Is rebellion a personality, is it difficult to live oneself without rebellious traits?

<> writer Yang Daxia said that rebellion is a stage of life.

Writer Yang Daxia expresses, shouting and confusion, struggling and sinking, pursuing and transcending, doubting and escapism. They're crazy, but they're real. They are lost, but they dare to rebel.

I feel that rebellion is a prominent personality, no rebellion does not mean that you can't live yourself, people are different from each other, if you are a gentle person, you have to live out of rebellion, how can you say that he lives out of himself?

If the answer helps!

This is not necessarily true, but most of them are rebellious and have a personality.

Many adults think that their children are disobedient and mischievous and rebellious. And the first solution that comes to mind, the solution from ancient times to the present: strict discipline, whip and lollipop.

I believe that many parents use this method to educate their children.

But just because of the bad luck, the child still rebelled.

What's the problem?

In fact, many parents don't know how to communicate with their children, they just think that they can teach their children well if they are fierce and serious in their education.

But is that all it takes?

For children who lack communication, many parents do not know what their children are thinking in their hearts. Sometimes, they even go against the child's psychology and think that they think it is the right way to teach.

And often in this way, the child's incomprehension is formed, and then the rebellious psychology is slowly formed.

Maybe I'm not telling the story completely, but it's really the base type of many children's rebellion.

Students who are now in their teenage years are prone to rebellious mentality. First, there are the mental processes that this period inevitably has; Second, society is becoming more and more individualized and self-oriented, which leads to a more rebellious mentality.

Teenagers gradually have a mentality of avoiding the contradictions between modern people and society, and not being able to compromise with them, and they are full of many discussions about the value of life, the meaning of happiness, the worldview, and values. In the contradiction of growing up, they ask: What is wrong with running away from the things they hate and pursuing the things that bring happiness?

There's really nothing wrong with that, but you can't survive unless you face reality and keep telling yourself what makes sense to do it. Reality or dreams, which one to choose? The frustration of choosing a dream leads to a continuous expansion of aspirations, and the resistance to the surrounding things, parents, and the school leads to a deepening of the rebellious mentality.

This has developed the psychology of wanting to do the opposite with others.

There is a barrier between people, and one person can never fully understand the other. But at the same time, everyone must go through others to confirm their own existence. When we think that the person who others affirm and know is not our true self,"Maybe I've been laughing, but I've been crying......"If so, there will be a great sense of fear in the heart, which will be reflected as an act of non-compliance.

The way people look at things and measure things is the way people look at things and the areas they don't want others to see (such as privacy) or want others to understand but don't understand. We may wish to live in a world where there are no misunderstandings and no barriers between hearts. The desire of teenagers to be recognized, to be fully understood, is even greater, however"It is important to know that unevenness and polymorphism are the source of happiness"。

Maybe we need to find a solution to rebellion, but some things are not all solvable. No one has their own world view and values, and at the same time, there are inevitably certain limitations and narrowness, only with their own limited scale to observe, measure, and understand the world, so no one can really fully and completely understand the present and others, which is the vanity of human wisdom, and it can be said that it is a dark place in the human heart. Teenagers grow up in this incomprehension, and they do not understand others and are not understood, perhaps the rebellious psychology is one of the breakthroughs.

However, if people can look at the world from a different perspective and treat others objectively and comprehensively, their fear, anxiety and avoidance of others will be reduced, and if they can do so, they will be able to get out of the original closed and narrow world and discover a new environment. But it's just one"Possibility"。

Rebellion is the only way for teenagers to mature, and it is a process of spiritual completion.