I quarreled with my brother seriously, and I was afraid of hurting his self esteem, what should I do

As a more grumpy sister, I often yell at my brother, will say some very unpleasant and even hurtful words, sometimes my brother will quarrel with me, sometimes will be very reluctant to snort and ignore me, in fact, in this case it is easy to hurt his self-esteem, so worry about this situation, what should we do!

First of all, we should wait for both sides to calm down, talk to my brother well, explain, every time I quarrel with my brother, I wait for the mood to calm down, go to my brother, my brother is usually not idle, will play with the mobile phone or watch TV or do homework, I choose to sit on his side, calmly talk to him about the previous quarrel, tell him that it is not my real thoughts, but just now I was in a hurry to say nothing, my sister still loves you very much, you are also very good, If there is something wrong with my brother, I will also point it out and tell him not to do it in the future, it will be wrong, and I will reason with him, and I will sincerely apologize if it is my mistake.

In any case, you must communicate with your brother to let him know what you really think, and if he really has something wrong, you must point it out and ask him to correct it, don't blindly quarrel and don't say why. Communication will make us know and understand each other better, and enhance the relationship between us.

If you are embarrassed to say it, you can tell your brother on QQ or other social software, some people may feel that some words are unspeakable, then you can communicate with him on the Internet, so that you may not be able to say it in person, you can talk about it online, communicate well, remove the barrier, and exchange feelings.

These are some of the measures I will take when dealing with my brother and me, and they are still very effective, hopefully.

Since the words came out of your mouth, they hurt your brother. The solution is to say an apology from your mouth to save his feelings. Haven't you heard the phrase that the bell must be tied to the bell?

I have one thing that I remember from childhood to adulthood, and it was mine and my cousin. My cousin lived in my house for about a year when he was a child, and he spent his childhood with me, and we were eight years apart. I wasn't very old that year, and he was only a few years old.

I remember that there was a skit that year, and I always said something like "get out of the way" or "go to the side of death", and then I learned it. Actually, I didn't think this sentence was any good, at that time, I just thought that the sentence when I watched the sketch was a little funny, so I took it and made a mantra.

Then what happened was that my brother was looking for me for something, and I didn't want to, so I told him to "get out of the way", and he really didn't ask me much anymore. Once, my mother asked my brother to tell me what to buy, and I heard him clearly say that he didn't dare to ask my sister, and she always told me to get out of the way.

I was shocked at the time, I didn't expect my younger brother to take my joke seriously, thinking that I really disliked him and hated him. After this incident passed, I was wondering if my words really hurt my brother, and after I was mentally prepared, I secretly said to my brother at night, I'm sorry, I don't know if I said to get out of the way and make you sad, I won't say it again.

Years have passed since this incident, and I still remember it clearly, I respected my brother, and he respected me and listened to me. I think that relatives are actually not a big deal, they are just very direct relationships, sorry, it doesn't matter.

Why bother to think about the psychology of avoiding hurting your loved ones? It's better to just apologize, tell my brother that I was wrong, and tell him how great he is.

Actually, don't worry too much, boys' hearts are not so fragile and will not hurt their self-esteem because of your occasional heavy words.

First of all, you should pay more attention to your brother's recent psychological condition and external behavior, if he shows a particularly sad appearance, then you have to take some necessary measures. If there is no overreaction, then it is good to deal with it in a gentle way.

It's best to find a time to talk to him in a warm environment, such as at home. You first have to apologize to him, apologize a little, and then explain the situation to him, such as what you thought at the time, why you felt so angry, why you couldn't bear to say something serious, let him understand how you felt at the time, and let him understand you more.

The second is to ask him how he felt at the time, whether he would feel particularly sad or angry about your heavy words, if he was sad, you should comfort him well, don't let it go, if he feels particularly angry, ask him if he is angry, what is the reason for feeling angry, whether he doesn't like his brother's sudden heavy words, or complains that his brother doesn't understand him. Explain the reason according to his feelings, decide the next time a similar situation happens again according to his feelings, and choose a way that he is more comfortable with.

There is also to try to avoid quarrels in the future, quarrels will not solve the problem, resolve differences, and will hurt the feelings of both parties. The most important thing is that both parties should sit face to face, express their feelings to each other, understand each other, and the most important thing is that both parties must control the tone of their speech, don't be too impulsive, control their temper, and don't say two sentences like an outburst.

In the future, understanding each other more and controlling yourself more will reduce the number of quarrels and reduce the situation of hurting feelings due to conflict.

When you quarrel, you will talk without thinking, and it is useless to regret it now, only when all your brother's anger is gone, explain to him again, and strive for his forgiveness.

When people quarrel, they will say anything, and people at that time were irrational, and they dared to say no matter how many words they had. People are like this, and I believe that when you explain to your brother, he will understand and forgive you. But this kind of thing can't happen again, what people are most afraid of is hurting their self-esteem, so whether it is at home or outside, you must be calm in dealing with people, no matter how big things happen, you must silently count three numbers in your heart, and secretly remind yourself not to get angry.

If you really make a big noise, in the end, it will not only hurt the harmony, but also hurt each other's self-esteem, and you may not be able to recover it if you want to redeem it at that time. It's useless to regret it, and it's the smartest person to grow a wise person by eating a trench. It's not terrible to make a mistake, it's terrible to make the same mistake again.

I think you should find your brother to talk to her about admitting your mistakes, I think first of all it is wrong for you to quarrel with your brother, because after all, you should bear with it, let him not quarrel with him, in fact, because she is small, self-esteem may be hurt, you should care more about him recently, but admit mistakes, it must be to, because whether you are a sister or a brother, you have the right to take care of your brother, and the responsibility is the sense of responsibility, although he is wrong, you quarrel with her, you are very angry, In fact, he is quite helpless, after all, he is not upset when you say that, that is, I think you should be more tolerant as a big one. I.