The child s own house has always been in a dirty and messy state, how to make the child change?

Let your child learn to tidy up his room. Instead of repeatedly tidying up the house and teaching your child not to mess up the room, teach your child to tidy up his room on his own. Many children will not realize that he is messing up the room and doing it wrong, he will mistakenly think that he has messed up the room, and naturally there will be parents to clean it up.

Therefore, we should start to cultivate the sense of responsibility for what we do when our children are relatively young.

First of all, let the child visit the tidy room and feel the gap; The second is to work with your child to guide him or her to learn to tidy up his room.

We need to establish their correct values, get up early to let them clean up, formulate clear rules and regulations, reward them, and develop good habits.

This can help your child develop a habit of being clean and tidy and reward him when he or she behaves well.

This is due to the child's poor self-care ability, and it is necessary to cultivate the child's independence ability and let the child learn to tidy up the room by himself. If parents control too much, the child will depend on the parents, and the parents should gradually withdraw and let the children manage themselves, and when the children realize that they have problems, they will want to try to change themselves.

Parents are to point out their children's wrong behavior. Parents need to help their children realize that it is wrong to not tidy up the room and leave everything behind. Parents should point out mistakes to their children, let them have the idea of wanting to correct their mistakes, and children can learn to correct their mistakes when they realize that they have made mistakes.

Parents dote on their children and are reluctant to take care of them, which will harm them in the end.

Parents should be willing to let go, parents should communicate well with their children, so that children can learn to manage themselves. Because parents manage too much, because parents are reluctant to let go, because parents are always worried about their children's hardships, so children rely on their parents everywhere. The child does not want to clean up the room because there are parents who will clean up the room for him.

Parents should tell their children that they should clean up the room by themselves, and that parents cannot always help their children clean up the room, it is their own business. If your child can't even clean up the room, he will not be able to do anything in the future. Parents must be willing to let go, they must withdraw, and the child's affairs are up to him.

When the child grows up, some things should be solved by himself, and the room must be kept clean every day, and only by keeping the room clean will he be happy.

Exercise children's concentration ability and cultivate children to become a careful person. If the child is lost, it means that the child is usually lazy and the child is informal. If parents want their children to correct their mistakes, they must exercise their children's concentration ability and let them love to manage their own affairs.

Parents should let their children become a very careful person, and if the child is very serious, the child will not be lost. Parents should encourage their children, and as long as they manage their own affairs, parents should praise their children. Encouragement is the best motivation, children want to get the care and encouragement of parents, parents affirm the child, the child's enthusiasm will be very high, and the child will strive to become a serious person.

In fact, it can be summed up in one sentence: the child's habits are not good, because he used to be lazy, so it is difficult for him to change his behavior. This is inseparable from the parent's education style, they think that their children are too young to let them tidy up their housework, and as a result, when the other party grows up, when it is time to do these things, they are extremely lazy, and no matter how hard the adults teach, the other party is indifferent.

Because in this kind of child's thinking, he has no consciousness of tidying up the room, after all, he has been like this since he was a child, and there has been no problem. Because behavior is not regulated, it becomes extremely difficult to force correction, which is the core reason why some children are lazy and careless. So how can parents help their children get rid of this bad problem?

As mentioned earlier, the behavior is not regulated, which leads to the child developing a lazy habit, then the first thing parents have to do at this moment is to set rules for him, although it is a little late, but it is still effective. The so-called "rules" actually tell him what to do and what not to do, and implement this concept into the other person's mind. Pay attention to the second half of the sentence is the point, the first is just to explain to the child how to do something, in order to make the child willingly carry it out, you need to let the other person deeply understand the necessity.

In the case of tidying up the room, parents should first show their children how to tidy up and then emphasize the importance to them.

After the rules are set, the next step is to be implemented, the child's self-discipline is poor, and the parents must be supervised in the early stage, so adults here must not slack off and not condone it. As long as they survive for a month, the other party will be able to develop a habit of tidying up their own room.

If you want to implement the rules to the end, it is meaningless to rely on parents to emphasize it over and over again, and there is basically no compulsion when encountering willful children, so a specific reward and punishment system needs to be introduced here. Including how to punish for breaking the rules, and how to reward those who do well, this gives children the motivation to enforce it, and it is also the key to making this lifestyle habit deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.

Parents have the greatest influence on their children, and many things are learned by the other party as soon as they see it, and the key is that adults should give this kind of opportunity. Therefore, parents should take care of the housework in an orderly manner, set an example for each other, and then let go of their hands and let them try, and over time their children will also develop this good living habit.

I think it's okay to reprimand the child harshly and let him know that this behavior is very bad, so that he will slowly correct it later.

You have to tell your child that if you don't clean up the house, no one will clean it up for you. And you're going to change that sloppy habit. Otherwise, people won't like you.

The child's house is dirty and messy all day long, I don't know how to clean up, our behavior about the child is always a symptom rather than a cure, and the tolerance and indulgence of the child again and again will only make them unscrupulous, and the consequences are unimaginable. How can we educate better?

1.It's okay to be angry alone and calm yourself down.

Our eyes are on the child's body, we stare at the child to prevent them from making mistakes, in fact, the more you pay attention to the child's mistakes, the child will give full play to his own mistakes, so that the mother will pay attention to him. If we will pay attention to ourselves, the child will also carry his attention. In addition to his own international, the child's eyes are left with his mother.

Suddenly, I found that my mother no longer valued herself, and he would be worried and nervous, so when we quieted down and did our own work, they would also be attracted by us, and this time was a good time for education. So don't always let your child lead you, learn to be yourself and guide your child.

2.Instead of being angry, participate in your child's play.

Children's naughty mischief is also a manifestation and condition of brain development, in our eyes he is in the mess, we finally cleaned up the clean and tidy house, minutes without eyes, but these little guys are actually immersed in their own international, the mess in our eyes, in their eyes is a good thing they invented with their own hands. Playing with the child, you will not only stare at the messy house that needs to be cleaned up, but will be extraordinarily relaxed and happy.

3.It is possible to mess up the house, but it is necessary to clean up the mess yourself.

Naughty is a child's talent, we can control ourselves and let ourselves stay in a quiet situation, but children can't do it. When children are ready to start their real skills, we must tell them in advance that when you don't want to play, you should let everything be as it is, and mom believes in you and will be able to do it.

Children should be cultivated to take the initiative to clean up the house, and their concentration should also be improved. Children should also be allowed to take the initiative to help their parents share housework, and they should also make their living habits better and tidy.

Parents must set an example for their children, parents must be diligent people, must tell children the importance of tidying things, and cultivate good habits in children.

You should teach your children well, in fact, you should also change your child's point of view, and at the same time, you should let your child be self-disciplined and explain some truth to your child.

Parents can help their children clean up with their children and slowly develop their children's cleaning habits.

Some parents asked questions in the group:

l The boy's room was dirty and messy, and I asked him to get up early every day to tidy up the quilt and clean up the table. I urged me again and again to move, and I reasoned, but it still didn't work. Is it because I don't understand him deeply?

My: First, if reasoning is in the mind, it does not match the education of freedom and love, unless you can explain it in an interesting, humorous, life-like, relevant, and subtle way.

How do you make sense? Games, drawings, or humorous language?

Second, guide children to be different from person to person, with different personalities and different communication styles. What is your child's personality and what kind of communication style does he prefer?

3. Guide children to be appropriate at the right time and place. What was it like? What emotional point is the child on? What kind of communication habits did you have with your children before? Have you talked about this?

4. If the child really can't figure it out, can you accept him? Do you think a great kid's room must be tidy? There are some celebrities, their rooms are messy and their lives are unkempt, what do you think?

Fifth, there are already parents in the group who have said how they can take their children to humorously and slowly learn and tidy up in one step, what do you feel from it?

Sixth, we advocate three levels of looking at the problem, which one are you in now?