How to feel relieved of the betrayal of those around you?

In fact, the people who can betray you are also some irrelevant people. You have to remember that you will meet more and more people in the future, you will meet more excellent people, and you will meet people who will not betray you for the rest of your life, so for those who betray you, all you can choose is to forget.

One way to do this is to make the damage caused by betrayal a part of yourself, and use it as a motivation for you to keep moving forward.

If it is because of the betrayal of feelings, you can forget the past by starting a new relationship, after a new relationship begins, new feelings and experiences will fill the past pain, and will also make up for and heal the scars in your heart.

I think this is a time to reflect on yourself, reflect on why others betray you, to find the reason from your own side, if you have really done your best with a clear conscience, then why bother with yourself? If it's because you're not good enough, then you need to keep working hard to make up for it.

The best way is not to think, not to care, to approach life in a broad way, to do something else to divert attention, these things will be forgotten slowly.

Leave it to time, time will erase your scars, I often leave some things that I can't handle to time, I know it's a kind of evasive thought, but I don't want some bad memories to keep haunting me, not only make me unhappy, but also continue this unhappiness into the future.

I think I can learn to look at the person who betrayed you, the misfortunes he faced, and the hardships of life, so that it would be easier to forgive him, let go of him, and forget him!

Betrayal is really a heavy word, it means hurt, hurt! If you let go, then choose to forget, forget all this.

It is often said that time is the best medicine, and there is no time to heal an injury. No matter how that person betrayed him, I believe that time can do everything.

Everyone is a passerby in our lives, everyone is fateful, why bother with what has been experienced, it has passed! It is not worth taking the past and causing pain to the present, after all, our lives are short, and there are many beautiful things waiting for us to experience.

If it is too serious, you can see a regular psychological counselor and ask them to help mediate.

Even if the past is over, think more about how well he used to treat you.

Don't try and force yourself to forgive someone who betrayed you.

Betrayal is already an established fact, and it is also a tragic result, if you force yourself to forgive, isn't it unprincipled, and there is no distinction between right and wrong?

Betrayal can never be truly forgotten, let alone truly let go. The only thing we can do is to make ourselves more and more peaceful and less concerned.

Trying to heal the pain with the emotion of "forgiveness" is obviously not the best way, but it will make you fall into deep self-blame and remorse, why should you be so cruel to yourself who has been betrayed?

Perhaps many people think that "forgiveness" is the highest state of forgetting, but I would like to say that in the face of betrayal, it is impossible to use "forgiveness" to forget. No one can really forget the fact of being hurt.

But those who want to forgive betrayal are not relieved, but reluctant.

Instead of being a "seemingly saint" who is "fake detached", it is better to face your emotions truthfully and accept the current situation: don't try to forgive, don't try to get rid of it, time has the most wonderful effect on any pain, what about slowing down?

Respecting the principle of emotional dissipation and emotional dilution, and bravely going through these processes at what stage should be experienced is the greatest release for yourself.

2. Don't deliberately understand the reason for the so-called "betrayal".

Why do you want to go to Brother Lu to know and understand the reason for the "betrayal"? Isn't this rubbing salt on the wound?

Because any betrayal is destined to be deliberate at the moment it arises, no matter what the reason, it is a human error for the "initiator", so why bother to seek and explore?

Those who often want to get themselves out of the "betrayal" quickly will sigh for themselves and find reasons for the other person's "betrayal" behavior at the same time. I thought this was to show my tolerance and open-mindedness, but I didn't know that this was the biggest punishment for myself!

This process and practice of trying to understand the reasons for "betrayal" is like a total denial of one's past; It is also a "repetition of betrayal" of himself at this moment.

We really don't have to find reasons for those betrayals or things, the reasons are really simple, it's nothing more than that: I don't love anymore, I don't love enough, I give up on you.

3. The real letting go is "forgetting to let go" and remaining insensitive.

If you can't let go, don't deliberately let go of the finger sparrow, and don't force yourself to forgive if you don't want to forgive, and return to the most basic and daily life.

You can vent, scream, and even rebuke the person who betrayed you; You can also drink and indulge for three days and three nights; You can also give yourself a little vacation and do what you once wanted to do but never had the opportunity to do.

In short, you can allow yourself to give yourself an exit and a certain amount of time after being betrayed, and gain relief in the short term, but you must not let yourself fall into the abyss of self-blame and "why".

After all, no matter how much you try to find out the cause or blame yourself, the person you once loved madly no longer belongs to you.

Waiting for the passage of time, you will find that you can really face "that person" without any waves.

Time is a good thing....

It magically dilutes all the good and the bad.

No matter how deep the memory is...

And it will....Absolutely or with the passage of time in friendship....Blurred.

But....Forgive?

There's no need to push yourself....Be a saint.

Drop....It's not easy.

Be kind to yourself....Just be kind to people who are good to you.

Good luck in the new year!