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The best way is to stop following your father's example, and really do something for the family that can change the status quo and change the poverty that your father has brought to the family, so that you can also be qualified to talk to your father about some deep-seated problems.
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I don't know what he did wrong, most parents are for the good of their children, maybe you don't know now, parents do everything for your good, even if they do wrong, that's not something they can grasp, they don't owe us, but they have been dedicating to us, what do we have, we can't hate, we can only thank.
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。No matter how poor my family is, I won't look down on my parents. Looking down on your parents is the same as looking down on yourself.
They are the ones who gave birth to you and raised you. Who can't make mistakes? Aside from the fact that they are not your parents, he is also a human being!
Remember, destiny is in your own hands. Your parents' achievements do not mean that they are also yours, and you are just a person like everyone else, regardless of whether you are high or low!! If you really hate this situation, please make sure that you cherish your learning opportunities and learn well.
In the future, you will be able to be a superior person
Plus a sentence: No matter how you say it, he is always your father, how much you don't like him, you have to respect him。。 Maybe he's not a passing father.
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Then you have to learn to be independent, and you can see it a few times!! 111
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Everyone has limitations. Even if you want to do better and look further, it's not so easy to do it. Older people may be more old-fashioned.
Since the relationship between father and daughter exists, it is necessary to try to get along and understand.
His career is not going well, I am afraid that he will not be in a good mood, and his family should give him strength at this time. There's nothing that falls down and you can't get up again.
It's good to use your father's things for reference, but don't deny him so completely, you say that he is very attentive to his friends' affairs, which shows that he is a very affectionate person.
I think it's still worth cherishing.
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Every family has a difficult book to recite the Dijing Sutra, and I am similar to you, and even your father is better than my father. My dad is smarter and smarter than your dad, but it's good to be smart, and when he makes money, he goes to gamble, my family was the best among relatives in the 90s, but now he is reduced to going to work on construction sites. In the past, it was to do business, and in the future, it is to rely on yourself to work hard, not to rely on your parents to give drops.
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After all, he is your relative, and if you ignore him, he may be more serious and will talk to himself.
In fact, think about it, he doesn't want to make a good home, it's just the wrong way.
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If you hate it, leave for a while Can you support yourself?
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Think more about him, maybe you can find a balance.
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No one is perfect, everyone has their own personality, and relatives also need to get along with each other. First of all, we must figure out why there is disgust, try to communicate and solve it if it is a small problem, and if it is really not a problem that you can control, seek help from your mother or other family members.
Although the vast majority of parents areWholeheartedly for the child, but not every parent can do itPerfect。He fulfilled his legal responsibility to raise you, but he didn't fulfill it well enough, and his love for you was flawed, so that you couldn't feel the happiness of your family and the warmth of your loved ones. It's hard for you to change your father, but there are ways to alleviate the situation and make it as good as possible.
1. Correct your attitude
Dad is always the elder, and the elder is the elder. Be sure to correct your attitude and don't say something hurtful to your dad because of emotional outbursts. If it's not a mistake of principle that causes you to hate Dad, try to communicate.
Calmly communicate with Dad about certain thingsFind a solution。As a child, not only do you receive the love of your parents, but you also need to know how to give love to your parents, and no matter what, show your father the most firstSincerity, communicate with Dad with a good attitude.
2. Explain more and listen more
Be sure not to be too lazy to explain. Maybe you explained it and Dad would think you didn't say it right. But you must not be afraid of the failure of explanations, one day they will understand you.
All you have to do is keep goingExplain, whether they are or notUnderstand。At the same time, listen to Dad's thoughts more and see why Dad did this, whether there is someIt's hard to say
3. Seek help from a psychologist or family member
If Dad made a mistake of principle, you think it isUnforgivable mistakes, which may be needed at this timeOutside help。You can try to communicate with your mother and your most trusted relatives to find the most suitable solution. If there is no better solution, try seeking help from a psychologist.
Remember to think wildly and speculate.
In life, it is a kind of fate to be a family member. There will be a workaround for all problems. Don't get into anxiety, don't increase your disgust with your dad yourself, try to goUnderstandwithInclusion
Everything will be fine.
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Summary. Hello dear kiss, I hate my dad very much For the above situation, it must be my dad who has done something that makes you sad and sad, so he hates my dad very much.
Hello dear kiss, I hate my dad very much For the above situation, it must be my dad who has done something that makes you sad and sad, so he hates my dad very much.
Can you tell me more about it?
Never bought me anything since I was a child, didn't give me a little love, and I hated him so much.
He was married four times.
He was going to beat and scold me.
He obviously has money, but when I ask him for 100 yuan, it's like asking for his life.
The kiss said to the other relatives.
Your dad behaved like this.
I ordered takeout at my own expense, and he wouldn't allow me to order it.
He doesn't give you money, but the parents have to pay child support.
You can find grandparents.
Grandpa. Dad is very controlling.
You don't have to support him if you disagree with him.
You can make your own ideas.
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Your father hates you, but you can't forget his nurturing grace, and you still have to be filial to what you should be filial. Maybe your dad doesn't hate you. In family relationships, moms are usually friendly and loving; Dad is usually strict and not good at expressing feelings.
I believe that your dad should love you and not hate you, even if you do something wrong, just have the courage to take it. I didn't have a good relationship with my dad when I was a child, but now that I'm an adult, I look back and find that it's not like that, in fact, my dad loves me very much.
I think your dad is the same. In fact, you can sometimes take the initiative to talk to your father, or you may not know your father well. My dad and I just had that kind of thing all the time, I always felt that my dad didn't love me, I always thought that my dad hated me.
Falling in love, with the other half, is to have a new reliance, I feel that my father doesn't have to care about me anymore, in fact, it's not like that, every time I encounter difficulties, the first time to stand up is my father, and it's my father who worries about the future for you.
There must be a reason why your dad hates you, maybe your psychology is like me before, you have to reflect on whether there is something you shouldn't say to your father, maybe you are too kind, you just say what you think in your heart, you can't feel it, maybe the person who loves you will be particularly sensitive when you hear it. Let's talk about it. It's not that he hates you, he just wants you to do better.
He won't fail to love you, maybe he has a special way of expressing his love.
Work hard and become the pride of your father! There are no parents in the world who hate their children, that's just your own psychological trouble, think about it, help your parents do more housework, and let parents feel that their children are the most obedient children in the world! Come on!
Have you ever studied the text "Awesome and Wonderful"? There is a little boy in it who is just like you, and his father treats you like this because he doesn't want you to be pampered since you were a child, and wants you to learn the most interesting life philosophy from this kind of life.
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I hate my dad so much, I think my dad is a macho dead man, why do you say that?
My dad is a macho dead man, everything is decided by himself, it is never negotiable, as long as I have the slightest objection, he is unwilling, and he starts to quarrel at home, and even domestic violence, he feels that he should listen to him.
I had my own dream, that is, I wanted to become a writer as soon as possible, but in my father's opinion, it was a pipe dream, which was impossible to achieve, and he tried his best to stop my dream.
In his eyes, I have to live in the things he arranged, these are what I don't like, and my dad doesn't want to, so he thinks that what he arranges is good.
My dad likes to compare me to others, talking about how others are and how I am all the time. I wanted to go out and rent a house to live in, but he didn't want to let me live at home. Okay, I live at home, and he said that everyone else still goes out to live in a rented house, how can anyone live with my parents, I said, he doesn't want me to go out to live, I don't feel safe.
Whose problem is this? My problem?
He never felt that he was wrong, he felt that his fault was blamed on others, that is, he was wrong, and others were all wrong.
I'm really fed up with this kind of family, and I want to make up my mind to save money to go out and live, whether it's buying a house or renting a house, I just go out to live and don't want to stay in this kind of family. It's infuriating.
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<>1.In life, when we evaluate a person, we often allow ourselves to experience a dominant mentality, whether it is good or bad. Psychologically speaking, the problem may be explained in favor of the denial of patriarchy in adolescence, and the fact that this rebellion has not yet ended.
2.On the other hand, hating a person, in the relationship between people, from a certain point of view, may also imply one's own heart, and will unconsciously look for a sense of self-existence, much like looking in the mirror in our daily life, looking for ourselves through the words and deeds of others. Of course, this kind of self that is reflected by relationships is not the real self, and the self that we can perceive is not actually the real self, but the product of thinking and processing by the brain, so when we describe others, we are actually describing our own inner world.
3.In the process of each of us growing up, our hearts will reject some natural and instinctive things and suppress them. In daily work, life, and getting along with others, only the aspect that is accepted and recognized by the society is shown, that is, the side that matches the social and cultural values, and the repressed things constitute the shadow of people, which is why some people, although they can't say why they like or dislike a thing, but their attitude is very firm.
4.It may be the pain brought by the original family, and it is difficult to ** your own heart. It may also be due to various reasons such as generation gap and lack of understanding between the child and the father.
Look specifically at where your conflict with your father is, and recognize this point of conflict. It may be that this point of conflict makes you feel the presence of your own shadow, so that a feeling of dissatisfaction arises, and the disgust may be related to yourself, at least to your own values. We often say that only when we have it in our hearts can we see, hear, and feel, and the same is true.
5.With the help of professionals, discovering and understanding your emotions can not only better understand yourself, but also the people around you, and turn to professionals for help if necessary.
Finally, I would like to say that in Let's Wrestle! The conflict between the father and the daughter in the movie "Daddy" is deep, but it is also reconciled in the end. The daughter believes that her father is for her good, and the father also realizes that his stubbornness is not equal.
The film is an awakening to feminist consciousness among an ancient people who are trying to eliminate prejudice. The father-daughter conflict several times is in full swing and thought-provoking.
After reading it, I hope it will be helpful to you.
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You should think about the real reason, but if he is really acting badly, then become independent as soon as possible. I also hated my fathers, and sometimes even resented them. I really want to vent the resentment that has accumulated in my heart.
Because he really sucks. My sense of morality tells me: I can't say that about them.
But this is the truest thought in my heart, and it is also the deepest impression I have when I think of them. My father liked to beat me since I was a child, and he was very cruel with his hands and feet, probably not as good as some other fathers, but I was also the one who was beaten and kicked and left bruises. And I'm a girl, and in my mind, I think girls should be pampered (because that's how my friends are treated), at least not by fathers.
Besides, what did I miss? It's nothing more than talking back and being disobedient.
I really can't figure out why I was punished for kneeling on the ground and pumping with a rattan stick, why was my dad kicked in the heart? What exactly am I doing wrong? I have good grades, I'm not naughty, but I'm a bit stubborn and don't like to do things I don't want to do.
Why do this to me? I don't understand why my parents didn't feel guilty about these things, but thought it was funny and laughed. I'm really resentful.
They always said that I should be glad to have a father like them, and the smug look made me want to sneer. Why weren't they so happy to have a child like me? Taking my excellence and security for granted, they really made me particularly annoying.
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