I want to make some friends, but I don t know how to make friends

I'm 17 years younger than you, but I have similar communication problems to you.

I'm a typical ugly officer, just stupid who can't do things, and I don't feel like I have many friends, and there are only a few confidants. But that's enough.

Well. Maybe you can be bold, sincere, cheerful, I also have low self-esteem, and I feel that the world can't tolerate me. But learn to be confident

If you talk to a friend about it, don't keep talking about it yourself, if you discuss a controversial issue, it's best to avoid talking about it again, don't talk about it behind your back, and if you talk about a problem that makes your friends feel bored, then don't talk about it again and try to make a common topic again.

Refer to "Being a Man at Peking University".

1) I want to be as pleasant as possible, 2) I want to be more kind to others, 3) I am less demanding of others, more tolerant of others' mistakes and mistakes, and seek the best possible explanation for their actions.

4) I should behave as if success is within my reach, and my current personality is the personality I want, and all my actions and feelings should be cultivated towards this personality.

5) I don't let ideas color facts with pessimism or denial.

6) I want to practice smiling at least three times a day.

7) No matter what happens, I react and try to be as calm and sensible as possible.

8) Never think about pessimistic and negative "facts" that cannot be changed.

Don't be in a hurry to make friends, because at the age of 18, your environment has changed, and it is difficult to make good friends, especially when you step into college, the friends you make will be estranged due to regional differences, ==

But learning to socialize is very helpful in your life, even if many friends in college can't be as kind to each other as in middle and high school, they will be your best partners in your future career.

Now your main problem is low self-esteem, why low self-esteem? Scary-looking? Not good at studying?

I tell you that the ugliest man will marry a wife who is jealous of handsome guys, and no matter how bad his studies are, through persistence, in the college entrance examination, he will get better results than those students with good grades, you have to eliminate psychological barriers, learn to be confident, if you don't accept yourself, will others accept yourself?

In fact, when you are confident, your behavior will become different, your sunny smile will infect the people around you, your hard work will touch others, and your positivity will affect others, so that more and more people are willing to contact you. At this time, you are not good at speaking, but with so many "sparring partners", do you still need to worry that you can't speak?

To make friends and attract each other, you must first attract each other.

Second, stay confident. Some people don't have many friends, because they don't know if the other party will be friends with them, so you have to be confident, who has disadvantages and advantages, and you are the same. So be confident and brave, open your heart and make friends with others, and you are no worse than others.

Third, learn to praise each other. When you discover the strengths of others, you praise them from the heart, which makes it easier to close your psychological distance, and it is easier to become friends.

Fourth, help others more. This is also a way to make more friends. No one likes selfish people, who also likes people who love to help enthusiastically, if you help people often, your popularity will be good, and there will be more and more friends.

Fifth, keep smiling often. People who smile often are more likely to give people a good impression, easier to get close to, don't frown every day, as if someone owes you a lot of money.

Seventh, actively cultivate your own interests and hobbies, so that it is easy to become friends when you find a common language.

How you get along with your friends depends on what level of friends you have. One is the people we have to face in order to integrate into society and adapt to society, which is a superficial friend and is interest-oriented; The other is the like-minded friends we have chosen, that is, the three friends of Confucius, who are friends in the true sense of the word. For the former, it may be more tactful and worldly when getting along; For the latter, there is more honesty and understanding.

The two are not absolute binary opposites, they can be transformed into each other, and the initiative lies entirely with oneself. There are not many friends, but there can be a few who are heart-to-heart, and they are enough. In fact, when you are in the world, you can tolerate others with a sincere heart towards your friends, even if you have hurt them.

If you can have such a mentality, if you can do this, you will be holy, and it is better to influence the people around you with this heart, so that the spark can also develop into a prairie fire. At that time, this society became the ideal ** era. It's man-made.

The English poet Herbard said, "A friend who is not what we ask for is a true friend." True friendship should have the nature of "asking for nothing", and once there is something to ask for, "asking" becomes the goal.

Turn all people into friends who want nothing, okay.

Learn to take the initiative to talk to people and socialize with others, instead of waiting for others to come to you all the time. This requires training yourself to be outgoing. Second, learn to be generous, if a person is particularly stingy and does not invite guests, it is definitely not okay to just let others treat and buy delicious food.

Third, it is difficult for people who learn to be tolerant and calculating to have long-term friends. Fourth, cultivate a wide range of interests and hobbies, and you can make a variety of friends.

What is a friend, friends are to help each other, to understand each other, to cheer each other on, some people look at someone pleasing to the eye, have their own advantages that do not have to become friends with her. However, there will be disputes between friends, for example, I had a fight with one of my best friends, but we quickly reconciled, if we can't reconcile, friends are just a name, in fact, you both regard each other as enemies, don't you? If you are friends, you should be considerate and humble to each other.

I think you can tell her that we'd better stop fighting.

You can let time dilute your friendship, of course, you can't deliberately go to her for tea, but don't fake friendship, it will make you vicious. simply rejected her, saying that we should not be friends, just be ordinary classmates.

To make friends is to make friends with similar interests, you can talk, you can't get close to her because he has an aura on him, ordinary people also have his charm, this is noncommittal.

Friends should be trustworthy, for example, if you are sick, he will visit you, and if you are injured, he will comfort you. You don't get good grades, he doesn't care and helps you. Friends are sincere, not for show.

It's like if you make a class flower and become a friend, and your classmates are envious, but you don't get along with her well, then it's better to find someone with the same personality and the same interests to become friends, this is the truth.

Therefore, please do not measure the value of friendship by the status and status of others.