My parents were very fond of playing cards, and I hated it

Children come home from school and want to study, but playing mahjong at home is very noisy, which will affect the child's reading and learning, and over time it will affect the grades.

Practice what you preach. In life, most parents will say that they have been educated by teachers at school and the party at work, and there is no problem in educating their children. Maybe there are a lot of people who will have a lot of truths, although they all understand the truth, but in practical application, the key is the method, how to implement.

It is a very sad thing to talk on paper and not know how to operate in the actual process.

Ten years of trees, 100 years of people". Educating children and nurturing them is not an overnight thing, it is a long-term action and plan. I think that as a parent, in the process of educating children how to behave, we must first do a good job of words and deeds, which is the most affected thing in children's lives.

Tell children how to do right and what not to do, follow the good path, and teach earnestly, this is the word. Leading by example and influencing children with their own good behavior is teaching by example. In life, it is not difficult for us to see that every parent, whether you are conscious or unconscious, every word you say and everything you do is imperceptibly affecting the healthy growth of our children.

It means that you are a very smart child, love to play cards, love to play bad games, will delay the working time of life, disrupt the rules of life, cause a very bad impact, parents love to play cards son is not able to manage, only manage yourself, do a good job of yourself, good health, study hard, work, in the future can change the family environment.

Proper playing of cards is a time to relax and unwind, but if you love to play cards and indulge in playing cards, it is a bad thing, and it is already a disgusting thing.

Of course, I felt sorry for you for a second. I used to know a classmate, high school, their home is a card game, the year of the college entrance examination in the third year of high school, he was at home except for the New Year, and he was never at home, just because he didn't want to see his parents and card friends playing cards at home. But then he thought it was super good, you know, because he always went out to surf on the grounds that his parents loved to play cards and the family was too noisy, and during the holidays he said that the house was too noisy for studying, and then his parents gave him a lot of money and let him go out to open a house ......Learn!

And then how comfortable he is to stay in a hotel alone.

If you really try, you can't change it, then you can't think of any other way, in fact, there is no good way, I don't want to go home, either I live outside, or I go to a friend's house to live, but this is always bad, so if it's me, I try not to go home, just stay outside, anyway, there is no school to live in, and there is nothing bad about school, I think after this, your parents will feel bad when they see it, maybe they will get rid of this bad habit.

When I was in junior high school, my family was too, because my family opened a store, and when the small bosses in the neighborhood got together and had no business, playing cards was really annoying. At that time, no one seemed to realize that it affected my study and life, and every time they played cards, I stayed in the quietest place, and if I didn't want to stay at home, I would go out and stay.

But if I go back in time, I'll point it out to them. Because they never realize what they are wrong, how much of an impact they have on themselves, and what shadow they have left on themselves. I suggest you tell your parents that you have disturbed your own life and make them understand how bad this is.

The environment at home should be peaceful, and it is really bad to make it the same as a chess and card room. Communication is an effective way to solve problems, and we need to communicate with our parents to make them realize that they are also wrong.

Parents are always talking about other people's children, so if there are no parents reflecting on themselves, will their own behavior affect their children. I hate playing poker in public now, and I get annoyed when I see it. Except for the retirement life of the elderly themselves, playing cards, I don't understand much else.

So when we encounter such a situation, tell our parents and work together to maintain our living environment.

Parents playing cards at home as long as it does not affect themselves excessively, it is possible to see a little, and parents playing cards is not something we can intervene in very well, parents are happy for us is not very harmful, they have their way of entertainment, can be tolerant as much as possible, after all, the happiness of relatives is difficult to buy.

After I left my parents, I gradually found that many times it was my parents who tolerated their willfulness, and I rarely understood my parents, and I was ashamed to be their daughter.

Every time my parents invite a large table of guests, I am very unhappy, and every time I silently think: why do I suffer when they invite their friends...Anyway, there are a lot of complaints.

So that every time I came to visit, I silently hid in my room and did not go out, now I think about myself as a child, and I can understand that my parents will always have their own social and hobbies at this age, and they also have the right to pursue happiness, rather than selfishly wanting to put all their energy on themselves.

Let's talk about another example of my uncle, last time my parents went to my uncle's house with me, when my uncle's son, my cousin took us out to play, and suddenly talked about a thing about my uncle's playing cards, my aunt also said that once she watched her uncle play cards until 12 o'clock in the evening and almost called the police.

I was also shocked by my uncle's obsession with playing cards, but my cousin said that his father has a hobby that is very good, and playing cards is not too much when he is older, he is usually busy with work and can't play cards with his father, and he will not feel lonely when he goes out to have card friends, and his father's happiness and health are the most important thing.

By the way, insert a small overture, my cousin also broke the news that my uncle-in-law played cards and met the upper-class people, once took my uncle-in-law to Shanghai Ruijin Hospital to check his body, he should have lined up for a long time, but he met his uncle's card friend, unexpectedly the card friend is a doctor in this hospital, and he opened the back door directly to his uncle-in-law without queuing, and he also met people from a different world than himself.

Therefore, the communication and entertainment of parents can never be interfered with too much, and supporting them in their pursuit of their own happiness is the greatest tolerance and filial piety as children.

Then don't stay at home.

There are many things you can do outside: for example, when you want to read a book, you can take a book to a quiet park and sit under a tree to read;

When you want to exercise, you can also find a park, run along the winding path, or run to the lake, and sort out your mood while running;

If you want to work, then bring a laptop, find a café, and when you are done, maybe you can have a quiet afternoon tea;

If you want to recharge yourself, then sign up for various classes, and tire yourself into a dog, so you don't have the leisure to care about whether your parents are playing cards at home.

Some people may advise you to get your parents to break this bad habit, but it's really hard. On the other hand, if you look at yourself, do you have some bad problems, and it is difficult for you to change after following you for many years.

When you think about it this way, when you look at the fact that your parents play cards, your attitude will be much more neutral. Parents and children should not get along with each other in the name of always doing good for each other, but to make each other feel comfortable.

If you're particularly unhappy at the time, you should be patient. Because he is our parent, you must not be angry with your parents at this time. Because this will make your parents very faceless in front of other people, if you really can't stand it, you can talk directly to your parents about it, in fact, parents can understand us.

First of all, do you want to stay with your parents for a while, do your filial piety or something, in fact, you have to think about your parents aside from these.

You now have a mobile phone to play, there is a computer to play, they don't know much about this, these older generation's leisure time pastime is nothing more than playing cards, yo-yo bending, the habits developed over the years will not be easily broken, think about when you played games when you were a child and your mother confiscated the game console, what your mood was like.

Parents are old enough to have this hobby, don't deprive them of the only happiness. It is said that playing cards at home must be good friends who know each other and have fun with each other. But if it's really a gambling addiction, that's another story.

So there's no need to dwell on these, just be yourself and make your parents happy.

I love to play cards, which affects you, so it's better to go out and find a job to save yourself from worrying at home.

If you are already working, you can choose to live in a dormitory.

Or go out and rent a house on your own so you can have your own independent space.

It's understandable to play cards once in a while, but if you play cards regularly, you can ask your parents for advice so that they can play cards less often.

I can understand your feelings very much, as a child, of course, I hope that I can grow up in a warm and happy family. But hate is hate, after all, it is parents, we can only accept this fact and find a way to help them solve the problem. My parents also quarrel a lot, and every time I come home, they have to argue, I don't know if it's because they feel that there is an extra helper at home, so they can vent their emotions unscrupulously.

In fact, many times my parents quarrel, it is a kind of emotional catharsis, and the source of the quarrel is a very small thing.

Before I went to college, I always complained that my parents gave me such an unwarm growth environment, and I felt miserable. I lived with my dad in elementary school, and my mom in junior high school and high school, and it seems that I haven't lived happily as a family of three in the past 12 years. My impression is that it was a long, long nightmare in my life.

Sometimes they quarrel fiercely, and it is completely useless for me to persuade them, and I feel that I am about to go crazy, and even have the idea of running away from home, trying to scare them, make them awaken, and make them realize the importance of a family. I've never done that before, though. If I do run away from home, I don't know what this family will become.

Anyway, I've figured it out now, my parents are really incompatible and not suitable for living together, even if they insist on living separately in the future, I think I can accept it calmly, as long as they can be happy. I think you should learn to make yourself strong, your parents quarrel, help if you can, and try to communicate if you can communicate with each other. If you really can't persuade them, don't blame them.

Just imagine, in the future, if you also find someone who is not compatible with your personality to marry and have children, won't you also quarrel after marriage? Therefore, you should understand your parents more and fulfill your responsibilities as children.

As the saying goes, "every family has a difficult scripture", the love of parents is spent in quarrels for a lifetime, as the crystallization of their love, when you hate this family, you have the obligation to mend this family that may be about to fall apart.

There is really no way, because they have all happened to the point of fighting, such a life is better to leave, want to see two people who are tired of each other, but you still have to do it, you are filial to them, after all, they are the parents who gave birth to you and raised you, no matter what kind of life they have, what decisions, you can not shake their minds except for a few words, but can not shake their minds, in their eyes, you will always be a child, will not understand the feelings between them, so you must be good, When parents quarrel, you have to play the role of being a child, use your own mind to improvise, don't shout when they fight, don't say which side is right and which side is wrong, stand in the center, lead these two people to find their mistakes, you can only try to minimize their fights, and be a sensible child to infect them.

The impact of family atmosphere on children is indeed very great. A good family environment can provide a warm home for children and help them grow physically and mentally. Your parents are always arguing and fighting.

It's going to have a very bad impact on you. It is easy to cause you a feeling of resistance and disgust with this home.

As a member of the family, you have an obligation to maintain the harmony of the family if you want it to continue. And, you are a very good bond. You can't start to give up on yourself, hate your parents, or even have the urge to leave home just because you are disgusted with the current situation.

If something happens to you. Then the home is completely shattered.

So, you have to control your own emotions and adjust your mentality. Don't let this disgust go on freely. You have to talk to your parents separately and express your desire for a warm family, a harmonious family.

Even if parents have great conflicts, they have one thing in common, that is, they love their children. For the sake of the children, they can also be relieved.