Divorced, how can the little ones reduce the impact ?

What a child needs is a complete home, especially in front of the people he values and on occasions that he values. Therefore, it is recommended not to talk about your marriage in front of your children, such as who is good and who is bad, who is right and who is wrong, whether the marriage is happy, who is better or worse than his father, whether you are divorced, etc.; In situations where your child wants you both to be present (such as parent-teacher meetings, birthday parties, commendation meetings, etc.), you must not shirk it, you must show up at the same time, and if he thinks that the people around him do not know that you are divorced, you must maintain the integrity of the family (on the surface), and you must not quarrel.

The impact of divorce on the children is definitely there and is irreparable. No man's love can replace the love of mom and dad. You can only not quarrel in front of your children, divorce peacefully for your children, let your children want to see their fathers and fathers, and they want to see their mothers and mothers.

Don't inflict adult grudges on children.

Children in single-parent families are very sensitive and fragile, and it is easy to feel inferior and lonely, so we should pay attention to the psychological changes of our children, give them more love and care, communicate more, and try to minimize the changes in children's psychology to bad aspects.

The two of them sat down and had a good talk, how difficult it is to get married, since you chose each other in the first place, you should insist, are you right?

This depends on the child's ability to bear, and it is best to have time for you to spend more time with the child.

I don't know much about this, so I'll wait for other mothers to see if there's anything they can do.

No matter what you do, it will not make up for the trauma and impact of divorce on the child's young mind, but since divorce is already a fact, try to find a way to let the child feel as much father's and mother's love as possible.

After the divorce of parents, the children will be affected to some extent, and after the divorce, both parties should be doubly good to the children, which can reduce the harm to the children.

It depends on the age of the baby! It is also best to give the baby the opportunity to contact the other party and communicate with the baby more.

Always let him do activities with his children to maintain a cheerful and happy mood.

As long as it is a divorce, it will definitely affect the children.

Then it depends on how old the child is, if he is already sensible, he can only make up white lies, saying that his father or mother is on a business trip. If the child is still very young, there is no need to explain.

Usually, both parents should often play with him, call him, and don't alienate the child because of divorce.

You still have to play with the baby often, and mom and dad still have to take the baby together.

It's better not to get divorced, why is it so difficult to maintain a marriage now?

Parents should give him love and care more about him.

The impact is that there is a gap between the two parties and not divorced, the child is a week, both parties take time to accompany her, communicate more correctly with the child, communicate, don't say what is wrong with each other in front of the child, don't think that the divorced parties have nothing to do with each other, you can take the child out on both sides, if it is convenient, you can bring each other's friends together, so that the child feels that there is still a lot of love,

Divorce will have a great impact on the children no matter what method is used, so you should think about it carefully.

Last year, more than 60,000 families broke up in the city, and the divorce rate hit an all-time high, according to **. Chen Yue, a nationally registered second-level psychological counselor and parent-child relationship counselor, reminded that the divorce of husband and wife is not simply a matter between two people. If you have a child, the impact on the child is very large.

Don't ignore the impact of divorce on your child's development, and some correct ways to deal with it can reduce the harm to your child.

Try to break up peacefully.

Don't talk about custody in front of your children.

The divorce of parents will bring a certain amount of psychological pressure to children. For children, parents are the closest people to them and the warmest harbor in their hearts. Statistics show that between the ages of 3 and 5, the best environment for children to grow up is a harmonious relationship between their parents.

Therefore, before divorcing, both husband and wife must have full thinking about their future responsibilities and consider the impact of changes in family relationships on their children in advance. If the relationship between husband and wife is really unable to continue, do not force it, try to break up peacefully to minimize the psychological damage to the child. Do not speak ill of your child or even fight in front of him.

Don't discuss custody of your child in front of your child, let alone force your child to choose who to be with, because for most children, this choice itself will be psychologically burdensome.

Show love to your child.

Don't speak ill of your child.

In a family where the marriage relationship has broken down, if the child has sufficient cognitive ability, the parents should honestly tell the child the fact that the parents are divorced, so that the child knows that although the parents can no longer live together, their love for him (her) will never change. At the same time, after the divorce, it is necessary to maintain a close relationship with the child as much as possible, so that the child can feel the love of his parents. The parent who has custody of the child should never deprive the other parent of the opportunity to see the child.

Even if one partner cannot take care of the child as before, the other partner should not speak ill of the other person. For example, "your father (mother) doesn't love you anymore" or "I don't want you anymore", "he (she) is a bad person" and so on, because for children, both parents are their closest people, and if one party says the other is bad, they will also feel very conflicted and painful.

Get out of the shadows as soon as possible.

Don't let your child become a sustenance.

After divorce, couples, especially the party who obtains custody of the child, are particularly prone to focus all their attention on the child, and even make the child feel that "you are the sustenance of my future", which will invisibly bring a lot of pressure to the child. Therefore, whether it is a father or a mother, you must come out of the shadow of divorce as soon as possible, and do not bring negative emotions to your children, or even vent them to your children. It is even more important for the parent raising the child to get his or her work and life on track as soon as possible to reduce the impact on the child.

Also try to maintain your child's usual routine as much as possible so that your child can get through this stage smoothly.

First of all, tell your child the real situation, and let your child understand that although Mom and Dad are divorced, their love for you will never change. We will always protect you when you need it most.

Second, the parents are divorced, but the education of the children should be negotiated together, and the educational concepts should be consistent.

Third, often accompany the child to communicate more, pay attention to the child's psychological condition, do not take the child or are busy, but also squeeze out time to give the child more **, and the child's mother with the child to take the child out to participate in parent-child activities, so that the child feels the same as before.

Fourth, the child should follow the parent who affirms the other parent and consult the child's opinion.

Fifth, don't hold each other accountable in front of your children.

1.Let your child feel loved and will always be loved.

No matter how old your child is, you need to show them this clearly. There may be different ways and means for children of different ages, but it is important to convey it to them and make sure that they can get it. Not only do you want to show that you love him, but also try to make him understand that his divorced partner will always love him as well.

This is very important for children, especially young children, to prevent them from attributing the reason for their parents' divorce to "they are not well-behaved", "they are not cute", and "their parents can't love themselves" that lead to divorce.

2.Don't complain endlessly in front of your children, stop complaining in front of your children, don't complain.

If you want to reduce the impact of divorce on your children, you should avoid complaining about the people and events in your previous marriage and your current life.

Don't let your child feel that divorce is really a terrible thing, don't let your child think that he blames that person, so that the original intact family will come to the point of disintegration, and then share the same hatred with you, and break up or even confront his relatives who can no longer see each other often.

3.Guaranteed financial** to be able to maintain or substantially maintain the child's standard of living.

If before and after the divorce, the children's living standards suddenly changed from a prince-like "what they want" to a child-like "no half cent in their pockets" like a child in a welfare home. We must at least have the financial ** to ensure that the basic standard of living of our children is not greatly affected.

4.Increase the time for positive interaction with your child and face life with a positive attitude.

Divorce is a big change, but it doesn't have to be devastating, it actually means a change and a fresh start. Explore the positive side of your new life with your child, increase the time you spend interacting with your child, and face the challenges of your new life together with a healthy and good attitude.

In a word, if you can't give your child a complete home, then give your child a lot of love, and only in this way can you make up for it. After all, only love can reduce the impact on children, children can only thrive in a loving environment, and parents are invited to consider more when making this kind of decision, don't make a bad decision with a fever, after all, marriage is a process of mutual tolerance and going on, and cherish it!

I think that the general divorced family children have psychological shadows, mostly because of some performance of their parents, so that he feels that he is different from ordinary children, to avoid this situation, first of all, regardless of whether the two parties have a family after separation, they should get along harmoniously.

Be sure to give your children enough fatherly and maternal love, so that it is extremely beneficial to their growth. Yes, it is important to financially ensure that the child does not let the child suffer, and at the same time, the child can always feel that he is loved and valued. If the child is divorced at a very young age, it may have less impact, the child is already sensible, and you will hit him hard, of course, if the child is an adult, he will definitely not have so many blows.

I think as long as children know that they are loved, then they can understand the decision between their parents, after all, it is better to let go and live better with each other than everyone is unhappy. Yes, even if you are divorced, don't complain too much in front of your children, and try your best to let your children get more love like children from normal families. Yes, don't show the disagreement between the two people in front of the child, care more about her, after all, the child is innocent, the parents divorce the child is not able to choose, parents try to reduce the burden on the child, let the child know that although the parents are divorced, but we still love the child, this is a matter between parents, it has nothing to do with the child, parents should care more about the child's life, emotions.

Let the child feel that although his parents are divorced, they still love them the same. It definitely has an impact on the child, I feel that the character of the child of a single parent is not very good, and the child cannot choose his parents without a sense of security, the child is innocent, why should he hurt the child.

First of all, these thoughts of complaining and hating the other person cannot be passed on to the child. Second, tell your child the truth instead of deceiving your child. If the older child can understand the meaning of divorce, tell his parents about the divorce, but don't insist on who is right and who is wrong, and try to reduce the child's perception of himself badly.

Finally, we should communicate more with our children, and the core content of the communication is: First father and mother will always love you, and no one can replace your position in our hearts! Second.

You are a good boy, we are separated not because of you, but because of work or emotional reasons, it has nothing to do with you at all, and you must not feel that you are wrong or uncute or worthless because of this. Third. Remarriage is to find someone to love you better with your parents, but no one can take away your parents' love for you, you will always be the only irreplaceable, we will always love you!

Fourth. Giving birth to a little brother and a little sister is for you to no longer be lonely and have them to play with you, but this does not mean that they can replace you and take away your parents' love for you, you will always be the only irreplaceable, we will always love you!

The impact on children depends on how parents treat their children, both parents can handle each other's relationship rationally, can care for their children in every detail, communicate with their children more, and always have someone by their children's side, not to the elderly.

Divorce hurts the children, and the harm has been caused when the decision to divorce is made, to say that it is reduced, visit the children more after the divorce, and spend more time with the children, rather than just ignore and turn a blind eye after the divorce!

Divorce can have a profound psychological impact on a child, which may cause the child to feel lonely, have low self-esteem, and if the child is older, he may be afraid of marriage.

Unless the child is a little older and has his own ideas, the impact may be smaller, so many couples choose to divorce after taking the college entrance examination, and I think it may not have a great impact on the child at this time.

Guide men and women to have a correct understanding of marriage and family, don't give up their responsibilities because of the lock-up of life, and children are the most injured when the family is broken.

The divorce of parents is a kind of harm to children, especially great harm. How to minimize the harm, the divorced parties must care for the child, and both parties must accompany the child to play regularly. Care for children's mental development, physical and mental development.

Because neither fatherly nor maternal love can replace the love of the other parent, the child needs a complete parental love.