What causes boys to be timid and slow to react?

Some children are indeed very timid, and they will not dare to face anything when they encounter something, but this kind of personality will cause the child to miss a lot of opportunities. It's because of the education I received since childhood.

1.Growing up in an insecure environment.

The sense of security actually has a greater impact on children, because children sometimes need to be alone at home, or to get along alone, but if children do not have a sense of security, then when they are alone, they may have separation anxiety disorder and become afraid to leave their parents at will.

In this way, it is not conducive to the cultivation of children's personality independence, so that children do not dare to travel alone or complete things independently when they grow up.

2. Being bullied

Because timid people can't face things bravely, therefore, if they are bullied, they will let the other party bully and dare not resist, and finally it is easy to be mentally hurt because of being bullied.

Cultivate optimism. One of the psychological roots of a child's timidity is that he is prone to pessimism. Optimistic people regard difficulties as normal, feel that difficulties are strong and weak, weak and strong, and full of confidence, determination and perseverance to overcome difficulties; The pessimistic people artificially exaggerate the difficulties and surrender before the battle.

Therefore, it is necessary to encourage your child to look at problems from a positive point of view, make more progress, and see his achievements, so as to have confidence in himself and develop an optimistic attitude.

Start small. Lack of perseverance is another psychological root cause of children's timidity. A person who is not strong in perseverance will have a retreat mentality when he feels that difficulties are difficult to overcome.

However, by accumulating victories in overcoming small difficulties, we can gradually cultivate people's perseverance in overcoming major difficulties. Therefore, children should be asked to start with small things, especially those that he ignores the most and is most likely to expose the weakness of will, to cultivate perseverance. For example, getting up on time every day, writing notes, morning exercises, etc., under any circumstances, not sloppy, persevering, can not make excuses, over time, you can gradually cultivate tenacious perseverance.

Encourage social interaction. Timid children are often introverted and withdrawn, so parents should create more opportunities to encourage children to take the initiative to socialize with others and obtain emotional support from their peers. For example, let children take the initiative to greet people, invite peers to come to play, introduce children to guests and play together, etc., to train children to act boldly.

Don't criticize sarcasm. Timid and fearful children have strong self-esteem, parents must not criticize and blame for their shortcomings, which deepens the impact of children's bad emotions, parents should give their children more encouragement, praise language, eyes, etc., enhance children's self-confidence, reduce psychological pressure.

When my child was a child, he was very bold, and he didn't dare to go to a room alone to get something, so I said to the child, don't be afraid, Mom and Dad are at home, you call Mom, go to that house, but the child dares to go, and the next time the child still calls "Mom" to go, in fact, I didn't agree, the child still went to the house he was afraid of alone, and then I didn't have to call me to go by myself.

When the child is practicing his courage, he must build a platform for the child, take the steps, and let the child gradually and slowly exercise step by step. When my child can go to a house alone, I began to exercise the child's courage to be alone at home, when the child was four years old, I told the child that I went out with his father for a little something, and he will come back in a while, you have fun at home, and my mother will buy you delicious food, at first the child is unwilling, we slowly explain to the child that the home is very safe, I lock the security door for you, and you look at the alarm clock at home when it points to 6, and the mother will come back.

We came back earlier than scheduled, and after this time the child was alone at home, the courage increased again, and the next time as long as he was told how long it would be to come back, the child would happily promise to read a picture book at home alone.

If the child is older, then the mother should be regarded as a weakling, let the child protect the mother's safety, the child is a man, should protect the mother, the child is very brave, often educate the child in this way, the child will have responsibility, and because of the task of protecting the mother, the courage will be greater and greater. As long as it is practiced, the child's courage will become bigger and bigger.

education. Some children were teased by their relatives when they were young and liked to be scared. Hey, hey. Resulting in a small son who grows big, how old is he now.

If the child is not confident, encourage him more, assist him more, let him try, and cultivate self-confidence.

Don't think like this, that's because he cares about you too much, if he confesses before he doesn't know if you have feelings for her, you don't think you mean that the two of them will not be very embarrassed to meet in the future, so that they don't even have friends, I confessed to the girl I like very much a few days ago, and it turned out to be this, and now I regret that it is better to be friends, at least we can go out together.

If he faces a girl, it means that he loves that girl very much, and if he is timid in daily life, he may be knowledgeable!

Say; It's not that men are timid, it's that men are lustful.

Not all men are timid, but many are brave.

Are you a woman?

If it's a woman. Men are not timid. He's afraid of hurting you.

Not every boy is timid.

It's a good thing and not a bad thing for a boy to be timid, and if he is timid, he won't do bad things, and he will definitely not step on two boats in the future. He's out there, you can rest assured.

The downside is that if something unexpected happens, he may not be able to make the wisest response because he is timid. It would be different if he was smart. Therefore, it is best for you to judge his personality.

People always grow up slowly. Slowly adapt to the unfamiliar environment. Timidity is not a problem, there is nothing to help with.

Be careful to sail the ship of ten thousand years. I think your brother's performance is pretty good for a 13-year-old. Children should not jaywalk, and they should indeed lock the door at night.

Singing the K Ferris wheel is a personal interest, so what does it matter if you don't go. Riding the Ferris wheel a hundred times does not prove that the person is brave. Meals that have been in the fridge for more than 24 hours should be thrown away.

You can't eat it for more than two days. Encourage your brother and don't emphasize the concept of "you are timid". First, he is not necessarily timid, it is likely that your conceptual limitations think that he is timid.

Second, don't let children have their own timid fixed thinking.

Timidity is not a disadvantage, it is the performance of a man, but it is necessary to be brave and resourceful. Timid boys are generally very assertive and not the kind of people who don't have ideas. My son is like that, he is very timid, but he is very assertive and measured, and I think this is very good.

I think it's a bad thing for both boys and girls to be timid, no matter what you do, there will be a lot of restrictions, and even a lot of things that should belong to you, work, and because you are timid, you don't dare to fight for the things and things you want.

This can't be done, what can I do if I encounter something and run away after I encounter something?

Therefore, it is necessary to exercise the courage properly.

It is very important to exercise regularly, and if your physical fitness improves, your courage will gradually improve.

Behavior and action should be open, not cowering or anything like that, and it seems particularly scared.

Be confident in doing things and believe that you can do a certain thing well. Rather than devaluing your abilities too much.

It is generally believed that this is mainly a psychological problem, and it is necessary to overcome the psychology of inferiority complex - to be confident, not to feel that you are very bad, and you can't do anything well. Be bold to get along with others, expand your social circle, participate in more physical activities, collective parties, etc., learn to get along with others, communicate with more friends, and be in a good mood, so that you can slowly get out of the psychology of inferiority.

As a man, you should participate in more social activities, try to talk to strangers, you should learn how to adapt to society, you can start from life, study, etc., you can talk to friends first, boldly talk about things in life, don't think nonsense, be confident, there is nothing difficult in the world, as long as you try to try, there will always be success.

Keep cheering yourself up, tell yourself that you can do it, even if you fail, you have gained the experience of failure, and you are one step closer to the next success. So when it comes to things, some need to be bold, some need to be timid - to think about whether to do it or not, it's not a matter of being timid.