What if you don t have popularity and can t speak?

Speaking is indeed a skill, and people who can speak will generally be more popular. People who can't speak, that can only be manifested in action, if you do well and deal with problems properly, the people around you and around you will also recognize you.

I'm just like you, but I don't care, just do what I like.

Popularity is not good. Is it necessarily the reason for not being able to speak? I don't think the reason for not talking, kudo.

A large part of this is because the most effective communication between people is verbal communication. All the ways of expressing emotional interaction will affect your interests or relationships with others, so it determines the quality of your relationship. It's almost a matter of words and actions to decide.

Another is the person's family background, and the reason will determine the person's interpersonal relationship. I think two people are together, or with friends, colleagues. A person who can talk and a person who can't speak, of course I like to call the one who can talk.

At the very least, on what occasion do you say something, is it good for me, or is it good for me? In terms of language, the other party will express very clearly, which makes me feel very comfortable, if a person who can't speak, he will make me ugly, and may not want to contact such a person, so I think there is a big reason why people are more talkative if they are popular. Because human communication can only be communicated through words, words.

So you can't disbelieve, you don't have any other way to get someone to be nice to you. Even if you can't speak, you say you can't speak. I don't think so, I can't speak, others will, popularity is not good for me as a person, I can use material.

If you buy people with money, then you put yourself in the shoes of people you use money and material things to buy. Communicating with you in words and making real friends with him are completely two different natures. There is a person who can talk to do things, four office cups, and there is a person who can't speak, but it will only drag down so learn to speak, your popularity and connections will continue to increase, because language is an art, it can make a person easily successful, or it can make a person fail.

Why does the emperor always have a few people around him who can speak well? Because most people like to listen to good words, and they are quite good at talking.

Bad popularity does not necessarily mean that you can't speak, but it may also be because of some problems related to character such as being a person, as well as some of your own choice problems.

Because everyone wants to make friends or has different needs, it will also lead to problems in terms of popularity.

There is no absolute answer to the question of popularity, in fact, as long as you are happy, there is no problem with whether your popularity is good or bad, as long as you have true friends.

Popularity is not good, in addition to language, there are also behaviors.

Most people believe that we live our lives by choice. In fact, not all. Even if we are truly intelligent, some of the choices we make may reflect our perception of ourselves in the moment.

But by and large, we are all like robots, controlled by the conditions and habits of the past, operating automatically and mechanically. Therefore, we have to be self-conscious. To be self-conscious is to be able to think and act at all times, so that you can make the choices you really want, rather than being manipulated by past settings.

Being self-conscious allows us to live the way we are today, rather than living in the past, and allows us to stay on top of the situation and make full use of our knowledge and talents, rather than always being busy coping and always driven by fear and insecurity.

If you want to create wealth, trust that you are at the wheel of your own life, especially when it comes to money. This is very important. If you don't believe this, then you must have thought that you have little or no control over your life, and therefore little or no control over your financial success—this is not an attitude of wealth.

Not necessarily, the interpersonal relationship is not good, not being able to speak is one thing, there is also the style of doing things, the influence of personality and the like, some people are not good at words, but they are kind-hearted, others are willing to get along with him, and many problems are not caused by one reason.

Not necessarily, although it is true that people who can talk are more popular, but everyone is not stupid, and they don't like it just because a person can speak. It also depends on the person's character, whether he is a righteous man and a gentleman, whether he will help himself when he is in trouble, and so on.

Of course, bad popularity has nothing to do with talking, it has a lot to do with this person's behavior It proves that this person is not good at dealing with people, so you should discuss it with this person more and see how he behaves and behaves Of course, everyone's choice is different, and it is also his to read and read.

Popularity is not good, some are jealous because they are too smart and good-looking, and some are jealous because they can't stammer, don't coax people to look down on, and can't speak is also one thing.

This is not the case, sometimes it is possible that you have not done well or violated the interests of others, or you have not taken into account the thoughts of others, it is not that you can't speak, it may be that your behavior makes others feel unhappy.

Popularity is not good, most of them are due to the process of communication, after all, it is difficult to communicate, and some people feel uncomfortable in the process of doing things, a person's popularity is good or bad, first of all, there should be good communication, and we must also learn to respect others, so as to get the respect of others.

Not being able to speak is only one of the reasons, character, emotional intelligence, personality, etc. are all reasons for getting along with each other.

Not being good or bad is not necessarily the reason why you can't speak. It is important to be sincere in life.

Bad popularity means that some of the current situation of dealing with people is different from others, you should reflect on yourself, and it is not okay not to believe it, because some facts are in front of you.

Male, 22 years old, just finished his junior year. I used to have a few friends, but now I haven't been in touch for a few years, and I guess they have forgotten about me, and I don't dare to contact because I don't know what to say. Many people now use WeChat and QQ, and I have both....

Find the reason from yourself. Physiognomy doesn't measure anything. The beauty of the soul can be recognized by everyone.

First of all, it depends on whether your attitude when talking to others is polite, and the history of communication is mutual.

If you are polite to someone and the other person is not polite, think about what the possible reason is for being unkind, and if it is unreasonable, you basically don't have to deal with him.

Say it. I also played.,There were 9 people who entered.,Happy to death.,More than 70 hours for a while.,And then it's like **.,No one moved when I called the interaction.。 Don't deduct words or speak, and then turn it off, and it's like this again after eating.

And then it was closed in and it was still like this.,After a while, more than 70.,Decisively unloaded.。。

Because you don't take the initiative to talk to others, in fact, sometimes we can take the initiative ourselves, and that kind of person will have a wide range of friends...

You have to be patient with others, be yourself, and don't try to pander to others. Slowly, they will be drawn to you around you.

Treat others with a sincere heart, and that's fine.

If you want to be friends with someone, use more snacks about the things he is more interested in, and when you have a common topic, you will naturally come together.

If you want to be respected by others, you must first respect others, and that's it.

Good luck

It has something to do with your personality, and it also depends on the person, high-quality social networking is the real network, I suggest that as long as you work hard to improve yourself, friends will naturally be attracted to you, do your best, and deal with people with a clear conscience.

If you learn with your heart and have no regrets about yourself, you just need it.

Learning isn't everything.

It may take a reason to like someone in this world, but it is okay to hate someone without a reason. It's right that you really treat the people around you, but sometimes you have to be stronger, or just like you said, there will be people who joke about you, this kind of person is either born to joke or like to bully people, at this time you have to behave a little stronger, otherwise you will tell them well in the future, they may think more than you like, I think a little confidant is enough, there is no need to find more, after all, there are all kinds of people with different personalities, you will always meet people who think differently from you, There's no way to get along at all.,Of course, it's just a suggestion.,It's a little bit of a responsibility to get a good person.,Come out to help when the people around you are at a loss.,Let the people around you have a good impression of you or something.。 In short, come on, I hope you can get better.

This question instantly reminded me of countless scenes in the past ten years of work, some of which were scolded by my colleagues, and some of which were watched by others scolding each other.

When I first entered the workplace, I was scolded by my colleagues, and I often had a lot of scruples, so I basically chose to swallow my anger, value harmony, and then get angry with myself when I got home.

Later, I experienced a lot, and the skin became thicker, and I began to have contacts.

Combined with my own experience, I summarized the twelve-word policy for dealing with being scolded: on-the-spot response, factual speaking, and controllable conflict. (Exclude the situation where the relationship is good and the jokes come and go.) ）

01.On-the-spot response.

First of all, why do you want to respond on the spot?

No matter who is at fault, the act of scolding others itself represents a kind of malice, a kind of top-down bullying, and the other party thinks that they are stronger than you and can wantonly scare you or test you.

In the face of malice, it is necessary to fight back immediately, because once the dialogue is over, there is no reason to start again, and the winner or loser is decided. The person who scares about you doesn't have to pay anything, and he has also suppressed you and won a greater right to speak, while you are entangled in thinking about right and wrong, relationship, influence, etc., and have lost the best opportunity to counteract.

02.The facts speak for themselves.

Next, let's talk about how to fight back.

There's a way to go back. The basic logic is to distinguish between "phenomena", "facts" and "opinions".

Most of the words are "phenomena" and "opinions", and the response is most powerful with "facts".

Let's take an example of what happened in Yuanqiao Mu this morning

I went to a company for an interview, and HR saw that my latest work experience was naked, and he asked me, "Are you very willful?" If you don't like it, just say it naked? ”

I replied to him: "The naked resignation is because the transformation of the department is inconsistent with the demands of personal development, which is a rational and analytical choice, and it has nothing to do with whether you like it or not." ”

"willful" is a negative evaluation, "if you don't like it, you will resign naked" is a point of view, to put it bluntly, it is called buttoning a hat. If I take this hat, I will fall into the pit of willfulness, immaturity and reason, and the situation will be very unfavorable to me. At this time, don't justify whether you are willful or not, and tell the other party what the facts are.

In daily conversations, we need to train ourselves to distinguish between "phenomena", "facts" and "opinions", as well as the logical relationship between them, otherwise it is easy to be led into rhythm and slip into the ditch without knowing it.

03.Conflicts are manageable.

When responding to the other party, you should pay attention to your words and deeds, "personal attacks", "hail discrimination", "insults" are unacceptable, and will also put yourself in a disadvantageous position, and there is no room for turnaround. So don't say anything as soon as the emotion comes up, be grabbed by the other party, and kill with one blow.

Mutual resentment is just a verbal conflict, and you should always remind yourself that the conflict should be controlled to the extent that you can control it, at least you will not take the initiative to escalate the conflict, and assess whether the intensity of the conflict is beneficial or unfavorable to you.

In short, "Control your emotions and don't get up." ”

People who can't speak are usually more introverted, or more straightforward, and they never know what to say! But as long as you are kind-hearted, you can tolerate it.

It's not an easy thing to shut up someone you hate, but we can try to cope with it with a high emotional intelligence approach. Here are some suggestions:

1.Stay calm: When confronted with someone you hate, the first thing to do is to stay calm and sane. Avoid emotional reactions that can make the situation worse.

2.Listening: Give the other person a chance to express their opinions. Try to understand their position so that you can better respond to their divisive rhetoric.

3.Use empathy: Try to put yourself in the other person's shoes and understand why they would say the way they do. This helps to understand the other side's point of view and avoid unnecessary conflicts.

4.Finding common ground: Try to find common ground with the other person and have a dialogue based on that. This can help ease tensions and also help find ways to shut up the other person.

5.Set boundaries: Be clear about your position and bottom line, and let the other person know which topics are unacceptable. At the same time, maintain a friendly attitude and avoid making the other person feel attacked.

6.Shift the topic: Shift the conversation at the right time to steer the discussion to something more interesting and helpful. This will avoid getting bogged down in endless arguments and will also allow the other person to gradually shut up.

7.Interrupt at the right time: If the other person's remarks make you feel uncomfortable or unwilling to continue the discussion, you can interrupt them at the right time. Express your point of view in a polite way and remind the other person that your conversation has gone off topic.

8.Seek help from a third party: If you find yourself struggling with someone you hate, you can seek help from other friends or colleagues. They may have better coping strategies that can help you get out of trouble.

Note that high emotional intelligence does not mean tolerance of inappropriate behavior. While maintaining politeness and respect, you must be brave enough to defend your rights and bottom line.