How to guide a child who is particularly naughty and mischievous

How old are you? Every stage of a child's development has his own developmental characteristics.

1. Talk to your child and ask him why he chose this naughty child as a friend. What is the real situation of two people playing together and dating? If this child and your child don't learn well, then don't go near him again.

Explain the truth clearly to your child, let the child take the initiative to stay away from him, and don't play with him. Because as a parent, you can't be by your child's side all the time, only if the child understands the reason and takes action on his own can stop this matter.

2. In fact, many naughty and disobedient children may just be disobedient and do not study well, and they may have certain specialties in other aspects. For example, some children are very good at sports, drawing, etc.

Your child may be envious of one of his specialties when he is with him. If you are not the kind of child with poor quality, it is actually beneficial to play and be friends with such a special child.

In the face of some naughty and mischievous Du children, we must pay more attention not to beat and scold, their inner dao hearts are often more thirsty.

I hope to be affirmed, tolerated and praised.

For those quilts who have made mistakes or even sinned, hopeful encouragement will get them back on the sails of life.

Make two things clear: care should be invisible, and praise should be known to as many people as possible.

First of all, care for others, and make them feel that they are genuinely caring for them. Therefore, you must not say anything like "I am taking care of you, so I am so good to you" and "I am giving you face, I am like this", which will make the child feel that you are only giving charity and not really caring about him, so parents will find that no matter how good they are to him, the child seems to be unappreciative, because he feels that he still does not get the "sincere harmony" he expects.

Secondly, praise should be done in public as much as possible, which will greatly increase the child's self-esteem, and criticism should be known only to the child himself, otherwise it will greatly hit the child's self-confidence.

Children with age.

Growth is becoming more and more naughty, as parents, what kind of methods should we use to make the naughty children more obedient?

Encourage your childYou can motivate your child by saying a few words, for example, by comparing them to encourage his progress, such as: "Look, other children can do it, you are not worse than them at all, you can do it better than them, right?" ”

Communication is the best wayParents put down the high shelf, really enter the child's heart, be friends with the child, chat as a friend, and communicate harmoniously, so that there will be unexpected gains.

3. Let children learn to solve problems on their ownIt can help children analyze the right and wrong of what they do and understand their views on things, so as to help children learn to handle interpersonal relationships correctly and improve their ability to analyze and solve problems.

On the road of raising children, we learn to be wise parents together and accompany children to grow together.

1.What is the original intention of figuring out the child's mischievous behavior? Some children are to attract the attention of parents, and now many parents only look at their mobile phones and do not look at their children, or they are too busy with work and have too little time to spend with their children; Some children are by nature, that is, lively temperament, or express in their own way, but in the eyes of adults is unacceptable, for such children or to figure out what they are thinking in their little heads, let's "prescribe the right medicine".

The child will have a lot of whimsical ideas, and the parents can't understand it, but maybe he is the future Edison, Newton, and the parents should guide the children. My child is like this, when he was two and a half years old, I had something that I couldn't solve, the kind that I couldn't solve for a long time, and I just nagged out, and he looked at me, and then he said what he thought, and as soon as I heard his thoughts, my eyes lit up instantly, and the problem was solved. This kid gave me a lot of surprises.

2.For children whose family education is not good, the first point is to say "no" to the child, let him know that his behavior or words have caused trouble or other negative effects to others; The second point is to express your dissatisfaction positively to the parents of the child, even if the child's parents do not strengthen the education of the child, their child will slowly reduce the influence on you. My child is like this, the child is very willing to come to my house to play, at first OK, and then my house as his home, at 11 o'clock at night do not go back to their own home, parents do not call back, eat and drink at my house, take my child's toys and say that it is his toys, almost every day to my house, we have a lot of things because of his visit and can not be carried out, almost two weeks later I can't stand it, directly with his parents said that the child is going to primary school, we have to teach the child some basic knowledge of language, mathematics, English, If you don't get a good grade in the primary school interview, you can't get a good class, and you will have to play on Saturday or Sunday in the future.

The effect is that the child is restrained by the parents, and only comes on Saturdays and Sundays, and I usually invite them out of the house to play in the community.

Children are naughty is an external appearance of bai's flexible mind, and many people have a misunderstanding that naughty children are always.

Wang Anshi (December 18, 1021, May 21, 1086), the name Jiefu, the name Banshan, Han nationality, Linchuan (now Linchuan District, Fuzhou City, Jiangxi), a famous thinker, politician, writer, and reformer in the Northern Song Dynasty.

In the second year of Qingli (1042), Wang Anshi Jinshi and the first. He has successively served as the judge of Yangzhou, the magistrate of Yinxian County, and the general judge of Shuzhou, and has made remarkable achievements. In the second year of Xining (1069), he served as the governor of the council, and the following year he visited the prime minister and presided over the law change.

Due to the opposition of the old faction, Xining resigned in the seventh year (1074). A year later, Song Shenzong used it again, resigned and retired to Jiangning. In the first year of Yuanyou (1086), the conservatives gained power, the new laws were abolished, and he died of illness in Zhongshan (now Nanjing, Jiangsu), nicknamed "Wen", so he was called Wang Wengong.

Wang Anshi devoted himself to the study of scriptures, wrote books and lectures, and was known as "Confucianism", created "Jinggong New Learning", and promoted the formation of the Song Dynasty's doubtful scriptures and ancient learning style. Philosophically, he used the "Five Elements Theory" to explain the generation of the universe, which enriched and developed the ancient Chinese simple materialist thought. His philosophical proposition "dividing the old with the new" pushed ancient Chinese dialectics to a new level.

Wang Anshi has outstanding achievements in literature. His prose arguments are clear, logical and convincing, and give full play to the practical function of ancient texts. The short essay is concise and concise, short and concise, and is ranked among the "Eight Masters of the Tang and Song Dynasties". His poems "learn Du Deqi thin and hard", good at reasoning and rhetoric, in his later years, the poetry style is subtle and deep, deep and unhurried, with the style of Fengshen Yuanyun in the Northern Song Dynasty poetry circle of its own, known as "Wang Jing Gongti".

There are "Wang Linchuan Collection", "Linchuan Collection" and so on.

1. Ease your emotions and learn to control your emotions instead of being led by emotions, this is the first lesson you have to learn. Try to endure your anger and lower the tone of your voice when talking to your child, and your child will seriously say what he thinks, which is the best way. Maybe behind the scenes, there will be a starting point that moves you.

2. Parents always habitually think that their children's childish behavior is wrong, and thus think of the bad side of the child, think that the child's starting point is bad, and the tone will convey distrust of the child, and the child can fully feel the doubts from the parents.

3. Parents should be curious about their children's behavior, and when they see their children doing things that make them angry, they should first give their children full trust, and then ask their children about the reasons for the matter; Secondly, we should give more care and attention to our children.

4. When a child makes a mistake, it is not good to yell, the child is frightened by you, and his head is full of fear, and he has no heart to think about why he is wrong. However, when you talk to your child in a calm tone and in a lower tone, your child will not have so much fear of you and will be able to express his heart better.

5. However, parents should also pay attention to the fact that the child's fear of you is not formed overnight, and the attitude towards the child is too tough, and the educational methods are simple and rude, which will make the child afraid of you, and the parent-child communication in this state is more difficult.

6. We attach importance to children's education, children's food, clothing, housing and transportation, and children's interest cultivation, but we often ignore children's feelings intentionally or unintentionally.

7. Don't ask your child from the perspective of an adult, listen to your child's inner thoughts, and see his efforts and growth, which is also something that every parent must learn to do.

1. Establish an appropriate reward and punishment system: We can carry out three chapters of the law with children, and use what children are interested in to contain them. So for the child's overly naughty behavior, you can use something that the child likes to deal with him.

For example, a child who likes to play with the ball, then control the time and number of times he plays with the ball after he is naughty, which will make him understand that his naughty behavior will make him lose some time for the things he likes, let him know that his behavior can bring certain consequences, and learn to take this responsibility from an early age. Parents should establish an appropriate reward and punishment system, praise the child when he does well, criticize the child when he does not do it right, punish him with what he likes, and have more control over the child.

2. Teach children to learn to be calm: some of the child's naughty behaviors, many times are too energetic, in ordinary life, you can use picture book reading, role playing, playing games, etc., so that children understand that their own behavior will cause trouble to others, so that children can experience the feelings of others trouble. If your child has done something mischievous, you can give him time to think about whether his behavior is appropriate or not.

Many of your child's behaviors are impulsive and unconsidered. Therefore, you can give your child a separate place to think quietly, parents can establish a certain punishment area, so that the child understands that if he makes a mistake, he will go to the punishment area to calm down, and he will be punished, and the child has a stronger sense of rules, thinks by himself, and can also exercise the child's thinking ability.

3. Empathy method: Children are naughty and mischievous will definitely cause certain consequences, and parents are often the experience of the consequences, so they can give children the opportunity to experience the troublesome consequences of their behavior. If your child gets water all over the house, teach him or her to clean up the mess on his own.

Let him understand that his actions will bring very troublesome consequences, and it will take time and energy for others to deal with them, the world does not revolve around him, everyone has their own responsibilities and obligations, and they must understand the feelings of others. In this way, the child will be able to better adjust his behavior. And after the child is naughty, parents should not hide their children's mistakes, but let the children understand that everyone is equal and their own mistakes should be borne by themselves.

4. Role model: Parents are the best role models for children, in life, parents can set a good example for their children, subtly affect their children's words and deeds, first of all, let children believe in their own example, and take it as their own goal, this goal can be parents, can also be older brothers and sisters. When the child behaves like the role model, parents should give him a certain amount of moral reward and support, give him a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction, understand that he can be as good as the role model, and slowly get closer to the role model.

Educate children to grasp the scale, not too strict, not too spoiled, scientific parenting methods, will make children grow up happily, but also enhance the relationship between parents and children.