More than sixty percent of girls in couples will mention breaking up first, why are girls more decis

According to the survey, more than sixty percent of couples and girls will mention breaking up first, so why is this? Is it because girls are more decisive and ruthless than boys? The answer is no.

As the saying goes: once a guy says to break up, then it is a real breakup; And the girl said that the breakup was largely to get the attention of the other party. Girls belong to more emotional animals, if it weren't for the extreme disappointment, she would be reluctant to really break up with the other party.

Some girls talk about breaking up just to get the attention of the other party.

I saw a report on the Internet before that a girl broke up because she fell on the road, and the boy couldn't hold her in time, so she decisively broke up. The boy didn't understand why he broke up with such a trivial matter. Later, the girl said that she just fell, and she suddenly thought of the ice water handed by her boyfriend every time she was aunt, her boyfriend playing games when she was sick, and she said countless times that she didn't like to eat coriander, and her boyfriend never remembered it, and her ex-boyfriend's WeChat would be secretly added back if she deleted it.......

She suddenly didn't know what she was holding onto. All the departures are traceable, life is full of clues that you don't love me, and you still ask me why I left you?

I have discussed with many classmates and friends of the opposite sex about whether boys will take the initiative to break up. Of those, eighty percent told meIn a relationship, they never take the initiative to say that they will break up, and even if they want to break up, they will use their behavior to force each other to say it. Of course, this is not to say that all boys are like this.

In the minds of this part of the boys, it is particularly difficult to break up, and they will also feel that it is a great harm to the girls, soThey are more inclined to use the ...... of indifference, inactivity, and hot and coldLet the girls feel their emotions and then take the initiative to leave, they will even feel that this way can minimize the damage.

The matter of feelings itself is difficult to explain, and there is no right or wrong. Therefore, the one who leaves first is not necessarily not sad, and the person who leaves later does not necessarily deserve sympathy. If you don't know the whole picture of a relationship, don't judge and question it easily.

That's because in love, most girls are in a weak position, the reason why he proposed to break up is because of the boy's cold violence, or various behaviors, so that he is exhausted and disheartened, the boy in order not to fall into the reputation of abandonment, always want the girl to break up first, the reason why the girl is so decisive is because there is really no love.

1.Girls are more emotional, and boys are more rational. Most girls are because they really like this boy, will accept the boy's pursuit, once a boy is recognized, he will pay great attention to the sense of boundaries, wholeheartedly to this boy, take the initiative to clear his circle of friends, and is also happy to introduce his boyfriend to relatives and friends.

On the contrary, most boys don't know how to reject girls, so they will give other girls the wrong feeling, and it is easier to attract a third party. At this time, the girl is very painful, but I still hope that the boy can understand his feelings, and the boy will feel that the girl is unreasonable. If she is hurt too much, the girl will be completely disappointed and will break up decisively.

2.Boys cherish their reputation more. Girls generally believe that a person can give everything for this person, but boys will think about it a lot, and there are always various reasons and excuses, girls are easy to betray their relatives for a boyfriend, without the support of relatives, and no good friends to maintain, there is only one boyfriend left.

Boys won't, boys' social circle is very large, and they won't accompany their girlfriends all day long. When there is a problem with the relationship between two people, I hope that the girl will propose to break up, so that she can reduce her guilt and will not affect her reputation.

3.Boys are more obsessed with the feeling of hugging left and right, and younger sisters like to be adored by others. The boy enjoys it more, someone to take care of at home, and someone to worship outside, even if one day, he no longer likes his girlfriend, but his girlfriend takes care of his food, clothing, housing and transportation at home, he also feels that he has no face to propose to break up, and he doesn't want to break up, and he may also think nobly, he doesn't want to make the other party sad, but he doesn't know that not loving a woman but not breaking up with him is the biggest insult to him.

A glamorous man who is dressed up by a woman, enjoys the worship of other women outside, and may be picky about women when he comes back, and when a woman realizes that she is really wrong, she will break up decisively. It's the boy who is reluctant, because he wants to have both fish and bear's paws.

Before discussing this topic, let me state my opinion on this issue:It may be true that more than sixty percent of couples are girls who break up, but this does not mean that girls are more decisive than boys in the face of love。There is no necessary causal relationship between the two.

I don't know if my friends have read the book "This Thing for Men" written by Bian Chun, which talks about the breakup of boys and girls. When it comes to breaking up, boys are often subtle and reluctant to say it, while girls can only take the initiative to break up for various reasons.

01. Girls are more sensitive and fragile in their hearts, and many of them are fake breakups

When girls encounter some emotional problems, they are more likely to be sentimental and even want to break up. But when it was time to really break up, they didn't want to.

What I remember more is that when I was in a long-distance relationship, every time we quarreled, it was definitely a "breakup". At first, I would coax her every time, begging her not to break up (after all, only by seeing through it can we be a good couple). Later, I really couldn't stand it, and when she mentioned breaking up, I immediately agreed.

In fact, I know she won't really break up)

When she sees that I agree to break up, she will turn to accuse me of saying "I don't love her anymore", "I have someone else I like", "I have changed my mind", etc. In the end, I came to the conclusion that "we won't break up, because she can't let my 'conspiracy' succeed".

02. The root of the problem of boys' cold violence is not in girls

Sometimes the breakup is indeed proposed by the girl, but the root of the problem is the boy. When a guy has another person he likes, he will resort to cold violence, "cold" treatment of each other's feelings, and wait for the girl to break up.

Because if the girl mentions breaking up, he can stand on the moral high ground and accuse the girl of not doing it, and use this to achieve his own goals. Of course, it is not excluded that some boys think about the girl's face and feel that they have been sorry for the girl, so that the girl can take the initiative to dump herself, and she can feel a little more comfort.

03. Caused by the current social environment

Women are different from men, men's youth is extended in this large social environment, and women are suitable for marriage for only a few years (it is generally considered that 25 to 30 years old is the marriageable age for women). Therefore, women's youth is not consumable, and it is more precious than that. It is also aware of this problem that women are more likely to withdraw when they encounter uncertainties.

Therefore, I think it is unfair to simply throw the issue of breakup to women, let alone say that they are decisive and ruthless. On the contrary, we should take care of women's feelings and give them a sense of security.

<> is not only the appearance, but also the family background, three views, education, etc.

Maybe she entered this mediocre university with mediocre grades.

I have classmates and friends around me.

Influenced by the people around him, he dated a mediocre boyfriend.

Talking about a love that makes your face blush and your heart beats.

Passing the time of a few years in college in a daze.

didn't know that he was slowly dragging himself into the depression.

In the eyes of a bystander, I think it's a pity for girls.

With her external conditions, she can find a better person and have a relationship that is respected and cared for.

Campus love is pure and beautiful, but are you sure he's the right one?

A good experience can make you more positive.

And a negative experience can cast a shadow on the mind.

Not every old man is worth trying.

I remember what my teacher said before: people's feelings are limited, if you scatter at will, and you have experienced too much, even if you meet true love in the future, it will be difficult to cherish and treat it wholeheartedly, and in the end you will not be happy.

Some people may think that college is incomplete without being in love.

But it is better to lack than to overuse, and good people or things are worth slowly discovering and waiting.

I'd rather only fall in love once in my life than spend time on enriching experiences or passing the time.

Immature feelings are very precious, don't be presumptuous, don't waste and mispay the truth.

Take more time to shape your inner self and improve your vision and cognition.

In a relationship, the boy really cares for the girl and can think about the problem from the other party's point of view. I think this is also the love that every girl wants.

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More than sixty percent of girls in couples will mention breaking up, I think it's because everyone has their own view of love, girls will think more about the future, and they will also think carefully about the boy's actions Whether he is the other half they want.

Although it is said that no one is perfect, but the shortcomings of boys and girls really can't bear it, boys say that they will change but they still refuse to change, and girls are easy to break up.

Girls are more decisive than boys in the face of love, and I personally think the reasons are as follows:

1. Most girls fall in love and go to get married, while boys are uncertain, and the two people have different plans for the future, and girls will break up first. If one party is willing to accommodate one party, it is okay, it still depends on the tolerance of two people to each other.

2. In intimate relationships, girls will be hurt more in love. This also determines that girls will be more cautious in love. The state of the boy in a relationship, the girl will pay more attention.

If the boy's signs are not right, the girl will have the idea of leaving and will propose to break up.

3. What girls want to find is a reliance, if the boy can't afford it and has no sense of responsibility, it is easy for the girl to give up, so as to break up. Boys still have to mature themselves first, and think more about girls and their own future.

First of all, as many people know, men belong to the decision-making type, while women are tentative types, and breaking up is inevitably an important decision that requires caution, so the probability of the tentative character taking the initiative to break up is greater. If a woman really wants to break up, it's fine, if it's just a temptation, from a male point of view, you are deliberate, and I respect your choice. I won't go into too much detail about this, Gao Zan in the front row has explained it very clearly.

Then, because men are more durable, many things, including managing love, will adopt the principle of bounded rationality, which is almost enough in layman's terms. Women, on the other hand, tend to be satisfied in their relationships. That is, women believe that if we have problems in love, we should try our best to solve them and make them disappear.

Men think that problems will always exist, as long as it does not affect the core, then let him go, and everyone will understand and tolerate each other.

Therefore, women in love tend to be more anxious and emotional. Their angle is that I put up with you, tolerate you, forgive again and again, why are you still like this, I can't see your changed attitude, so I can't bear it, so I broke up. And from a male point of view, what a big deal, is it necessary to dwell on these trivial things such as how to squeeze toothpaste?

Tend to maintain a fixed rhythm and way of life.

As I said earlier, men are more durable, and it is not easy to get sympathy and comfort from the outside world in life, so they are forced to learn the ability to digest negative emotions efficiently, which is the cave time method. At the same time, men are also better at entertaining themselves and satisfying their emotional needs. And women are much worse in this regard.

At the same time, men lack the skills to soothe the emotions of others, after all, you can't force a person who digests himself by silence to have a soothing effect. As a result, men often give the illusion that he shows a particularly indifferent and lazy state, which will exacerbate the woman's anxiety and break up.

Finally, there are various different costs. For women, whether it is reasonable or not, it is definitely easier to find a partner than an older one. And most people fall in love at a relatively young age.

Therefore, it is not easy for the man to find a partner and invests more economic costs, even if he and the woman are not suitable, the subconscious will choose to continue to run in. What's more, if a man takes the initiative to break up, he is also easy to be deducted from the hat of a scumbag and receive more moral pressure.

But the woman is different, and the biggest cost of the woman is the opportunity cost, which is the age I mentioned earlier. So once there is a problem in love, they feel that they can't afford it, so they naturally have to take advantage of their youth and advantageous position, and quickly break up and find the next one.