What if you don t reject others and always live in other people s expectations

If you don't reject others and always live in other people's expectations, then it means that you have a certain degree of lack of self-confidence or belong to that kind of emotional relative fragility or need to hone yourself, let yourself understand that you will encounter all kinds of setbacks and difficulties in life, and at the same time, in the process of interacting with others, you can't care too much about face, care about others' evaluations and opinions about yourself, and learn to make trade-offs and force many things.

It's very simple, let others down once, there won't be so many people you have expectations and requirements, but on the contrary, it will make you attack and despise those people for a certain period of time, and after experiencing such a gaze, you will learn how to reject others.

I used to be a person who wouldn't say no, until I slowly learned to say no to others after disappointing those who were expecting them once. It was when I was working in a lighting factory, because at that time there was a process of wearing crystal, and at that time I was making patterns and making the first piece according to the drawings.

That day, because I was in a hurry, I had been on an all-night shift, and the next day, the next door was stretched, and it was the set of lights, and I just wanted to get off work, so she pulled it to do the first one. Maybe because I was sleepy, the first piece of the set was mistakenly used with a crystal, but the quality inspection and elongation of that line were not checked, so I went back to the dormitory to sleep because I was sleepy.

It wasn't until about 3 o'clock in the afternoon that I was woken up by a colleague in the dormitory, who told me that there was a problem with the first set, and then because of the delay in the construction period, I was fined together with the elongated and quality inspector. Originally, this was nothing, and the factory would have been fined anyway, but the stretch was a cautious eye, and I was always there saying that it was my responsibility, and I was fined for causing her. So, I couldn't get angry for a while, so I went to the supervisor to explain the situation and let the supervisor know that it was not the production line I was in, and I was not the first person they pulled, but I did it, so I made one faster and let their first person modify it, but their elongation and quality inspection were not checked.

The next thing is that I was not fined, and I was also transferred to the documentary department, mainly responsible for playing boards and some quality control. At the same time, I learned that there is nothing I have to do, especially those things that have little to do with me, and I have learned to say no.

Such a person may be working hard every day for the expectations of others, but in fact, his heart is not really happy. If you want to get rid of this situation, you must learn to respect your own heart, don't make yourself live in depression in order to cater to others, the first thing you need to do is to cross your inner barrier, don't listen to any evaluation of you from the outside world, and resolutely refuse everything you don't like. This can be difficult, because it is impossible for a person to be completely unconcerned when he hears the negative comments of others about himself, there will always be grievances and sadness.

That's probably the price to pay!

The second is to work hard to make achievements and prove yourself according to your own interests and hobbies or self-planning. In the past, my parents were proud of my grades and expected that my grades would always be at the top, but this was almost unrealistic, so I would be under a lot of pressure, and I would be extremely nervous before the exam, and my grades fell into a state of plummeting. Through the communication, my parents understood my thoughts, and since then I have not made too many demands on my grades, and I have studied in a relaxed state, and my grades have improved and become more stable, and they have supported me to develop freely, of course, the current results are good.

If it is your parents who are expecting you, you can communicate with your parents, tell them what you think, talk about your understanding of success, and tell them what lifestyle you have the highest happiness. If it's what people who have nothing to do with you expect from you, then you don't have to worry about it, it's enough to be yourself. Because after discovering that the people who really love you know what you really think, they will understand and respect your thoughts, because they just want you to be happy.

You have to make your own decisions in your own life, don't always consider the feelings of others, don't accommodate others, life is so short, why do you have to wronged yourself? Why not make yourself happier?

You're going to be very tired like that. Because you don't live for yourself, you live for others. I was like you, but one day I suddenly realized that I couldn't do it to please everyone, and I should live for myself.

So I forced myself to learn to say no. I'm much more comfortable living now.