My personality is always hesitant, what should I do if I feel bad?

Dear Friend:

Don't worry about the fate of life Everyone will have this or that life troubles Find a confidant who loves you to face your ups and downs in the future, you have to remember that suffering losses, being deceived, even if it is your ordinary fall, is the most valuable experience in your life

What you have to do is accept all of this, cheerful acceptance, generous tolerance, fraternity, even the most painful thing.

Just like listening to a story, don't take it too seriously. Everyone's opportunities, circumstances, and overall popularity are different, and the main thing is that the historical environment and social system are different.

Look at everything around you with an optimistic mind, people who laugh at you, people who don't love you, you can take the initiative to show your friendliness, and forgive those people with a tolerant and generous heart, friends like the new and hate the old, you can cherish them well, be good to them, and they will naturally cherish you very much.

You don't need to be a character in someone else's life, you can find good friends to chat and communicate more when you are bored and depressed, you don't like others laughing at you, you can turn a blind eye, you don't need revenge, revenge will only bring more harm!

I hope you have a good mood to do your own thing, don't care about other people's eyes, don't care about other people's ridicule, just be yourself! In fact, there is no need to pretend to be crazy and stupid to escape reality, escaping will only make you more lonely and lonely.

So, isn't it a lifetime? If that is the case, why do we choose to be unhappy or burdened? Is that right?

For man does not live for himself alone. Everyone has a series of groups such as relatives, friends, etc. People have to take into account the thoughts of the people around them.

Everyone is responsible! Living is not just about living, how to live, what kind of way to live? Once the material needs are satisfied, can the spiritual needs be satisfied?

So people have a certain amount of pressure. The double pressure of the outside world, its own body. That's why people feel tired!

In fact, people don't have to be so tired, it depends on how you look at your life?

In fact, there is a lot of fun in life, but your tired body doesn't want to feel it.

Have more interest and curiosity to discover the bits and pieces of life! ~

Really enjoy life and you will find that life is beautiful. People won't be so tired.

There are not so many things in the world that are inevitable because of accident, the plan is in people, the success is in heaven, and things are man-made! ~^

So much to the pointYou should work harder to face life.

Even a storm is a necessary part of your life!

May you shine every day! Happy and healthy :)

I hope to encourage you together. ~~

Don't think too much, everything has its own ending! No one can change it!

It may be that the ever-accelerating pace of work or life has brought you great mental pressure, feeling psychological troubles, and need to be adjusted.

Adjust the time of work and rest appropriately, set a time for exercise, take a break often, relax the tense nerves, and you will forget your worries.

How to relieve and eliminate mental stress?

Stress relief: Roar loudly when you get home.

minutes to vent the resentment in the heart; Then sit on the sofa and listen quietly to the light**.

minutes, and you'll feel much more comfortable after that. Or if you confide your grievances to family or close friends, you can be relieved. Hopefully, through psychological adjustment, you will be able to deal with similar situations correctly and make yourself physically and mentally happy.

You should listen to more ** and let the beautiful music dissolve the mental fatigue. Brisk and comfortable ** can not only give people the edification and enjoyment of beauty, but also make people's spirits be effectively relaxed. Laughing is the best way to get rid of stress, so you can forget about your worries and smile often.

You should also consciously slow down the pace of life, deal with all kinds of complicated things calmly and calmly, and do not blame yourself even if you do something wrong, which is conducive to people's psychological balance and also helps to relieve people's mental pressure. Be brave and face the reality, and don't be afraid to admit that your abilities are limited and you can't handle things properly.

You need to make a lot of friends, talk to friends often, and communicate or confide in people from the bottom of your heart can not only enhance people's friendship and trust, but also make you feel good and your worries are eliminated.

Have a good mood!

I also have things that I am depressed about, and I usually give myself three days, and I think that three days is not good to solve, even if there are three years of uselessness. If you are still depressed after three days, you will simplify things into two outcomes, take a coin and choose the answer and the pros and cons of the coin, and toss the one according to whichever outcome is followed. It's about the choice, not the outcome.

If you do something wrong, don't sum up the lessons learned! Work, in a word, ride a donkey to find a donkey, find a good donkey, and then throw away the donkey, hehe!

Trouble, thanks!

I think the situation that the subject is facing now is universal, and most migrant workers are facing such a dilemma, struggling with the years in a job that they don't like or that makes them distressed.

Feelings of distress, distress, and disgust are all emotions, and we are easily swayed by emotions when we are in them, and it is emotions that control our thinking, not reality. Sometimes emotions and reality coincide, but most of the time emotions are an amplifier of reality and do not reflect our real situation.

Emotions are fundamental issues and factors that directly affect us, so we can start with emotions and try to analyze them.

When the subject mentions work, he uses words like disgust and dislike, so what is the reason for the subject's emotion? We can't rush when thinking about this problem, and it's best to sort it out during a break or quiet time, because what we think is not necessarily the reason why we don't like the environment.

The subject may wish to list all the reasons he can think of on a piece of paper, and think about whether it is still unacceptable if he changes the environment, such as in the working environment of the book café that the subject likes. If a change of environment is acceptable, it means that this is not the real reason, but an amplifier of emotions.

For example, in my last job, I worked a lot of overtime, and then I was overwhelmed and resigned. But is it really overtime that really makes me unable to accept this job? The answer is no, because in some environments I can accept overtime.

The real reason is that the real corporate culture in the company goes against my values and makes me very uncomfortable. Overtime became a negative amplifier of this sentiment, and it only accelerated my departure.

Therefore, the main question is to analyze the real reason, if it is irreconcilable, resignation is also an option. If the reason is our own, if so, even if we leave this company, we will still have similar problems in another company.

After talking about the reasons why you don't like your job, let's talk about the issues you need to consider if you decide to leave your job. The most direct is income, how long can you sustain your life with the funds in your hands, and what is the probability of finding the next job or starting a successful business during this period? If the odds aren't high, you might as well start planning now, or save money in a plan, or find a side hustle to support yourself.

Otherwise, even if you escape from your current situation, you will be forced to determine the next job at will due to financial pressure, which is likely to fall into a vicious circle.

Then you have to change jobs immediately, don't dwell on it anymore at this time, it will only waste time and make no sense to continue struggling.

Resign directly, since you don't like work, you should leave immediately, find a job you like, and you will have a good development in the future, and you will not let yourself be tired and bored.

The hesitant character can easily judge with 2 simple actions that you really need to master.

A hesitant personality will hinder your personal development in the future, boys should do things simply, but you must think about it before doing it, and let it go when you think about it!

Can personality be changed? I only know that habits can be changed, and if my personality changes, I can change it myself. It seems that personality can only be changed, right? If you want to change on your own, if you have this ability, I will change it when I go back.

When faced with a difficult or difficult decision, you can try a reckless choice and take it one step at a time. Although it may make you lose something, I think you can slowly change this personality of yours, and instead of delaying on both sides, it is better to choose one side to go to the end.

In fact, it's good to think about it the other way around, what you think hesitation is a kind of caution, some things are your own is your own, if not, you can't get more opportunities, I used to think that you were like this, and I didn't have confidence in living, and then I felt that some things just wanted to open up.

Do you want to change? Do you often choose to do what you are used to rather than what you take risks?

Have you ever heard of the "Enneagram"? Personally, I am friendly to consider you to be the ninth, the mediator. Although he is often hesitant, he has the ability to perceive the inner experience of others, to listen to the views of others, and to always find the key to open the door to happiness for others.

So, it's kind of unique. Pavarotti (Italian singer). Dwight D. Eisenhower (34th in the United States**) was the No. 9 personality.

So, don't feel inferior, you have mysterious abilities that no one else knows about, but you just forgot to pay attention.

Change slowly, don't rush, do more of what you're good at, and develop self-confidence.

When your hesitation brings you real pain, you can change.

There is an old saying that is good, the country is easy to change, the nature is difficult to change, this is your own character, it is too difficult to change, since God has given yourself this character, you must have your own character survival route, don't add to the troubles,

Learn the theory of dependent origination, Madhyamaka.

Indecision will delay the high-quality completion of things. It's a flaw of character. Because of your indecision, because of your lack of self-confidence, because you may be under too much pressure in your study, life or work, it happens that you don't know how to solve things.

Your personality makes you unable to handle things, and you may have to find a way for others to do things for you.

Suggestion: You should improve your self-confidence and learn to deal with things immediately; If you form a good style of dealing with things decisively, you can avoid the phenomenon of condemning or taking regret medicine after the fact. As long as you learn to deal with one thing well, you will be able to deal with more quickly in the future.

I hope you believe that you are capable of handling things, and that you will be quick and decisive! 。

Indecisiveness describes a person's character as cowardly and unable to make up his mind when encountering problems. Hesitation and lack of decision. People with indecisive personalities are often indecisive in life, and they are often indecisive between different choices and cannot make trade-offs; They are often skeptical of the decisions they make, fearing that their decisions will have undesirable consequences.

They can't be brave enough to face failure and take advantage of the opportunity to succeed. An indecisive personality often has a negative impact on life and becomes a stumbling block on the road to success.

The lack of a clear understanding of the nature of the problem leads to the inability to make up one's mind when encountered, and at the same time, it is also the cause of psychological conflict. For example, young people who have just entered the society often do not know how to deal with problems because they lack the necessary experience and knowledge, and they are often indecisive when they encounter problems.

It seems that you belong to an immature character, hesitant to do things, dare not make decisions, always afraid of doing wrong and being deceived, you decide for yourself, no matter how big or small, decide right and wrong by yourself, don't care, don't regret if you suffer, right, don't be too arrogant, next time you dare to decide, you must learn to have an independent character, don't always rely on others.

Your character is always hesitant, this is determined by your character, you slowly learn to be strong, do things decisively, this is better.

Personality can be changed. You don't like this kind of character, just be decisive in everything you do, let yourself try it, and know what it feels like to be decisive and resolute in doing things.

Although the personality cannot be changed. But you don't like such a character. When doing things. You should do it decisively and don't hesitate. Give yourself a try. The feeling of doing things for a while.