I was a little puzzled and distressed with my girlfriend, and my girlfriend couldn t understand me

Khan, it's just that she said that you don't want to contact anyone now, in fact, she just wants you to call** to explain, to prove that she still has a place in your heart, women, because they care too much about a person, so it's easy to be jealous, a word, don't hurry up and hit ** to your girlfriend, if it goes on like this, the relationship command is getting more and more stiff, and there will be more and more contradictions, maybe you start to call ** to her, she doesn't answer, just want to try if you have a place for her, she still has a place in your psychology, it's okay to play a few more, pick up** Coax her well, just get old.

At this time, you don't have to listen to what she says, and you don't want to contact! Hurry up and call her **, apologize all the time, say good things, and don't hang up if you don't coax it! Don't even ask! Hurry up, the sooner the better!

There is nothing strange about women, if you love you, even if you make a big mistake, they will still take the initiative to contact you. If you don't love you, no matter how much you do, she will turn a blind eye. Dude, I want to open a little.

Apologize, coax her well, say it's all your fault, let's go to the movies.

Objective personal point of view:

Your mom is your mom, your mom has lived with you for 30 years, and of course you feel that your mom won't say anything even if it's not right.

It makes sense for your girlfriend to offer to live separately. Living separately is not the same as escaping the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Why, because of the smell of being far away and smelling close, your girlfriend has lived with her parents for 28 years, and your mother has lived with you for 30 years, and their living habits are different, and your mother is not easy to get along with and likes to control, so if you say there is a problem, will you help your relatives or not?

No, because it has been seen that you are towards your mother.

You are 30 years old and want to set up your own home, and you should use your salary card from the moment you work, and learn to manage your own finances. You should want to come back with your mother, because you want to have your own home, but you don't dare to ask your mother, you are indeed passively avoiding.

Moreover, when you are facing problems, you would rather give up your girlfriend than try to improve, but just blindly let your girlfriend back down, your way of dealing with it is incredible, 30 years old, even if you are a boy from a rural area, many of them are living on their own and controlling their finances. You've had a strange life.

You really should break up with your girlfriend because you don't realize there's something wrong with you. Hehe.

Now more and more people choose to live separately after marriage, do you see that people are unhappy living separately? Because people now know very well that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be prone to conflicts, it is a good choice to live separately, and many people, like you, are submissive men who will not deal with the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and should live separately to avoid the intensification of conflicts. And you can't let your mom worry about you for the rest of your life.

Nothing else, just personal opinions.

First of all, I'm a girl, and I understand your girlfriend's thoughts, and now I don't like to be very strong and restrained, isn't it good to be free? Personally, I feel that you are a submissive person, and you feel that you are hardworking, but have you ever empathized with your girlfriend? Or how do you feel when your mother-in-law stares at you every day?

The most important thing is that it might be better for you to sit together and talk.

Congratulations, you've met a very nice girl

First of all, she said that you will not feel guilty if you are a boyfriend and reject you, which shows that she has regarded you as a more important part of her life, just like parents are like siblings, very close, close to the point of randomness. Compared with friends and parents, parents are definitely the most important, but when there is a conflict of time, we often give up the arrangement of our parents and stay with friends, what is the reason? That is, parents are "their own people", and there are no problems such as missing appointments, but friends are different.

In this way, you have become her "own person".

In addition, even if she doesn't want to go out, she will agree to her friend's invitation, which shows that she is a person who values her friends more, and a person who values friends is at least a person with affection, and you definitely don't want your girlfriend to be a person without affection

From the point of view of both sides, there is nothing wrong with it!

But from your point of view, it's hard for you to deal with it, one is a mother, the other is a girlfriend, but the only thing I don't understand is, why do you have to live with your mother.

Even if the mother-in-law is enlightened, there is always a certain gap between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, and besides, young people have their own private space, and the elders may not be accustomed to the young people's lifestyle, right?

If it were me (we were the same age, I was a man), I would choose to live separately and go back to see my mother when I had time or on weekends

So I propose to do your mother's job...

I think your girlfriend's thinking is correct, you can get married and live separately from your mother for a period of time, slowly ease this hostile state between your mother and your girlfriend, you also have to let your mother know that you are an adult, in fact, the core problem is here, if it is not solved, even if this girlfriend breaks up with you, the next girlfriend will face this problem.

This is normal, and very few girls want to live with their in-laws after marriage. It's better to keep a distance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and no matter how much you love you, there is a gap. Your request is a little selfish, your hard work is just hoping that your girlfriend will follow your will and let you have no troubles, do you love her?

Are you weaned?

I don't think the so-called delaying tactics can be called good intentions. She wants to marry you, which is the biggest affirmation of you, but on the one hand, you just say that your girlfriend does not accept to live with your mother, which is difficult for you to understand. And I think that now it is very common to get married and separate, everyone needs their own living space, not to mention, they have not gotten along happily, why are they still fighting each other under one roof, who wins and who loses?

That chicken dog is restless. That's not a simple problem, your mother and you must have lived longer than her, you know your mother's temperament and temperament, but she is different, she doesn't know that much, and in the same way, your mother can't be as tolerant of her as she is to you, this must be admitted. Marriage is not a war, she marries you in the hope of being happy, not facing the war together and solving the war.

It is the truth that it smells far away and smells near.