Why is a relationship that should be sweet, but couples are so tired of getting along?

Because the way of getting along is wrong, and the personalities are different, the three views do not agree, and they are unwilling to change for each other, and the two people cannot understand each other's situation, so there will be contradictions.

It is because both parties care about each other very much, so both parties are more possessive. will interfere in the other person's life. So it will feel very tired.

Because neither of them knows how to empathize, they put their own ideas first in everything, and they never refuse to back down when they encounter problems.

It's not because couples don't take a correct attitude when they get along, and some conflicts that occur in daily life can't communicate and exchange in time.

Since they are tired of getting along, it means that the lifestyle of two people is very unsuitable for their personalities, and they are also very unsuitable for each other and each other, and there is no resonance, so they feel particularly tired, and such a relationship should be ended immediately and decisively.

Because one or both parties have low emotional intelligence, they don't know how to manage feelings, they don't know how to communicate effectively, and they don't know how to tolerate each other, so they will be very tired to get along.

Because two people don't tell each other when they encounter something, they hide all their thoughts deeply, they don't talk and communicate with each other, and they hope to guess each other's thoughts through each other, which leads to their tired situation.

Because two people are too familiar, all the strengths and weaknesses of the other party are known to each other, and some shortcomings will make two people feel very tired.

Because two people don't communicate often and don't understand each other's ideas, it will make both parties very tired.

It may be that the way two people get along is not very right, and you can appropriately change the mode of getting along between two people. It may also be caused by the disagreement of two people's personalities or three views.

Because the longer couples spend together, the more problems will be exposed, and many people feel that the more they get along, the more tired they are, because they did not solve the problems in time.

It should be a problem with the personalities of the two people, so I feel uncomfortable getting along and feel very uncomfortable.

Many people will find that it is not as sweet as we imagined after falling in love, and sometimes they will feel very tired, which may also be the reason why many young people are reluctant to fall in love in modern times. Sometimes it is thought that two people together are not as free as one person. So why do some couples feel so tired after spending a lot of time together?

Personally, I think there are three reasons:

If two people in love always quarrel over trivial things, this is very hurtful, with the accumulation of quarrels, two people's feelings for each other are slowly consumed, and they will feel that this love is very tiring and has no value and meaning.

If two people in love can't understand each other, only see their own pay, can't see each other's pay, may only complain about each other, slowly accumulate, will feel that they have invested a lot in this relationship, but the other party doesn't seem to have any response, in fact, the other party made a response, they don't see it, two people can't stand each other's point of view, they are more selfish, so it will make this relationship very tiring.

The two did not find the right way to get along. Maybe as time goes by, there are not so many common topics between two people, and sometimes two people don't always need to stick together, give themselves more independent time and space, after all, distance produces beauty.

The above is only a personal point of view, in fact, the correct way for couples to get along is that the two people should have more and more tacit understanding, and the relationship is getting better and better, so that the relationship can last for a long time, find a relationship mode that belongs to two people, and do not be disturbed by the outside world. I also hope to meet the right person and have a good result. What do you think is the reason why some couples feel so tired after spending a lot of time together?

Because I think there is still a lack of freshness, students have a sense of freshness after being together for a long time, and then the two of them are inexplicably very speechless to communicate, so they will feel very tired.

Couples will feel very tired after spending a long time together, because they know each other more and understand each other's weaknesses.

Couples will feel very tired after getting along for a long time, which is mainly because the personalities of the two people are incompatible or the two parties do not know, so they love each other. Always taking, not knowing to give.

Maybe it's because after getting along for a long time, I find that my personality is not particularly compatible, so the more I get along, the more tired I get.

Some couples feel tired after being together for a long time, which means that the two of them are not suitable for each other, because they do not agree with each other.

Because some couples, they can't respect each other when they get along, and they just blindly ask for each other, so after getting along for a long time, the other party will feel very tired.

Couples will feel tired after being together for a long time, and that is because the three views of two people are different, the family background is different, and the family background is different, which affects the values of the two people, so it is very important to be a family member.

Personally, I think that this should be the sweet period of love between couples, and it may be that they have been together for a long time, and they know each other's personalities, and they are particularly tired due to incompatible personalities.

Couples will have some friction after getting along for a long time, and the personalities of the two people will be a little different, so they will feel particularly tired.

Some couples feel very tired after being together for a long time, and that is because the two people are really not suitable, and they are both to cater to each other, so they feel tired.

So you can't get married in a flash, only after a long time of dating will you know if each other is really suitable, after all, a lifetime is quite long. If you blindly pay unilaterally and do not adjust and change after communication, you will only get more and more tired in the future.

First, they should be presented in the most authentic state in front of the best, so that there is no pressure to get along.

Two people fall in love, both on the premise of marriage, and they both hope to live a relaxed and harmonious life after marriage. When getting along, you should show your truest self, from the beginning, let the other party know what your opinion is on a thing, and let the other party know what you look like in daily life. If the other party loves this kind of self, then two people will not have any baggage when they get along, and they don't have to hide themselves, and this kind of relationship is the most relaxed.

2. Learn to tolerate each other's shortcomings.

When two people are in love, they will definitely find that each other also has shortcomings, and if they keep magnifying these shortcomings, it will only cause a lot of quarrels. When you see the other person sleeping without taking a bath, you will dislike the other person's laziness, and if you quarrel with him, you will make the other person feel very tired with you; I should think about it, he just finished working overtime and is already very sleepy, first he can sleep well, and the next day he will take a shower when he is refreshed. If this is the case, the two people will not have conflicts over these trivial matters.

Third, we must know how to empathize, and when we get along, it will only be more relaxed.

When two people are together, they must be attracted to each other, and they feel that the other party is the person they are looking for. However, over time, conflicts may arise due to various misunderstandings. At this time, we must know that two people are independent individuals, and it is impossible for the other party to always do what they think.

I have to learn to empathize, if I were him, what I might think, what I might do, so that I can understand him; And we often find that the other person thinks more about themselves after empathy. In this way, I will love him a little more, and when I get along, I won't be careful.

When couples get along, they must tell their true thoughts in a timely manner, hide them, don't let each other guess each other's thoughts, and adjust their mentality in time, don't be overly anxious, and when they encounter things, two people can discuss it well.

I think that if there is a conflict between couples, it must be resolved in time, and go out to play more, and must understand each other so that they will not get tired.

Couples should understand each other and tolerate each other, so that they will not get tired of getting along.

Don't get tired of each other, it's about improving each other. Writer Yang Daxia Yang Ke revealed.

In married life, you will find that it is easy to fall in love, but it is very difficult to get along. In fact, it is nothing more than that everyone is accustomed to starting from their own coordinate system to figure out and evaluate another person, when we evaluate a person is good or bad, it only means that we think that some of his behaviors are good or the middle knowledge is not good, it does not mean that this person is really good or bad.

We are accustomed to starting from our own feelings, which makes us forget that the other person also has their own coordinate system, which is the principle of the other party to judge the world and people, and this coordinate system may be completely opposite to us.

It is precisely because of this that for the same thing, because the coordinate system is different, different people will also have different understandings, and it is normal for people to not understand each other.

And it is easy for couples to fall in love and difficult to get along with each other, and this is also because of this.

When you first fall in love, you project your fantasies about love onto each other, without seeing the real existence of the other party, so it is easy to resonate with love.

When getting along, fierce friends get along with the real other party, and the two sides come up with their own coordinate systems to measure each other, and natural conflicts are indispensable.

Therefore, if you want to have a stable and long-term relationship, the best thing to do is to let go of your own coordinate system and try to enter the coordinate system of the other party, so as to understand the real other party.

It is very difficult to achieve true understanding in a relationship, and most of us can only see the "facts" and not experience the feelings of the other person.

Just like when the other party celebrates a birthday, many people know that the other party doesn't like to eat birthday cakes, but they still take care of themselves and prepare for each other.

That person has learned to laugh and cry, and you may just laugh.

Because the contact situation of both parties is different, it is very likely that there will be quarrels due to various problems, which will lead to subsequent disharmony and breakup.

After all, people who are still in school generally have the main goal of learning knowledge, and more time is spent on learning, naturally for the person who is already working, he has not had much time to meet in this realistic society, even if it is to get along even if you have time to study, but he may not have Zheng Zhijian time to accompany you, if it is a college student, there is no course at three days and two ends, relatively speaking, there is more time, but the other party is not the same when he works, and it is impossible to accompany you on a three-day holiday, In this way, even if one party has time, the other party may not have time.

Gradually, because the timing is not right, there is not enough time to get along with each other, then there will be disagreements and quarrels, and all kinds of problems will follow. And the people who work already know what they need now, what they don't need, and will try their best to achieve that goal, and the perspective of looking at the problem is relatively comprehensive, but for people who are still students, the analysis of the problem or the angle of looking at the problem is not so comprehensive, that is, it is not so mature, so sometimes they may not understand the other party's approach and the way to solve the problem.

Then because the things and the world are different from the contact between the two sides, the ways and methods of solving things are also different, so that they cannot solve the problem in time, and if there is a problem, they may be treated coldly, or they can only be treated coldly.

In the end, in fact, these problems are not big problems, if two people are together, two right people are calling together, then I believe that both parties will face the reality together, work together, shout and rush will consider the problem for each other, a little more tolerance, understanding and trust, then the relationship between two people can become more and more stable and happy.

1. Ignore the other half and never take the initiative to contact the other party.

There is a conflict, many people refuse to communicate, preferring a life of sulking. He also ignores his other half and never takes the initiative to contact the other party, which will only deepen the conflict between the two people. Originally, the two of them were angry, and everyone made a love and ignorance look, so such a relationship will eventually be shattered.

2. I never thought about communicating well, let alone communicating with each other.

Good communication is the foundation of a good relationship, and only communication can promote a closer relationship between two people. Once there is a conflict or misunderstanding between lovers, some people always like to think that they are not at fault, and the fault is with each other. If you don't want to communicate well with each other, and you don't want to communicate with each other, then such contradictions and misunderstandings will never be resolved, and will only get deeper and deeper.

3. Refuse to change your shortcomings, get by, and fool your life.

Some couples, both parties will not think about each other and refuse to change the shortcomings they both know, thinking that the other party can't accept their own shortcomings is not loving themselves, and they must accept their own shortcomings. Turning a blind eye to their own shortcomings, getting by, and fooling life. Then such a relationship is a needle-to-needle relationship for both parties, and it will not end well.

4. I'm like this, if I can stand it, I can bear it, and if I can't stand it, forget it.

Ming quietly smiled and knew his shortcomings, and put on an arrogant face, I am like this, I can bear it if I can stand it, and forget it if I can't stand it. I believe that the vast majority of couples who have this kind of problem and put on such an attitude will eventually fall apart.

In fact, looking at the above behaviors comprehensively, we can summarize the model as: "self-centered psychology". What couples need is communication, not stinky shelves.

Whether you really love each other or not is not to put yourself in the center, but to put the other half in the center. I found the contradictions and problems between the two people in daily life, and quickly communicated to avoid the deepening of the misunderstanding, which is indeed my own problem, and I quickly corrected it without the other party raising it, so that the other party knew that he loved him and put him in the center of my heart. In this way, whether it is a couple or a husband and wife, with sufficient communication and putting each other in a position that is enough to restart the mausoleum, then many problems will be solved.