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Hello! Here's what you can answer.
1.Let's say the mother-in-law has a son and a daughter.
2.Because the daughter is married, she is married into the man's family, and it is impossible for the mother-in-law to marry out with the daughter. It's like your mom can't marry into your husband's house with you.
3..When the daughter got married, the mother-in-law gave the daughter a dowry that was far less than the money for the son's marriage. That is to say: the mother-in-law's savings were given to her son for marriage. Therefore, the mother-in-law has to rely on her son to support the elderly.
4.The traditional concept of the Chinese is: "raising children to prevent old age" rather than "raising daughters to prevent old age". So the mother-in-law is taken care of by her son.
5.As the saying goes, "A daughter who marries out, spills water".
In the past, for the married daughter, the mother's family would no longer take care of her. Usually the daughter has to take care of her in-laws wholeheartedly and do her best for the man's family business (work. So the mother-in-law is taken care of by her son.
If you are that daughter, you can't take care of your mother's affairs, but you have to take care of your mother-in-law's affairs wholeheartedly, so your mother-in-law wants her son to take care of it. (The above is the situation of the old society).
6.The situation in modern society has changed. I won't go into them all here.
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Hello! 1.Because usually daughters marry into their in-laws' families, it is impossible for daughters to marry with their mothers when they get married, right?
2.Because the mother-in-law's original family is the mother-in-law, the daughter, and the son, right?
3.Usually when a son gets married, he marries his daughter-in-law, so it is normal for his parents-in-law to live with his son.
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You raise me young, and I raise you old.
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I think there are several reasons for this:
1. The traditional concept in China is to raise children and prevent old age. This means that when parents get old, they prefer to live with their sons. The mother raises the younger son, and the son supports the old mother. It makes sense to live with your son and daughter-in-law.
Second, the mother-in-law feels sorry for her son. lived with his son and daughter-in-law, the purpose was to help his son. Seeing her son working hard and tired, the pain of being a mother is in her heart, so she wants to take the initiative to help her son take care of her grandchildren.
Let his son and daughter-in-law work with peace of mind and work hard for their careers. Living together is for the convenience of taking care of the children.
3. There is a sense of security living with my son.
raised his son, and his mother-in-law herself is old. Living with my son and daughter-in-law, in case I have a headache, brain fever, illness or something, someone can pour a glass of water, hand over a medicine, and take care of myself.
Fourth, living with her son and daughter-in-law gives her mother-in-law a sense of accomplishment. As the saying goes, "A child is a woman's life."
of the cause". How much sweat and tears it takes to cultivate an excellent son, only a mother can experience the taste! Seeing her son's harmonious family and successful career, the mother-in-law was very pleased. Living with my son and daughter-in-law, I can often appreciate the most proud "work" in my life!
5. If the mother-in-law is alone and has only one son. According to the current situation of social pension, he can only live with his son and daughter-in-law. You can't let your mother-in-law live alone, right? How can I bear it!
Sixth, there are also many mothers-in-law who are unwilling to live with their sons and daughters-in-law. But there is a premise, the old man should have good economic conditions and do not need to be supported by his son. If the mother-in-law's economic conditions are not good, she still has to live with her son and daughter-in-law to facilitate the elderly.
Supporting the elderly with heart is to accumulate blessings for their own tomorrow! It is the responsibility and obligation of every child to let parents take care of the old and enjoy the old!
Since they choose to live together, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law must be psychologically prepared to tolerate and accept each other. First of all, to be a mother-in-law first, to have the appearance of being an elder, to be more broad-minded, to try to turn a blind eye to the affairs of the young couple, and not to interfere if you are not used to it. For a daughter-in-law, you must first respect and honor your mother-in-law, after all, your mother-in-law is her husband's mother, although she did not give birth to you and raised you, but she gave birth to a good husband for you.
If everyone can understand this, then the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
There will be a lot of harmony.
If you treat your mother-in-law sincerely, then your mother-in-law will also treat you well, and the love is mutual. The big things are discussed, and the small things are not considered. If you have different concepts and ideas, you can listen to each other's opinions, and whoever is right will listen to whom, don't fight for you to lose and I won, otherwise it will hurt and hurt feelings.
So if the mother-in-law really asks to live together, don't stop and accept it gladly. She should follow her son, raise her children to prevent old age! As long as you tolerate each other and maintain a harmonious family!
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Because they think that they have worked hard all their lives, they can finally live with their sons and daughters-in-law and enjoy Qingfu, and when their children are born, they can also help them take care of the children and reduce their burden a little, but they don't know that they are often the ones who cause trouble.
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Because these mothers-in-law may feel very lonely living alone, they want to live with their sons, just to be able to take care of them more.
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Because the mother-in-law will feel that her son is her own, and if she lives with them, she can see them all the time, and she can also help them take care of their lives.
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Many traditional cultures believe that children should live independently from their parents after they become adults, which is an inevitable trend of social development. However, in some regions and families, parents want their sons to live with them after marriage, a phenomenon known as "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cohabitation". This phenomenon can be analysed from a cultural, social and psychological perspective.
1. Cultural aspects 1The influence of traditional concepts In many folk traditions in China, the family is a group, and the son should share the life for his parents when he becomes an adult, and the parents can also have a support in their old age; At the same time, in traditional culture, the son is an important figure in the continuation of the family and needs to take responsibility for the succession. Therefore, parents want their sons and daughters-in-law to live together in order to take better care of them and the family.
2.Practical considerationsIn some rural areas, it is very difficult for the elderly to live alone and need to be cared for by their children. Because the daughter is married, it is inconvenient to take care of her parents.
Therefore, parents want their sons to be able to live with them so that they can take better care of them and their families. 2. Social aspects 1Housing resources are scarce As the urban population grows, housing resources become more and more scarce.
In the city, it is not easy for many families to have a separate house, and the son lives with his parents after marriage, which can save housing resources and better play the role of family gathering. 2.With the development of society and the continuous improvement of material and cultural levels, people have gradually begun to pay attention to the quality of family life.
In this context, parents want their son and daughter-in-law to live together, share housework, take care of the family together, and make family life more comfortable and warm. 3. Psychological aspects 1The need for affectionParents want their sons to be able to live with them out of the need for affection.
Older people are often lonely and need to be accompanied and cared for by loved ones. As a son, in order to meet the needs of his parents, he is willing to live with his parents and spend the rest of his life together. 2.
Emotional Relationships between Children The emotional relationship between children is very close, and the relationship between sons and mothers is especially delicate. Some parents believe that if their son does not live with them after marriage, it means losing his son's love and support. Therefore, in some cases, parents desperately want their sons and daughters-in-law to live together in order to maintain the integrity and stability of the family.
To sum up, parents want their sons to live with them after marriage, which is caused by a combination of factors. Whether it is cultural, social or psychological factors, we need to treat them rationally in order to better maintain family relationships and social stability.
It is recommended that women before marriage should understand one thing, it is better not to live with their mother-in-law, and I think that after marriage, they should not live with their mother-in-law. First of all, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are naturally more or less hostile to each other, coupled with the age and generation gap, it is difficult for the two to communicate with equal identities and attitudes. If you live together, there will often be conflicts due to disagreements, and once there are conflicts, it is very easy to lead to disharmonious family relationships. >>>More
If, according to what you said, if the mother-in-law dislikes the daughter-in-law, then the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had better live separately, live separately, and go to see the mother-in-law during the New Year's holiday.
We should give living expenses. Because it was very hard for my mother-in-law to help take care of the children. Give some living expenses so that the elderly can buy some food they like to eat. Mother-in-law has no time to work with her children, so she has no income**, and it is more convenient for mother-in-law to buy food for her children.
can live together, as long as you have a tolerant heart, I believe you can handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
If the mother-in-law has nothing to do, or if there is little to do, you can live with you, after all, there will be friction when you live together, and if the mother-in-law has a lot of things, it is recommended not to be together, and it is not good to quarrel every day.