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1. Empathy: Children are very willful, confrontation with adults, and do not listen to advice, which must make you feel very angry and helpless, right? Let's take a look at how to deal with it.
2. Concretization: Can you give an example of the specific manifestation of your child's willfulness?
Third, the cause of the problem, and specific analysis:
A The child craves more attention: It may be that the parents lack the necessary attention as the child grows up, and the child wants to cause trouble through willful behavior, so that the parent can care about his state.
Solution: Increase the time spent with the child, play or entertain with the child, and pay more attention to the details of the child's life and learning to meet the child's reasonable attention needs.
b Children crave affirmation and encouragement: Could it be that parents usually affirm and praise their children too little and criticize and blame them too much? Children want their self-worth to be recognized and appreciated by their parents, which is a very normal and reasonable psychological need.
If you can't get it for a long time, you will use rebellious, confrontational, and stubborn behavior to maintain your sense of worth and self-esteem.
Solution: Carefully observe the child's behavior, find out his strengths and good performance, and give timely affirmation and encouragement. For example, "You have improved a lot in this exam, and I noticed that it is because of your recent hard work and seriousness!" "You're very attentive and efficient in your homework now! ”
c The child craves the necessary rights and freedoms: Is it possible that the parents ignore the need for the child to make his own decisions and demand that the child obey the adult's arrangement in everything? As children grow older, they need to practice making their own choices and decisions.
Without reasonable choice and freedom, children tend to exhibit willful, confrontational behavior.
Solution: Gradually let go within a reasonable and tolerable range of consequences, and try to let children make their own judgments, choices, and decisions, and bear the natural consequences. This is a very important process for the child's real development.
When some small decisions are made and the children are allowed to do it, and the children's rights and freedom needs are reasonably satisfied, when they encounter more important decisions, the children will not be easily willful, causing serious consequences.
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ADHD in children, also known as ADHD in children, is a common abnormal behavior in children, which is mainly manifested as difficulty concentrating, short attention, excessive activities, and emotional impulsivity, which affect academic performance. It is difficult to get along with people at home and school, and it is difficult for parents and teachers to get along in daily life.
ADHD**.
First, the education method ** ADHD in children.
1.First of all, parents should understand the characteristics of ADHD and do not be as strict as normal children are required of hyperactive children. As long as some hyperactivity can be controlled within a range that is not too excessive. In short, it should not be too harsh.
2.Positive guidance for your child. For some children who are too active, positive guidance should be given so that their excessive energy can be brought into play.
Parents and teachers should organize more participation in a variety of sports activities, such as running, playing ball, climbing, long jump, etc., and families with conditions should arrange for them to do some outdoor activities, so that they can release their excessive energy. However, when arranging for them to carry out activities, they should pay attention to safety and avoid dangers.
3.Strengthen the cultivation of concentration and attention in children with ADHD. You can start by reading books and listening to stories, gradually extend the time your child's concentration, or arrange your child with ADHD in a row of seats in the classroom to facilitate the teacher's supervision and guidance during class.
If there is an improvement performance, it should be praised and encouraged in time to facilitate reinforcement.
4.Cultivate regular habits in your child's life. Eat and drink regularly and get enough sleep. Do not accommodate children's interests, for example, let them watch movies until late at night if they like to watch them, so as to affect their sleep, etc.
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ADHD in children, also known as attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) or mild brain dysfunction syndrome, is a common behavioral disorder in childrenThese children have normal or basically normal intelligence, but they have learning, behavioral, and emotional deficits, which are mainly manifested as inattention, short attention, excessive activities, impulsive emotions, generally poor academic performance, and difficulty getting along with others at home and school.
ADHD**.
1. Psychology**. There are two main ways: behavioral and cognitive-behavioral. Patients have poor peer relationships, aggressive language and behavior towards others, and poor self-control.
2. Drugs**. Medications can improve attention deficits, reduce activity levels, and improve academic performance to some extent.
3. Behavior management and education. Teachers and parents need effective behavior management and psychoeducation tailored to the characteristics of the patients.
4. Education and training for parents. Provide parents with a good supportive environment, so that they can learn the skills to solve family problems, learn to work with their children to make clear reward and punishment agreements, effectively avoid conflicts and conflicts with their children, and master the correct use of positive reinforcement to encourage children's good behavior.
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In order to enable parents to further understand "ADHD and Tourette's Syndrome in Children", there are three points that can help parents correctly understand and treat children's hyperactivity, tics, learning difficulties, impulsiveness and willfulness. One. "ADHD" is different from being active and naughty It is a child's nature to be active and naughty, but if your child is significantly more physically active than children of the same age, and has poor self-control and cannot calm down, you should be alert to whether your child has "ADHD".
Studies have found that there are four essential differences between "ADHD" and children's naughtiness: In terms of attention, naughty children can concentrate on things they are interested in and hate other people's interference, while children with ADHD are absent-minded and unable to start and finish everything they play; In terms of self-control, naughty children can restrain themselves and can sit quietly in unfamiliar environments and special requirements, while children with ADHD cannot sit still at all; In terms of behavioral activities, the hyperactive behaviors of naughty children generally have a reason and purpose, while the behaviors of children with ADHD are mostly impulsive and lack of purpose. In terms of physiology, naughty children have quick thinking, coordinated movements, and no memory recognition defects, while children with ADHD have obvious deficiencies. Two.
"ADHD" doesn't always have to be hyperactive Some parents think that "ADHD" is a sign of hyperactivity, but in fact, some children with ADHD don't show signs of hyperactivity. They usually don't move much, they look very quiet, but their academic performance is always not up, they are "smart and stupid children" in the eyes of teachers, and the outstanding performance is inattention, easy to wander, learning difficulties, procrastination, carelessness, over time, easy to produce low self-esteem, negative psychology, disgust with school, truancy, lying and other behaviors. For this reason, some children who are not hyperactive may also have "ADHD", which should be noted by parents.
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Naughty and good! In the process of moving, it means that his movements will be more sensitive, and his brain will also develop very well. The brain is divided into two areas, these two regions are related to each other, when the child moves faster and more sensitive, his brain will be more responsive, and the child will be more intelligent.
Although the child loves to move and makes a mess in the house, parents should not criticize the child and do not stop him, otherwise his smart talent will be driven away.
<> naughty children are more confident and can express themselves in front of others.
A naughty child is generally more confident, he likes to do things in front of others to attract the attention of adults, and he also wants to be praised by adults. When the child expresses himself, parents need to praise the child with rent and cultivate the child's self-confidence, so that he will grow up more confident, smarter, and do everything more smoothly. Parents don't think their children's performances are not good-looking, so they praise other children.
Although the child is still young, he also has self-esteem, and parents should not discourage the child's confidence.
Children who are naughty and naughty are more curious.
Some children are very fond of dismantling things, which may be an act of destruction in the eyes of parents, but it is better for parents not to stop them. A child's love of dismantling things means that he is more curious, likes to explore, and wants to know the answer, so that his brain will keep running and he will be smarter. Parents should not stop their children from exploring, you can guide and explain appropriately on the side to help your child complete.
Naughty children are generally very smart, parents don't think it's a stinky problem, what you have to do is to induce the child on the side, let the child develop self-confidence, try to find the answer.
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If the child is naughty, parents must be patient in education, and usually need to cultivate children's interests and hobbies. You can go to some places where the environment can attract children, and use the colorful world outside the dust wheel to attract children's attention and credibility.
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If the child is more naughty, you can let the child help clean up and do housework, which can not only punish the child, but also cultivate the child's hands-on ability. Generally speaking, children don't like to clean up and do housework, so if you let children do housework, it will often be more profound, and in the future, in order to do less housework, they will be obedient and obedient.
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Children are more naughty, what guidance? Then the situation does not recommend the use of violence, but also to fight the method. You can go, slowly like all aspects, the right aspects to guide, such as praise, Ji Li Liang jujube or praise the slag.
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1. Respect the child's nature, appreciate the child's liveliness, and at the same time formulate more physical and boring sports according to this characteristic, so that the child can carry out activities, give a wider space, and give full play to the characteristics of the collapse.
2. Timely guidance, from active to appropriate activities and calm, the guidance process must be gradual, such as from 10 minutes to half an hour of gradual transition. Active children can usually follow the rules, but only if they design relatively fun games and rewards that are encouraging.
3. Establish a sense of rules, there must be rules, and you need to tell your children in advance the rules you have formulated and how to abide by them. If you can't complete the rules or break the rules, there must be appropriate punishments, so that active children can gradually develop the function of recognizing the rules, and can gradually restrain their own behavior, not only to feel their own feelings, not only to satisfy their own enthusiasm, but also to take into account the feelings of others and the consciousness of the team.
4. If some children do belong to ADHD, they need more care from their parents at this time, and even need to seek professional psychologists and psychological counseling to train them for attention and self-confidence. In severe cases, pharmacological intervention is also required, and a psychiatrist is required to adjust the medication according to the child's condition**.
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1. Moderate exercise: Parents need to fully respect their children's play needs and provide children with sports that are suitable for their age, such as playing basketball, kicking balls, table tennis, etc., so that children can vent their excess energy, so as to change the naughty and active character of children. However, it is necessary to pay attention to the safety protection during sports to avoid accidents;
2. Cultivate observation ability and correct cognition: guide children to pay attention to the essentials and methods of sports in play or sports, so that children can gradually master the skills of sports and play, not just blindly running and jumping, which can not only expand children's observation ability, but also give full play to children's nature. At the same time, it is also necessary to cultivate the child's correct cognition, if the child is too stubborn, stop the child's inappropriate behavior in time, and tell what the bad consequences and effects will be, gradually correct the child's behavior, so that the child can slowly form a correct cognition;
3. Make rules for children to follow: It is right to tell children to follow the rules, and if they do not follow the rules, they will be punished, such as not being able to take toys for 20 minutes. In this way, children can gradually establish a sense of abiding by the rules, so as to restrain their own excessive naughtiness and other inappropriate behaviors;
4. Do a good job in psychological education: If the child makes a mistake because of naughty and aggressiveness, parents should not scold too much, and can patiently explain the reason to the child. If the child is excluded or frustrated because of naughty and active group activities, parents should work with the child to find ways to face and solve it correctly, so that the child can maintain a positive attitude from the psychological level and avoid emotional blows and adverse effects.
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I also know a little bit about the child who complains about this parent, and I often hear complaints from other parents and classmates, this child always wants to be the boss, often bullies classmates for no reason, asks classmates to help him do things, and even the fruits and milk brought by classmates, as long as he wants, others have to give him for free.
One weekend my son was at home, I saw a big black green on his calf, how to ask vaguely refused to say what the reason was, my heart was painful and anxious, I asked the life teacher to know which naughty child kicked it, the teacher said that the two children were fighting, the other party was anxious and kicked his son, the teacher has criticized the education of the child, and has been saying sorry, saying that she didn't work well to make our parents worry, since the teacher handled it properly, We can only teach our son to try to avoid conflicts with his classmates, to do something wrong, whether intentionally or not, we must apologize first, not to let the trivial things intensify, to learn to be tolerant, strict with ourselves and lenient with others.
Later, I learned some of the child's situation, the child who was bullied early in the rent, began to tell the teacher, the teacher would know how to reason with emotion, and reasoned with him, and contacted his parents to cooperate with persuasion and education, and as a result, he intensified his efforts to those children who told the teacher. The latter report to see the teacher there is no effect, some children will also complain to their parents, the child's parents come forward, nothing more than to reflect with the teacher first or directly contact the other party's parents, the teacher criticizes the education of the parents in the problem to the parents, the child's parents' education method, is also very extreme, often hear parents beat the child scarred, naughty children back to school to retaliate against the complaining classmates, it has caused a vicious circle, over time, even if the classmates are bullied by him, I endured it silently.
In fact, I have always disagreed with parents mediating conflicts between children. Children study, eat and live in school, it is inevitable that there will be some such and such small frictions and small collisions, and there will sometimes be contradictions between our adult interactions, let alone primary school students.
If parents get involved in the conflict between their children, it is not only not conducive to the correction of their children's shortcomings, but also may mislead them into the wrong way to solve them. Primary school students at this age are often very cautious, often because of some trivial things, accidentally touched, inadvertently stepped on other people's feet, inadvertently said other people's shortcomings and other trivial things, it is best to let children face and solve by themselves.
I analyzed with the parent, for these small problems between the children and blind birds, the child sometimes talks to the parents, maybe it is a coquette, or casually talking, it must be to let the parents to solve, very often the children do not care about each other, and after a while they play together again, as if nothing happened, if the parents intervene to find the teacher to find the parents, the small problem is complicated.
We as parents should establish a correct outlook on life for our children from an early age, teach them to do the right education and guidance for their children, so that they can learn to treat each other sincerely with their classmates, learn to help each other, and be willing to suffer losses in life and work.
Children are particularly naughty, should guide him well, tell him should not be so naughty, should learn well, in fact, naughty is the nature of children, as long as they do not do things out of line, adults try to restrain it.
It's good for children to be naughty, it's so natural, just guide, no need to stop.
The child is naughty and active, the reason is because of the child's own personality, should be paid attention to, usually should train the child's attention, can let him form a reading habit, so that he can sit still, get rid of the naughty and active habit.
It is a child's nature to be active and naughty, but if your child is significantly more physically active than children of the same age, and has poor self-control and cannot calm down, you should be alert to whether your child has "ADHD".
How old are you? Every stage of a child's development has his own developmental characteristics.