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The society is constantly advancing, and now both men and women have their own choices for marriage, free love, free choice, many times the mother-in-law will also choose a son-in-law, and now the woman's parents actually value the son-in-law's three views.
The three views are the same, in fact, what is required is that the husband and wife can seek common ground while reserving differences, and the two will know how to understand and appreciate, for a person who does not understand himself at all, no matter what he says, the other party will sneer. A life is too long, if you don't find a person with the same three views, you really can't live together, such as the outlook on life, money, and life values, in the three concepts are crucial.
The mother-in-law must be interested in the son-in-law's ability, development and character, after all, the older generation is all from the past, and they will see the long-term for the happiness of their daughter in the future. Whether a person's character is good or not, this is also related to the happiness of his daughter, so it must be this boy, good to his daughter, two people have the same three views, this is a necessary factor, so that the contradictions between the two will be less and less.
The concept of money is actually a very important thing, if two people have completely different ideas in terms of money, then in the life after marriage, the face is to quarrel again and again, for example, two people want to travel, the husband chooses 1000 yuan economical, but there may be a lot of shopping stores on the road, the wife prefers 2000 yuan of pure play, if this is the case, the difference between the two people arises, one wants to have fun, one wants to save.
In the eyes of the mother-in-law, the romance of the moon before the flower is definitely not as good as bread, so they often choose to help their daughter strictly check, this person's occupation, education, family situation will be included in the scope of their assessment, of course, the most important thing is the boy's character.
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I think the main thing is to look at the other party's view of love, values, worldview, and most importantly, to see how the other party's character is.
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I'll talk about this kind of problemPersonally, if I stand in the perspective of the woman's parentson, I'll be on the guysoutlook on life, money and education.
Why did you choose these three points, because as an elder, you will actually have worries about entrusting your children to a stranger you have never met. Understanding all three of these perspectives can help me determine whether the other person can take on the responsibilities of the family.
The outlook on life can understand the other person's self, thoughts, and interests.
Everyone will experience different things and past experiences, and it is really because of the reverse shaping of these experiences, so that everyone has their own unique thinking ideas and opinions, and it is necessary to choose a reliable family member. It is necessary to have a detailed understanding of his outlook on life, confirm whether the thoughts of his children and the other party are compatible, whether the interests and hobbies of both parties can help emotional development, and whether there is a possibility of conflict in the future due to the disagreement of life outlook. <>
The view of money can understand the other party's domination of money and financial management concepts.
In family relationships, the dominance of money and the idea of financial management are also very important factors. Big and small things in life need money at their disposal and use. How to use the money you earn, how to store your own money, how to manage the money you save to prevent it from depreciating due to the loss of time.
It is very important for the long-term development of a family. It can also reduce parents' worries about their children. <>
The concept of education can understand the other party's thoughts and cognitions in the cultivation of children and the upbringing of children.
As for the expression and views of education, we can see the other party's methods and cognitions in child training and child raising. With the continuous development of society, education has become more and more important in life. For a family, how to educate and raise children will eventually become an insurmountable issue.
The nurturing and development of a child will largely determine the child's ability to communicate and live in the future. <>
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When the woman's parents want to choose a son-in-law, they should look at the boy's appearance, attitude and demeanor, as well as the boy's family background, including family conditions and family relationships, as well as the boy's career, to see whether his career has prospects for development, and to see whether he is enterprising.
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The first is the man's family concept. Then there is the other family's view of money. There is also the worldview of boys, which is relatively very important, and also affects their daughter's later married life.
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