What are the reasons for good popularity and poor popularity?

People who can always maintain calm when communicating, no matter what the situation, undoubtedly have the upper hand. Do things according to the rules, do not be biased, be a man without losing your duty, there is no need to flatter others, and disdain those flattery. He will not say good things about the leader, and sometimes he will offend the leader.

Therefore, the leader clearly knows that he is very good, but he cannot be reused, so his popularity is poor. We don't understand the world of the powerful and the rich, but it does make some people who are attentive and love to be angry with him. Some people have power and money in their hands, and there are often a group of people around him who support him, as if they can be worth twice as much as they can be with such people, and they are saddled all day long.

In his opinion, his popularity is also very unpopular, but such popularity will not last long, and when he has no power and no money, he will try it? Try the end of the show! Personality has a very big impact on a person.

We see a lot of extroverts who are very good at communicating and communicating with others, and they also really like to share the happy things that happen to them. When they are lonely, they will also call three or five good friends to come out to chat, eat, watch movies, and cheer for home. In this way, they get a good exchange and transmission of information with others, and at the same time, they also get closer to each other, so that over time, his popularity will inevitably get better.

A person with a good character is not necessarily a good person, and a person with a bad character is not necessarily a bad person. This objectively exists, and some localities and units are quite serious. To give one of the most common examples, working with some people who like to get paid for the public family, they can't get used to the good character, so they want to talk about the management, while the people with poor character don't care about themselves, turn a blind eye and don't care about things.

It is obvious who is good and who is bad. The so-called "honest people suffer, old fritters are popular!" It is a true portrayal of the list of certain institutions, enterprises and institutions.

Good popularity generally means that the character is better, the person who does things is very measured, the character is also very good, the moral quality is very noble, and he knows how to deal with people, and he will not offend others. People with poor popularity often do things without measure, have a very irritable personality, are particularly willful, do not know how to respect others, and have very poor character and moral quality.

The reason why you are popular is because you have a high emotional intelligence and are very kind to others, or it may be because you usually know how to tolerate and treat everyone gently. The reason for poor popularity may be because you can't speak and have low emotional intelligence, or it may be because you are too calculating and always like to make things difficult for others.

Everyone's emotional intelligence is different, so it leads to different people. People with high emotional intelligence can always make others feel like a spring breeze in the process of dealing with others, and natural popularity is good.

The difference between good popularity and popularity is the largestThe difference is the attitude of the people around you towards you。When a person who is well-liked, a friend or someone he knows gets along with, he feels relaxed, gentle and kind. And when people with poor popularity get along with others, there is always a feeling of strangeness between the two parties, or there is nothing to say, or there is no speculation, and there is no desire to talk.

Good popularity and bad popularitySometimes it is determined by the way people behave in the world, and sometimes it is determined by their own temperament

Some people are kind and always gentle and considerate when dealing with people. Such a person is easier to gain the trust of others, and there is not much pressure to get along with such a person. Even strangers you don't know will not have an aura of resistance with each other, and you may even slowly become friends after a few contacts.

And there are many reasons for a person's poor popularity, such as this personBeing unpopular in the world, speaking and doing things is always contrary to others, and you can't be on the same channel as others. If many people don't like him, it is largely because this person's way of doing things does not meet the aesthetic standards of the general public, that is, doing things in the vernacular is boring and does not know how to take care of others.

AbsolutelyThere are also some people whose poor popularity is related to their personality。These people have a colder personality themselves, like to be alone, and do not like to deal with others. It's not that these people don't do a good job in the world, it's just that they don't like to talk to people too much, and other people are intimidated by the aura around them and it's inconvenient to talk to him too much.

In the end, such a person does not have many friends around him, and it seems that his popularity is not very good.

I believe that most people hope that they are the ones who are popular, after all, they are full of goodwill, and life and things can be happy and convenient. If a person's popularity is poor and there are no trustworthy friends around him, many things will hinder his progress. Therefore, if you want to change your personal problems, you must change your behavior, and the atmosphere of peace and friendliness can attract others to you.

People who are popular have more friends and a better mentality, and when they encounter difficulties, their friends will help, and the difficulties can be solved. People with poor popularity can only rely on themselves when they encounter difficulties, and they may have flaws in their personalities.

People with good popularity will have a lot of friends, and when they have something, the friends around them will be willing to help them, and people with poor popularity have few friends around them, no matter what they do, they are more responsible for themselves, and they are very independent people.

The biggest difference is that when encountering a lot of things, if a person's popularity is particularly good, he will let many people help him, but if a person's popularity is particularly poor, he may have his own situation.

The first is self-centerednessBeing a selfish person is more selfish, and he often only thinks from his own point of view when doing things, feeling that others want to listen to him, what he says is right, and he does not accept other people's refutations, nor does he think about others. I don't think about others, I don't care about other people's feelings, as long as I think it's right, I will "die" to the end. This kind of person, generally no friends, friendship and love, rely on two people to pay each other, if one of them only thinks about himself, then the other party will definitely not be able to stand it, making friends is to get along comfortably, meet the kind of self-centered person, no one will want to make friends with her.

Second, people with a more introverted personalityGenerally speaking, people who have a lot of friends around you are the kind of people who are very lively and have a more generous and cheerful personality, but the kind of people who are more introverted and dare not interact with others are more difficult to get along with, they may not know some of the stalks that others say, and feel that they can't interject, and they are very quiet when they gather or play together, and they will not rush to the first place when doing things, and they are always silently watching from the side, such a person is difficult to integrate into other people, and it will make people feel that she doesn't want to make friends, and is more introverted. No one dared to make friends with her.

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3. "The Man Who Can't Speak".

This can't speak refers to people who don't think about the kind of speech that doesn't go through thinking, there are really many such examples around me, there is a friend who really belongs to the kind of "Madaha" girl, she doesn't know whether others will be sad when she says this sentence, whether she will be embarrassed, she just wants to say what she wants, sometimes on the bus, she says bad things about some friends very loudly, so that the passengers next to her and friends are very embarrassed, such a person, no one wants to continue to get along with her, he will not care about the other party's feelings, Do something embarrassing and say something embarrassing.

1. Introversion.

2. Failure to abide by integrity.

3. Selfishness.

4. Lack of gratitude.

5. Dishonest ...... in the world

Poor popularity, Lord.

The reason is that the family relationship is not good.

People with poor popularity love to say this.

Those who are not popular may be not good at socializing, or they may have too much temper, but they will have a common problem, that is, they are too poor to speak. The words they spoke made people very uncomfortable to listen to, especially the following 4 sentences.

I've told you a long time ago.

As the saying goes, it's hard to buy a thousand dollars, and it's hard to buy regret medicine. When you regret something wrong over there, suddenly a person comes to you with the sentence "I told you a long time ago, you just don't listen, look at it, regret it!" At this time, I believe that whoever listens to it will have a fire in their stomachs.

There is a saying that if you don't reach the Yellow River, you can't die, and many people do need to hit the wall before they know their mistakes, but at that time, he doesn't need a "hindsight" person to nag around. What he needs at this time is to reflect quietly on his own, or to find someone who is willing to listen to him. If you can't listen to the other person all the time, then the best thing to do is to stay away from him and let him be quiet.

There is a phenomenon in psychology called "hindsight bias", we think that we already know the result, but this feeling often happens after we "know" the result, not that we really have the ability.

Those who like to use the posture of "hindsight" to highlight their intelligence and foresight are often not very popular.

You don't understand the phrase "you don't understand anything", "you know what", people who often say this kind of thing, like to habitually deny others. Regardless of whether the other party understands it or not, as soon as they open their mouths, they will first veto others. For them, other people's abilities are not as good as their own, and they are not at ease when they leave things to others.

Occasionally, I will ask others to do a small thing, and I will ask how it is going from time to time, for fear that others will not do it well.

This question is too general.,The poor popularity may come from one or more of the many reasons.,It depends on how the protagonist is seated.。 Most of these reasons are negative, and very few are positive. Generally speaking, determining a person's popularity difference is a conclusion reached after multiple contacts or long-term relationships, so the qualitative is more accurate and profound.

So, what are the common reasons for poor popularity?

First, there is no faith in words.

Some people who are not popular often do not pay attention to their credit. For example, if you don't repay the money you borrow, but you go back on what you promise, not only has no morality, but also has no pattern, and only wants short-term benefits, but ignores the negative and long-term impact of your words on your life.

Second, there is no sense of proportion.

When it comes to dealing with people, you need to be balanced. Some people with poor popularity, when they meet people for the first time, they show a very familiar appearance, make some excessive jokes, and do not grasp the balance well. This will not only not ease the embarrassment, but will make the other party feel very hypocritical and uncomfortable, and make others disgusted and alienated.

Third, be careful.

Generous people often win the favor of others, and people with poor popularity always calculate to let others pay back when they do a little thing for others, or they always like to calculate the money very clearly, for fear that they will suffer a small loss. Such a person will make others feel stingy, and no one wants to be friends with someone who cares about it.

Fourth, full of negative energy.

When you encounter a problem, you don't think about how to solve it, but complain about it. You know, negative energy is also contagious, but it will not bring any benefits, people often choose to stay away from those who have negative energy, so their popularity is naturally poor.

Fifth, there is a difference between the outside and the inside.

This type of person is the most common, this type of person looks friendly on the surface, but behind the scenes he likes to talk about the rights and wrongs of others. When dealing with people, the important thing is to be sincere and give your sincerity.

If you treat others with a mask, even in front of you and behind your back, you will always be exposed after a long time, and people will stay away from you.

My popularity is relatively poor, and to sum up myself, I come to the following reasons:

1. I don't like to talk about human feelings. Being tolerant at work means that I have to take the corresponding risks. Nowadays, people don't talk much about righteousness, and if I talk about human feelings at work, then if there is a mistake, the person I help may not come out to speak for me or make up for my loss.

I have seen too many so-called friends who want to wear a pair of pants with good strength, and I have seen too many so-called friends who fall into the well once something goes wrong, so I don't like to talk about human feelings, and everything is according to the rules and regulations.

Second, I don't like to be stuttered and stammered. If you tie up the leader, then you will be very passive in front of the leader. I'm a person who likes to eat by my skills. It is better to rely on others than on yourself, and instead of studying how to lead every day, it is better to use it to improve yourself.

3. I don't like to owe others. Some people will think of ways to make you owe others a favor because of the power in your hands. And so far, I have not been given any kind of gift by anyone at work, after all, I have a short mouth and a soft hand, and then there will be no principles in my work.

When the time comes, let the family take the handle, it is really easy to get on the thief ship and get off the thief ship, so I don't owe anyone else. My leader was actually very dissatisfied with me, because I didn't accept benefits from the grassroots, so he said that I didn't go to the Tao. My colleagues said that I was too rigid and didn't know how to be accommodating.

For me, it doesn't matter. Do your job honestly. When the time comes, they will have an incident, and the dirty water will not be splashed on me.