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Tao Xingzhi and the story of four sugars
Tao Xingzhi, the principal of Yingcai Primary School, saw the boy Wang You smashing the boy in his class with mud on the campus, and immediately reprimanded him and ordered him to go to the principal's office after school.
After school, Tao Xingzhi came to the principal's office, and Wang You was already waiting at the door to prepare for training. But as soon as they met, Tao Xingzhi took out a piece of candy and gave it to him, and said, "This is a reward for you, because you came here on time, and I was late."
Wang You took the candy in surprise. Then, Tao Xingzhi took out another piece of candy and put it in his hand, saying: "This piece of candy is also awarded to you, because when I didn't let you beat people again, you immediately stopped, which shows that you respect me, and I should reward you."
Wang You was even more surprised, his eyes widened.
Tao Xingzhi took out a third piece of candy and stuffed it into Wang You's hand, saying, "I have investigated, you smashed those boys with mud because they did not abide by the rules of the game and bullied girls; If you smash them, it shows that you are very honest and kind, and you have the courage to fight against bad people, and you should be rewarded! Wang You was very moved, and he said regretfully with tears in his eyes
Tao ......Principal Tao, you ......Hit me twice! I was wrong, I didn't smash the bad guys, but my classmates! ......
Tao Xingzhi smiled with satisfaction, he immediately took out the fourth piece of candy and handed it over, saying: "Because you correctly recognized the mistake, I will award you another piece of candy, but unfortunately I only have this piece of candy, my candy is finished, I think our conversation should be over!" With that, he walked out of the principal's office.
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As an educator, Tao Xingzhi can often find problems from a small thing in students, which is really commendable. The first piece of candy for students says that students are punctual, the second piece of candy says that students know how to respect others, the third piece of candy says that students have a sense of justice, and the third piece of candy says that students know that they are wrong and correct them.
Tao Xingzhi did not hurt the student's self-esteem, and tactfully pointed out the student's mistakes, how properly he handled it. As the saying goes, don't take evil as a small thing, don't take good as a small thing, we know that as a student, we should hone our character from an early age, but we should pay attention to the method of doing things, and should not do good things into bad things, and the teacher finds that it should be guided in time to lead them to the right path.
Tao Xingzhi educates children to not only talk about methods and measure, but also handle them properly, how worthy of our teachers to learn.
The story is as follows: A boy smashed the boys in his class with mud, and after being found and stopped by the principal Tao Xingzhi, he ordered him to go to the principal's office after school.
After school, Tao Xingzhi came to the principal's office, and the boy was already waiting to be trained. But Tao Xingzhi smiled and took out a candy and gave it to him, saying, "This is a prize for you, because you came here on time, and I was late."
The boy took the candy in surprise. Then Tao Xingzhi took out the second candy and put it in his hand, saying: "This is a reward for you, because when I didn't let you hit someone, you stopped immediately, which shows that you respect me very much, and I should reward you."
The boy was even more surprised. At this time, Tao Xingzhi took out a third candy and stuffed it into the boy's hand, saying, "I have investigated, you hit those boys with mud because they bullied girls; You smash them to show that you are very honest and kind, and have the courage to fight against bad people, you should be rewarded! ”
The boy was very moved, and he shouted regretfully with tears in his eyes: "Principal Tao, I was wrong, I didn't smash the bad guys, but the ...... classmates."Tao Xingzhi smiled with satisfaction, he immediately took out the fourth candy and handed it over, saying: "For you to correctly recognize your mistakes, I will award you another candy, I don't have more candy, and our conversation can be over."
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Give respect and understanding to successful people, and show admiration, praise and pursuit of others' success; Giving respect and understanding to the person who has failed, showing confidence in the comeback after the failure of others, is a good healing for the psychological wound of the loser.
Trust in people and support for people are the air on which wings fly. Latecomers often have fewer shortcomings, and they often hear criticism and are met with distrustful and indifferent eyes.
Appreciative and encouraging, tolerant and considerate.
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Tao XingzhiThe takeaway from the story of the Four Pieces of Sugar is:
When educating students or children, they should not use methods such as reprimanding, harsh, and scolding that hurt people's self-esteem, but should be calm, empathetic, side-by-side, compare and set up metaphors, and guide the other party's psychology.
Many times, a smile is more powerful than harsh, and appreciation is more motivating than criticism. Dripping water pierces stones, better than torrential rain, and words of conscience, silently and subtly.
The essence of appreciative education is to be affordable, to respect our children in terms of personality. The foundation of education is respect, both for teachers and parents. Famous in the Czech Republic.
Educator Comenius.
There is a saying that our children should be respected as if we were God, whether we are teachers or parents, we should put ourselves in their shoes, exchange hearts for hearts, and make the process of education very easy and enjoyable with emotion.
On the basis of trust and respect, think about what the child thinks, be anxious about what the child is anxious about, and think about the problem from the perspective of the child, and the problem will become easily solved. In pedagogy, it is also said that participating in the child and understanding the child's thoughts is the bridge between parents and children. Every child has his own Min Yuan Zen personality, hobbies, interests, and ways of thinking.
As long as the characteristics of each child are discovered, the teaching can achieve good results. A good teacher and a good parent must have a pair of sharp eyes that capture the sparkle of the child, and constantly praise and repeatedly motivate the sparkle of the child, so that the child has a feeling of being recognized and discovered.
Sometimes a look, a word of encouragement, a caring gesture, an opportunity can change our children, inspire their sense of accomplishment and pride, and make him progress in self-expression and achievement.
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The educational principle embodied by Tao Xingzhi's four sugars is that students or children should not be reprimanded, harshly scolded, beaten and scolded in ways that hurt people's self-esteem.
Tao Xingzhi believes that educating children should be calm, empathetic, knocking on the side, comparing metaphors, and guiding the psychology of the other party. Many times, a smile is more powerful than harsh, and appreciation is more motivating than criticism. Dripping water is known as Sun piercing stones, better than heavy rain, and kind words, silently and subtly.
Tao Xingzhi's four pieces of candy are "love", "tolerance", "trust" and "encouragement".
Tao Xingzhi's original story of four pieces of sugar:
One day, Tao Xingzhi found that his student Wang You had smashed his classmates who had destroyed himself with mud blocks, and he immediately stopped Wang You and asked him to go to the principal's office after school.
After school, Tao Xingzhi came to the principal's office, and Wang You was already waiting at the door to be criticized. Tao Xingzhi immediately took out a piece of candy and gave it to him: "This is a reward for you, because you came here on time, but I was late." ”
When Wang You took the candy in surprise, Tao Xingzhi took out another piece of candy and put it in his hand: "This is also a reward for you, because I asked you to stop beating people, you stopped immediately, which means that Qingyu Lianming you respect me very much." ”
Wang You was puzzled, Tao Xingzhi took out a third piece of candy and said: I have investigated, you smashed them because they bullied female classmates. This shows that you are very upright and have the courage to fight against the bad guys! ”
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When cultivating students' moral character, the effect of following the good path is better, and the effect is much better than the rough treatment under traditional education.
In the face of Wang You's mistakes, Tao Xingzhi neither criticized nor scolded, but changed his perspective and used a state full of appreciation to find out from his mistakes the advantages of the students' honesty and trustworthiness, respect for teachers, integrity, and courage to admit mistakes, and praised them in time. Tao Xingzhi uses appreciation to awaken students' conscience, so that students can take the initiative to admit their mistakes and accept education, so as to generate a desire to correct mistakes and improve themselves in the depths of their hearts.
In real life, it is not difficult to find children's mistakes, but it is difficult to find children's advantages from mistakes, and use appreciative attitudes and language to design loving education scenes, and complete the education of "moisturizing things silently" in the appreciation of children.
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