will let go of her pretenses, tell you what she thinks in her heart, and is willing to show all kinds of embarrassing scenes in front of you, at this time she has let down her guard against you, and has completely trusted you, and wants to be with you forever.