Why do I always want to be understood?

This is normal, because everyone needs the understanding and support of others, and vent the bad emotions in their hearts, especially when the parents at home cannot understand and support themselves, and there are a lot of grievances, anger or sadness in their hearts, even the feeling of happiness also needs to be shared with you. When family doesn't allow you to vent well, you tend to seek out friends or lovers. You don't need to help anything else, just sit down and listen to you carefully, and after you say it, you will feel very comfortable, and then face life with ease.

What you need is respect, empathy, and positive attention.

It's normal. Such objects can be found online, as well as in reality. If you look for something on the Internet, you have talked about it, and then you don't contact it anymore, you will feel more comfortable, and it is safer for people you don't know at all.

You can either find a trustworthy friend you know in reality, but you need to be cautious when choosing people.

The best thing to do is to talk to your parents.

Supporting the 2nd floor, this need is normal and necessary for everyone, but the problem is that the situation that you can't achieve now will cause some problems. I don't know if you know sandbox games? You can play games about this, talk to yourself, communicate with your heart, 、、、 your heart

A lot of people say I want to do something, but they have concerns. When it comes to real change, there are always a few people around you who are holding back, maybe your relatives, your friends, or the people around you. That's when you feel very lonely, and sometimes you think, 'Is it right or wrong for me to do this?'

It will be very tangled, in fact, this is your inner self-confidence, longing to be understood, at this time you may just want an affirmation.

A lot of times we always want others to understand you, and there are two kinds of understanding, one is that we are not sure about something, and the second is when we do something wrong. A lot of times when we do something wrong, we always make excuses and say, oops, I'm a newbie, I hope you understand. At this point, understanding becomes an excuse for imperfection.

But if you really use other people's understanding as a shield for your own imperfection, it would be a big mistake...To say something unpleasant, the world is bustling, everyone is bustling for profit, and what you like is always the result, who has the kung fu to understand you. And the other is to feel that I am not recognized, I am obviously doing a very good and very meaningful thing, why do you always disapprove of me, all you need is an affirmation, but I think this affirmation needs more affirmation from yourself.

Why do we always want to be approved by others? If we go back to the past, we humans were originally social animals, in primitive society, not getting the recognition of the people around us means danger, a person who is out of the group can be eaten by ferocious animals at any time, maybe now we need the recognition of others is only the genes of ancient times at work.

In fact, many opportunities have slipped away from me, as Li Ka-shing said, if 80% of people recognize this industry, then I will not do it. But if 20% approve and 80% don't, I'll do it. When we think it's right, and everyone else thinks it's right, it's "right nonsense", and if we think it's right and others think it's not, then it makes a lot of sense to stick to it.

As the old saying goes, "gentlemen are harmonious but different", it means that a gentleman can maintain a harmonious and friendly relationship with others in interpersonal communication, but he does not have to agree with each other in his views on specific issues; True friends should seek consensus by exchanging opinions and communicating ideas; Even if you can't unify your thoughts for the time being, there will be no verbal disputes that hurt your harmony, and gentlemen's friendships do not seek consistency everywhere and all the time; On the contrary, tolerate the other party's independent opinions, and do not conceal the different views of self-suspicion and self-reliance, only in this way can it be regarded as sincere and sincere.

In life, everyone only has one time, who doesn't want to live a relaxed and happy life? If you live in this noisy world, we need to measure our own lives by other people's standards, natural life will not be easy, you blindly care about yourself in the eyes of others, in fact, it is really better to live your own life seriously, live from.

Finally, I would like to send you a word, don't be afraid, don't regret, don't live in other people's mouths, work hard to get gains, and a happy life is spelled out with your own hands.

Part 1: Understanding Communication.

The meaning of communication.

Six Meanings of Effective Communication in Business.

The six channels of communication and the principles of choosing communication channels at work.

Communication Models for Great Companies: Four Common Misunderstandings in Motorola & Toyota Communication.

There are three factors that affect communication.

Five criteria for evaluating the effectiveness of communication.

Case Study: Born from the Heart & The Mouth is the Gateway to the Heart.

One of the mentalities that communication should have - respect, understanding, care, trust, appreciation, and communication, and the second mentality that communication should have - luminous body, not a black hole.

The fourth mindset that communication should have - focus on the inside or focus on the outside communication - communicating with people who are difficult to communicate with is the best time to improve our communication skills.

Case Study: Seeing the Positive and Negative Effects of Mindset on Communication from a Case Part 3 Ten points of human nature to understand for effective communication.

People want to be approved.

People want to be seen as good as a starting point.

People want to have something in common.

If you want to handle things well, you must first deal with your mood.

Emotional Account: A deposit is required to be withdrawn.

There are two main motivations for people to be willing to take action: the pursuit of happiness and the avoidance of painFive levels of human nature: people want to appreciate at a high level, and criticize at a low level, what you give may not be what the other person wants.

Focus on what you want.

Different personalities, different communication.

Case Exercise: From ten cases, experience the wisdom of humanity in communication.

Of course, we must learn to understand others, and the ideal is mutual. Only by thinking about things from different angles can you think more clearly, so if you want others to think about your problems from your point of view, you must first learn to think from the perspective of others!

Sometimes understanding a person is not saying it is an endorsement! And express it in action! If others don't understand you, don't deliberately let others understand! That can only be reactive and reactive! Learn to understand yourself first!

If you do something that is beneficial to your friends, you will feel that it is meaningful for you to be understood by others, and it will be easy for people with ulterior motives to take advantage of the loopholes. In this way, you will not only be understood by others, but also by others.