Is a woman who gives birth to a child and divorced really ruthless?

It's not like that, in fact, every woman's love for her children is undoubted, but she chooses to divorce when she can't live in marriage.

No woman is willing to let go of her children, these women are also forced, there is no way.

No, she also has a certain hardship like this, and there is nothing she can do.

Whether she is ruthless or not is relative, a newly divorced woman has to think about her future, and it is difficult to remarry with the "drag oil bottle" of the child, so she can only be ruthless and do not want children, but after a period of time, she will want to have children more and more, and finally she can sacrifice everything for the sake of the child, this is not my delusional speculation, but the inevitable result of blood connection, Lu Yao in his "Yellow Leaves Falling in the Autumn Wind" described a divorced woman who still resolutely abandoned her children for her own happiness, but with the passage of time, She wants to have children more and more, has conflicts with her remarried husband for the sake of her children, and finally returns to the original family story, from this story we can briefly analyze the 3 stages that a woman who does not want children after divorce must go through.

For this problem, it is a bit one-sided to say that women are ruthless simply because they want to have children, and they have to look at the problem comprehensively from other aspects.

For example, a divorced woman has poor economic conditions and is in sick health, and cannot provide good education and living security for her children.

Giving up custody of the child and handing it over to the man to raise, and the man's economic conditions are good and he has a stable job, which is more conducive to the healthy growth of the child. In this case, a woman is not ruthless, but a rational and helpless choice.

There are some divorced women who unilaterally only think about themselves, pursue freedom, chase the convenience and convenience of remarriage, and have no children to drag them down. That's ruthless.

The child is the meat that falls from the mother's body, and no one who is a mother is unwilling to have children. Only when everything is good, for the sake of the children, will they give up custody after divorce.

Therefore, judging whether a woman who does not want children after divorce is ruthless must be based on the actual situation of the woman, and it cannot be judged that the woman is ruthless.

Hello! There is no question of ruthlessness, there are many objective factors that do not want children, such as economic conditions do not allow it, after the divorce, the woman has to work to make money, and there is no one to take care of the children, so the woman considers that the living conditions of the children with the man are better! However, the cost of child support still needs to be negotiated!

After the divorce, the children may have some impact, so pay more attention to the mental health of the children!

A divorced woman is ruthless, a divorced woman who doesn't want children is even more ruthless, everything she does is for her own interests and needs, and other things are just her own tools, this kind of woman has no feelings.

There is nothing ruthless that is not ruthless, and some people just want to maximize profits. Some just want to completely break away from the influence of their ex-husbands.

You can't define it arbitrarily. "For the parents, for the children", when making a choice in this step, it must be for the best interests of the child.

If it weren't for the last resort, which mother would be willing to give up her child. From a child's point of view, following his father, surrounded by relatives, is different, and following his mother is different.

It's hard to say whether you are ruthless or not, but the lack of responsibility and selfishness is obvious.

Don't know the suffering of others, don't persuade others to be kind, this kind of thing must be judged from the actual situation, and this problem cannot be judged only from morality or other aspects.

In fact, I think it depends on the assets of both parties, if there will be better educational resources or financial resources in the south, I think it would be better for the woman to keep the child on the man's side, because this is also for the sake of the child.

Most people think that divorce is relatively harmful to women, after all, there is still a certain gap between girls' psychology and earning ability and boys, and if they have children, bring a child with them, and then it will be more difficult to get married, so everyone thinks that divorced women must not have children, and divorced women who want children are stupid, why is this?

Divorced women must not have children Reason analysis:

1. It is more difficult to marry again with children: for women, they still need a man to protect themselves, and after the failure of the first marriage, they are still full of hope for love, and they may still find a good man in the future, but for men now, children are a big burden, if women live with children, then it is easy to be disgusted when they remarry, and they miss a good man.

2. Increase the burden of their own life: Many women will delay a lot of time because they are pregnant and have children, so their earning ability after marriage is not very good.

Although the above problems will arise when you divorce and have children, after all, it is your own child, no matter how hard it is, it is still recommended to take it with you for the sake of the child, and the man will pay child support after obtaining custody, so it is still recommended that you fight for more.

First, I didn't choose the right person when I got married, and now many people are getting married when they are older, and they don't know what kind of feelings they need at all, and various problems are exposed after marriage; Second, one side stops growing, and at first it may communicate on one level, and then one wants to climb Mount Everest, and the other wants to go to the Sahara. Therefore, if you want to go long-term in love and marriage, when choosing people at the beginning, the priority must be, first, whether the fundamentals of the three views are at the same level, and the three views are more important than the material foundation; Second, the growth of each other, whether one side will leave the other too far away! Have you learned about the motion of electrons in atoms!

When the energy reaches a certain level, the jump will occur! Even if two people are married at the bottom, one of them quickly rises to the top, and the other can't break through the bottom, the circle of the two people can't be integrated at all, and the language is completely unable to communicate, and they will inevitably separate! It has nothing to do with morality!

The woman was a little princess at first, and the man held it. Holding and holding, women are used to this kind of communication. And then he began to do all sorts of things, until the man was bored.

You must know that when a woman says that I don't love you anymore, it actually means that if you want to coax me, I will be angry immediately. But when a man says I don't love you, it often means: Lao Tzu has found a good home.

Therefore, many women are dead, and it has nothing to do with whether they have children or not. Women often give up their jobs and social interactions for the sake of their children. And men work hard to support their families.

This leads to a growing gap between the two people, and after having a child, the gap is almost a world apart. At this time, men also feel that they have children, and it doesn't matter if they are single, so why bother to live with someone they don't like. So the divorce began.

Women are sensual animals, they need companionship, they need love, otherwise they wouldn't be so many people going to Xike, it is because of the lack of companionship in life, to find a comfort, and they can also go on offline dates under the agreement, and everything that happens is natural, and men can know them as long as they have a four-star villa. So let alone a woman who has given birth, plus it is very hard to take care of the child during the day, if the husband comes back from overtime and only cares about playing games and sleeping, the grievances in his heart accumulate, and one day it will explode. There are not a few women with postpartum depression, and I believe that many people understand the consequences, so not only the child is the focus of care, but also the woman cannot be negligent.

The modern woman's independence is independent in experience, independent in thought, married in pursuit of happiness, joy, for the continuation of the Aegean, wants to have children for him, and a happy life. However, the traditional social concept has not changed, no matter how advanced women are, it is useless, and the current social environment cannot support their progressive ideas. But society is also slowly civilizing, so it will be fine.

But when the society is enlightened and can accept the mind, it will be decades later. At present, women of appropriate age will still be constrained by old ideas when they get married.

After giving birth to a baby and getting divorced four months later, the child is always just the role of the fuse, and the mother-in-law is just the role of the fuse, at that time, I kept asking myself why I was obviously two people who loved and got married, why he became so cold-blooded, when divorced, a person with a child worked hard but was no longer full of grief and grievances, looking back in the dead of night, in fact, the fundamental reason is that his ability can not afford it, love is really just one of the necessary conditions for marriage, as well as a sense of responsibility, as well as the ability to undertake and mediate the family.

The contradiction began, and some of the in-laws who gave birth to the girl thought that they could take this opportunity to give the woman's family a horse, anyway, the children were born, and the woman's family didn't dare to do anything! I can only swallow my anger As a result, the woman's family doesn't think so at all What's wrong with the girl? What seeds are planted, what fruits!

In the past, how to think about how to be ashamed of divorce, but now I don't think like this, divorce is divorce, that's it, like me!!

The daughter was divorced when she was more than a year old. One person with children, raising children. At first, it was difficult, I thought I couldn't go on, I was about to be depressed, and I doubted the value of life for a while.

I bought a house and settled down. The child goes to kindergarten and goes back to work. Now the child is more than five years old, and it is very sunny.

I have also become very strong, I will no longer cry and cry and feel sad and sad, and I feel that now should be the best time of my life. Being able to take control of your own life, being able to support your children, and feeling that there is hope for your future. By the way, I didn't remarry, so I didn't feel necessary.

You lack the courage to break away from everything you are used to.

Because before giving birth, women were not so "hypocritical". I can find my own money and buy some gifts for my mother-in-law. After pregnancy and childbirth, the body is different in all aspects, and people say, why are you so hypocritical now!

Lose your temper at every turn, you weren't like this before! Pregnant? Other people's families are not pregnant like you, this is uncomfortable and that is uncomfortable, this can't be done and that can't be done, and it is not possible to do such an easy job at home with children and housework?

Are you embarrassed to shout tired? Won't I get tired from work?

Then he played the piano to the cow, and he didn't empathize. The two of them were at odds. Finally divorced!

A woman's life is complete after giving birth to a child, especially a woman who is ideologically and financially independent, men are just icing on the cake, of course it is best to live happily together, and there is no need to force it if you are unhappy. In today's society, widowed marriages and fatherless parenting abound, and I would say that it is better to divorce and bring the baby to a quiet place! Anyway, I don't need a nominal husband, and my baby doesn't need a furnishing to be a father!

Because after giving birth to a child, you can see clearly whether the person you marry is a human or a dog.

Because after giving birth to a child, you can know whether you are marrying a human or a dog, in fact, you don't need to have a child to see it again, you can usually see it, but women are blinded by love. But whether a man can be responsible or not, he doesn't need to have a child to see it again, for example, you are sick, he ignores it, and says that you are hypocritical, you fell, and you want to be coquettish, he said, why are you so forceful, you work overtime until midnight to come back and come back, he said, why don't you come back early to cook, I'm starving, if it's usually like this, then do you think he will be good to you if you give birth to a child, so if a woman polishes her eyes, she can distinguish a scumbag, at least so that you don't have to turn yourself into a second marriage, Nor will innocent children be sacrificed.

My husband is an only child, his personality is very selfish, he can see it when he has no children, and he will take me out when he is pregnant, and then the child is born, he doesn't care about the child at all, the child is eight months old, and the child doesn't know how much milk he drinks, and he goes home from work every day to play games, chat in the game, and take care of the child with his mother-in-law, there are also differences in parenting, and his husband does not support it, and he is silent when he says it, for him, no matter who brings the child, just live, why do women divorce, I just think that this kind of person takes women's pay for granted, so, I left, went back to my own home, I had a cold when I left, I didn't take the child, now my own home for two days, everyone in my mother-in-law's family sent you a message, so, is a ghost and now I can see it, today, my husband sent me a child crying and calling my mother's **, I want to go back to him and show him the child, because the child is only 8 months old, only call mother, seriously, distressed, but I am not worried about what the child has suffered, my mother-in-law is more spoiled than my grandson, So, this time I have a tough attitude and don't go back to my mother-in-law's house, I plan to find a job in the next two days and go to work, for that kind of man, in addition to staying away or staying away, if I can get a divorce, I will try my best to raise the child.

Because after giving birth, you will find the character of your husband's family, and everything is your own care, others will only stand there and watch you pay, whether you want to be honest or not, it really makes no difference, and even more excessively, you take care of the child yourself while there is a giant baby waiting for you.

Most of it is because of children, right? Gender is not what the in-laws expect. Then the daughter-in-law was subjected to soft violence, or cold violence.

Because she couldn't get the care she wanted, she was 2 months pregnant, and she was ready to file for divorce after giving birth. If you don't get married and have children, you have a monthly salary of 10,000 yuan, but now you can't go out, no one understands, and you are being preached in various ways.