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In what areas is it better for children to grow up that they are lazy? Nowadays, parents are very fond of their children, and they take an arranged attitude towards everything for their children, but they don't know that such doting behavior may lead to children becoming more and more dependent on their parents, thus lacking a sense of responsibility and independence. In fact, sometimes the lazier a parent is in certain aspects, the better it is for the child's development.

At present, many families have private cars, so children are usually picked up by their parents when they go to and from school, so that in the long run, children will feel that there are parents in the morning, so they have been staying up late, can not produce good work and rest time, and will continue to produce the situation of over-reliance on parents. In fact, it is best for parents to let their children go to bed on time at night, ensure that the next morning, establish a good work and rest habits, and then walk to school by themselves the next day, which can not only strengthen exercise, but also develop good habits that do not depend on others.

Many parents will be by their children's side when they are doing their homework, and when their children encounter problems, they will ask their parents instead of thinking independently, which is not conducive to shaping good learning habits. It is suggested that parents should not be too diligent in guiding their children's learning, but learn to find out what their children can do, what is conducive to learning to think and can let go, and what is not up to his ability and needs help. Tell children that learning is their own business, and that it is not easy to think diligently when they encounter problems that they can't do, and then ask parents where to find information.

For example, if your child does not know what a new word means, ask your child to look up the dictionary radically.

Some parents nagged endlessly all day long in order to urge their children to learn and train. But I don't know that it is not the same thing for children to listen to too many words repeatedly. Diligent cultural education is not necessarily reasonable, it depends on what aspects of diligence.

If you are diligent in nagging and arguing, it will not be effective; If you are diligent in finding ways and preventive measures, and can implement them reasonably, it is worth learning.

If you are diligent in helping your child do things, or even take care of it, your child will be dependent and passive, and it will be difficult to shape your sense of responsibility. Whatever the child can do, the parents will not help. For example, when the child's room is messy, remind him that it is time to tidy up, and the parents can only give a little specific guidance on the side.

Children often have to go home to prepare various materials in advance for science and technology classes, and they have to prepare themselves in advance; What to buy for him to buy for him to go to the store and buy it himself, so as to hone his ability to deal with people; To collect a sample, take him out into the field, and watch him do it himself.

1.Lazy pick-up and drop-off Many families now have private cars, so parents often pick up and drop off their children to and from school. After a long time, the child will feel that his parents will send them in the morning anyway, so he always goes to bed late.

2: Lazy reading Many parents will accompany their children when they are doing homework. When children encounter problems, they will ask their parents for help instead of thinking first, which is not conducive to developing good study habits.

It is recommended that parents should not be too careful in guiding their children's learning, and learn to discover what their children can do, which is conducive to independent thinking and can let go, and which is beyond their ability and needs help.

1.If you don't know the question, read it carefully, think about it seriously, don't turn the book, don't call Mom!

2.Do your own thing, don't call Mom! If the child can comply with the above rules, then the mother does not know how much easier.

The reason why mother's love is great is because mother's love is like a circle, there is no beginning and no end, for the sake of their children, do their best to protect and care.

However, if the mother is too attentive and hard in everything, the child will not have a chance to grow, so that the mother's love may become an ellipse, although there is no beginning and no end, but it cannot be "complete".

Therefore, if you want to educate your children well, mothers should always remind themselves not to be overly diligent and make themselves "lazy" in these three aspects, so that children can grow better and be better in the future!

Lazy mothers are more likely to raise good children, because mothers have lazy personalities, which can cultivate children's independence and allow children to develop good living habits.

It is easier for lazy mothers to raise good children, because some mothers can cultivate their children's independence after being lazy, and the children themselves will become very diligent.

Lazy mothers wait to raise children, because the mother's character is fierce and lazy, maybe cultivate the child's independent talent, or maybe the child develops a livelihood.

Lazy mothers are more idle to raise good children, because some mothers are lazy and can cultivate their children's independence in the future, and the children themselves will become very diligent.

I don't know if you have noticed, in a family, if the parents are lazy, the children will be more diligent; On the contrary, if the parents are very diligent, the children will not want to do anything and will be lazy. Many parents will complain that they are so diligent, why are their children so lazy? That's because you're so diligent!

A mother who is too diligent will definitely raise a lazy child, and it will definitely be difficult to make a profit in the future. Mothers want their children to grow up and develop well in the future, so it's best to be "lazy"!

In real life, we often see moms busy at home and have no free time. And the husband and children are lying comfortably on the sofa, one playing with their mobile phones, the other watching TV, indifferent to their mother's busyness. The mother's diligence not only raised another lazy son, but also raised a lazy husband.

And, even if you're half tired to death, you won't get gratitude and sympathy, because they're used to it. If you're not busy on a day, they still don't think it's normal!

Therefore, mothers must also be "lazy" when thinking about themselves. In daily life, mothers can try to do these three things:

1. Let the child's affairs be done by himself.

Allowing children to organize their school bags for school every day, prepare clothes for the next morning, and complete homework assigned by school on their own, etc., are all very good for developing children's independence. Allowing children to do their own things will develop a sense of responsibility on the one hand, and on the other hand, when the child has completed these things, he will have a sense of accomplishment and become more confident. Many mothers feel that their children are unreliable in doing anything, and they always overstep their responsibilities and do everything themselves, which will cause their children's dependence and dampen their children's enthusiasm.

By doing this, the mother makes herself more tired and harms the child on the other.

2. Train children to do housework.

For example, when the mother is cooking, she can let the child wash the vegetables, peel the garlic, etc., and help herself; After the clothes are washed, you can also let the child take them out to dry and put away the clothes; You can also let your child sweep and mop the floor. In short, all the chores that the child can do can be done. Mom, don't think that the child can't do it at such a young age, in fact, the child's ability also depends on the cultivation of the parents.

You think he can't do it, and then you don't let him do it, and in the end he really can't do anything and becomes a real lazy person.

In addition, the mother let the child do housework, on the one hand, it exercises the child's hands-on ability and self-care ability, on the other hand, it also exercises the child's thinking ability, and also allows the child to understand the mother's hard work, and will respect the mother's labor more.

3. Let him make his own decisions about the child's affairs, and his mother will intervene less.

Mother's mouth should be lazy, and children often need to choose in their lives, at this time mothers should not interject and let the children decide for themselves. This can make children more responsible and know how to take responsibility for their actions from an early age. When they go out into society in the future, they will also become more responsible and more likely to gain the trust of others!

Every child's growth has a great relationship with the education of parents, good education methods can promote the healthy growth of children, and turn him into a better person, but often parents do not properly educate children, but it is possible for children to grow into the person that parents do not want to become.

Case: Many parents in China always want to send the best to their children because of their own experience, and always think that if they do more for their children, the children will do less, and the children will be happier.

Hengheng is a "lucky person", the mother is very careful, takes care of her son meticulously, and takes care of everything for the child. Before going to school in the morning, my mother will organize her schoolbag and arrange everything for the day, so that my mother can rest assured. Such a seemingly diligent mother is ruining her child little by little.

This summer, the school organized students to go to the summer camp, Hengheng was stunned, he couldn't take care of his basic life at all, and was ridiculed by his classmates.

I think mothers should be smarter, be "lazy" appropriately, let their children try more on their own, help their families do more, and cultivate their own self-reliance, which can accompany their children for a lifetime.

How to be a "lazy" mother?

1. Let the child do what he can do by himself.

Let the child do what he can do, instill this idea in the child, don't always count on the mother for things that don't need the help of the mother, make up your mind to do it well, and form a habit.

2. Give children small rewards appropriately.

We can't expect the child to be completely conscious, so the mother should encourage more, when the child has done something by himself, give him encouragement and recognition in time, the child's initiative will be higher and higher, and the ability will gradually become stronger, and they will enjoy the feeling of self-reliance.

3. Let your child try more.

There are many things that children do not do very well, and mothers are afraid that children will mess up things, make the house very dirty, and help them, etc., which restricts children. For example, if a child wants to pour a glass of water for an adult, as long as he does not come into contact with boiling water, in the absence of danger, let the child do it by himself, and it doesn't hurt to pour it out. In addition to exercising their abilities, children also learn to take care of others.

4. Mothers put away their glass hearts.

There is nothing wrong with parents loving their children, but some mothers are afraid that their children will be affected and wronged, so they shield their children from all the wind and rain. But children always have to grow up, and after seeing their progress, mothers will really appreciate their persistence. Let the child participate in group activities more, go outside to exercise more, create opportunities for him to live independently, let the child suffer a little by himself, and mothers can be lazy as long as they ensure that the child is safe and healthy.

Some mothers are busy at home, but the babies they bring out are lazy. A lazy mother with a score of 60 can cultivate a child with a score of 90, but a hardworking mother with a score of 90 is likely to only cultivate a child with a score of 60. The more industrious the mother, the lazier the child will be, and this is not just a saying.

Lazy "mothers raise children, generally have the following characteristics, see if there is a say about you:

Compared with the diligent mother, the lazy mother is more important to the child, and will not replace him with everything, but let him have ample opportunities to learn and hone himself. It seems that small things such as cleaning up toys and dressing up are naturally the best for children to learn as quickly as possible; There are also some housework that can be done, and the child will naturally become proficient if he does more. When a child becomes proficient, he will naturally do more and more.

A child's faith is not innate, so where does it come from? It comes from the encouragement of the parents and the satisfaction he achieves in the little things in his daily life. These small things happen to be the most important things that make up a child's confidence.

Children learn to tie buttons and wash dishes ......can let him get a sense of accomplishment from this, coupled with the praise of parents, his confidence will gradually increase. And this is also the confidence that children accumulate from little things and will not be easily destroyed.

A diligent mother who maintains her child tightly and is afraid that her child will suffer a little damage, and this kind of child will always be defeated casually in the face of setbacks; Lazy mother, let the child experience a lot of flavors, I have gained the ability to resist setbacks from the training again and again, whether it is in learning and training or life setbacks can be difficult to go forward, will not easily say to give up.

It is often said that boys nowadays are not very responsible, in part because their parents are too pampered. The fact that the child does nothing at home and that his parents revolve around him will give him a sense of pride, but he likes to ask for it and not to invest in it. This type of person also likes to be used to being used to by others everywhere in the relationship, and once they encounter problems, they will only dodge, and it is not easy to take responsibility.

And the boy who is educated by the lazy mother's culture, he has the courage to assume due obligations in his daily life, and his sense of responsibility for opening up to the outside world will be very poor. Naturally, "lazy" mothers do not mean these mothers who lie flat at home all day long and do nothing, but understand that they are moderately lazy. For example, if you are lazy, you are not easy to talk to your child often; The hands are lazy, and the wrong child does everything instead, but lets him do his own things.