When you take your children home for the New Year, grandma always rushes to bring them, what do you

The elderly want to get warmth from the younger generations and rediscover their sense of worth. Young people should not be too disgusted by this behavior of the elderly. Appropriately allowing the elderly to participate in child-rearing is also a kind of filial piety to parents.

1.Children can give spiritual comfort to the elderly and make them feel not lonely.

In the eyes of many people, the elderly are old and can't take care of the baby with their children, which is asking for trouble. There is time to chat with peers, travel, dance. Isn't it beautiful?

In fact, for some seniors, they want more than just leisure time, but also the care of the younger generation. Unfortunately, today's young people are busy with work all day long, and they are crushed by all sorts of things. They simply don't have time to go out and talk to their parents, which causes some parents to feel psychologically lonely.

Therefore, we can only seek comfort from our children's children, and even rush to help with the baby.

The elderly in the family rush to help with the baby regardless of the situation, which will really bring a lot of parenting troubles to young people. For example, the elderly insist on the old parenting experience, which affects the growth of children. If young people want to avoid the elderly at home rushing to take care of the baby, don't forget to give the elderly emotional comfort at the same time, but also grasp the right to raise the child.

Don't let the old man's heart chill.

2.The old man wants to find a sense of accomplishment again in the younger generation.

As people grow older, their physiological condition will get worse and worse, which will bring a lot of helplessness and loss. Some older people are stronger when they are younger. When they get old, it is difficult to tolerate their inaction and become a "useless person" who cannot produce any value.

Regaining a sense of accomplishment and worth, and helping your child take care of your child, is a very effective way to do so. Because the child will unconditionally rely on and trust the person who takes care of him.

The old man rushed to help take care of the baby, trying to take care of the grandchildren instead of the child. Some young people may be offended. However, young people should also understand if the elderly do not maliciously help to take care of the baby.

If you don't want the elderly to interfere too much in their own household chores, you can give the elderly a chance to gain a sense of accomplishment. For example, young people occasionally show weakness to their parents and ask their parents for help. Don't let your parents feel old and useless.

Because the child is lively and cute. Grandparents are getting older and more lonely in their lives. If you can bring your grandchildren with you, it will add a lot of joy to them.

It's also good for their health and a way to reduce your stress and burden. It should be the best of both worlds. Being close to each other, passed down from generation to generation, they feel happy and want to do some responsibility.

As for your childbirth, confinement.

And for the next eight months, you worked hard and built up some resentment in your heart, which is understandable. Every mother goes through this difficult process. During this time, grandma did not come to take care of you.

You should also understand that grandma came because she couldn't stay up all night. If she is sick, it will not be a burden for you. Now that the children are older, it's easier to take care of them.

I took the initiative to take care of them because I did what I could and offered to help them!

This phenomenon is very normal, because grandmothers often do not see their grandchildren and granddaughters, and they want to get closer to them, and the elderly are very afraid of loneliness, and finally look forward to the children's homecoming, and want to use the relationship with the children.

Because it is rare for the old man to see his grandson, of course he is very happy. Secondly, the elderly with their children will also be relieved, and the pressure of their children for the New Year can be busy greeting relatives and friends.

I think this phenomenon is quite good, after all, grandma has not seen the child for a long time, and she definitely wants to see the child and take care of the child.

In modern families, most of the parents are only children, and the children are also only children, and it is often the four older generations of grandparents and grandparents who pamper a child together, which makes many parents feel very distressed. Due to the pampering of young children by the elderly, it often turns into excessive doting, which does not do much good for small children.

Understand your parents' feelings.

We all know that in the era when our parents were still children, the problem of food and clothing has not been completely dealt with, and many families have too many children, often do not have enough to eat, let alone meet their other requirements. Now that the living conditions are better, many Bai Chau will have the idea of making up for the lack of love for their children on their grandchildren and granddaughters, so they will love their grandchildren very much, and they will respond to their requirements. As parents, it is important to understand the feelings of the children and let them participate in the children's daily teaching.

Communicate more ideas and experiences in parenting, analyze the serious consequences of loving children too much, and let them understand that loving children too much is not beneficial to them, but may directly harm children, and let them know the seriousness of the problem. I believe that if we communicate well, they will naturally cooperate well.

Be sensible and follow the rules.

In some innocuous details, they can be able to shake off their hands and love children, but in education, parents should take the lead, and principled issues should be taken correctly and seriously. Often, they have strict rules about when children should do their homework, when they will be able to watch TV, and so on. In this way, even if Bai Chau wants to pamper the child, most of the time it is within the rules you set.

In fact, the original intention of all the practices of the elderly is also because of love, as parents should not blame the elderly for their love for children, but should help the elderly not to spoil children too much, and correctly handle the relationship between the three generations.

Child-rearing disputes with the elderly are common in every family. Let us live in harmony on the basis of mutual respect, and the harmony of the family should not be particularly affected by the nurturing of children. Raising a child should be a beautiful job, and watching a child grow up is the desire of everyone in the family.

You can tell your child's grandparents directly that you don't always get used to your child, because such behavior is a harm to your child.

I think you can tell your grandparents that you are spoiling your children too much, but you are harming them, or ask your husband to communicate with your grandparents.

I think you can tell your grandparents, don't spoil your child all the time, or your child will become very bad, and you don't want to see him like this.

The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a major problem from ancient times to the present, and it is rare for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along well. After having children, the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law will have some differences in thinking because of the different times of daily life, so there are often disputes over the issue of educating children. Some grandmothers decide to bring a baby for their daughters because their daughters often complain to themselves, and they really can't stand it, so that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be less.

Although there will be some differences between myself and my daughter, but after all, it is my biological daughter, and some differences should be dealt with. As a result, more and more grandmothers are slowly or macro slow to withdraw from the front line with babies, and grandmas have become the main force with babies.

After Bao's mother gives birth, she naturally has to have a recovery period from surgery, and grandma also knows Bao's mother's careful thinking best. Grandma can consider it from the perspective of the mother and give it to the child. Due to the long time they have been together, they are more familiar with each other, so the mother is more at ease to send the child to the grandmother.

And because Bao's mother didn't spend so much time with her mother-in-law after she got married, coupled with some of her own daily habits, her mother-in-law is likely to be not very clear, so she is not very relieved to send the child to her mother-in-law. Sometimes it's more important to ask grandma to help than grandma. Therefore, it has become fashionable for grandma to take the baby.

In the previous situation, because everyone would choose to let grandma take care of the child, although the mother was sometimes worried, she didn't dare to make her own decision to let the grandmother and the book help take care of the baby. Now the mother can choose who to help take care of the baby, so she can take the baby with the person she trusts more. Grandma knows her daughter's difficulties, and it is easier to understand her daughter's careful thoughts, and sometimes the girl doesn't need to say it, and grandma will take the initiative to help.

Although Bao's mother doesn't say it, she understands her parents' love for her in her heart. Therefore, it has become a matter of course for grandma to become the main force with a baby.

Now many mothers are looking forward to letting grandma help take care of the baby, in fact, most of them are because we can understand our own careful thinking and can consider the child from our own point of view, and the mother is more at ease. If the mother-in-law can understand herself like her parents, the mother will naturally be very pleased.

It is indeed the main reason for the popularity of this situation, which may be because Yun Tan pretends to be a mother and does not feel at ease to hand over the child to the grandmother, or because the parents are busy with their work and it is more reassuring to hand it over to the grandmother, or the help brought by the grandmother's education method to the child is also very positive.

Now many families are grandma with a baby, the most important thing is to reduce the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, grandma as a mother's mother and her communication, you can directly talk about some problems, no lead nuclear will produce contradictions, secondly, grandma generally has a guest travel knowledge, unlike grandma at home, the sense of the owner is relatively strong, do not need to worry about being pointed out.

It has become a popular trend now, and it is a good way to reduce the pressure of selling socks for her daughter because of this kind of care. The girl is not worried about handing over her child to her grandmother, she feels that her grandmother is very doting on her children, and she also thinks that her grandmother's education method is not particularly good. Don't trust grandma very much.