Hu Shi was afraid of his wife all his life, why did he have a happy life?

Can't you have a happy life if you're afraid of your wife? It's strange to see it, he has his own hobbies and pursuits all his life, and it's not the same happiness.

Hu Shi is not really afraid of his wife, but a man's tolerance, understanding and love for his wife, and those who can understand his wife are destined to be happy all his life.

Being afraid of your wife does not necessarily mean being unhappy. The happiness index of a family depends largely on the personality of the family members, and if the husband and wife are in harmony, they will be very happy!

Hu Shi's marriage to married couple Jiang Dongxiu was arranged by his mother. Hu Shi's father, Hu Chuan, was born a talented man. He failed several exams and entered the Longmen Academy in Shanghai, where he became a student of the famous Moriyama scholar Liu Xizai.

He studied rhetoric and Zhu Chengli. Later, he entered the middle altar of this faction and served as a staff member or local ** in Guangdong, Henan, Jiangsu, Taiwan Province and other places. He used to be the highest military and political chief in Taitung, and went to Taitung to be directly under the well-known and in charge of the rear army in Zhenhai.

He was married three times in his life. After the death of his first two wives, he married Feng Shundi, who was 32 years younger than him. This envy is Hu Shi's biological mother.

Mrs. Hu is afraid of love, in fact, it is the embodiment of love.

Hu Shi, a famous modern Chinese scholar, is a rabbit, and his wife Jiang Dongxiu is a tiger, and Hu Shi often jokes: "Rabbits are afraid of tigers." At that time, there was a joke that Hu Shi was afraid of his wife.

Once, a friend in Paris sent Hu Shi more than a dozen French bronze coins, because the money had the three letters "PTT", which happened to be homophonic as "afraid of Mrs." Hu Shi joked with a few friends who were afraid of his wife: "If you set up a 'Afraid of Wives Association', these copper coins will be used as membership badges." ”

Hu Shi said in his later years: "Tolerance is more important than freedom", I venture to wonder if it is related to Hu Shi's psychological feelings and life experience?

In the spring of 1931, Hu Shi went to Ping from Shanghai, passing through Qingdao, Yang Zhensheng and Liang Shiqiu invited him to Qingdao University to give a speech, the topic was "Shandong's status in Chinese culture", local materials, for the changes of Qilu culture, the repetition of Confucianism and Taoism, the head is the Tao, tireless, the audience is happy, that night, Qingdao University set up a banquet, there is wine such as water.

At that time, eight professors and teachers of Qingdao University often gathered, called the Eight Immortals in the Wine, 30 catties of Huadiao drank until the bottom of the wine altar, Hu Shi saw the scene of their fist drinking, and quickly took out a big gold ring from the bag to pass on to everyone, which was engraved with the word "quit drinking", which was given to him by Mrs. Hu. Hu Shi used the excuse of obeying his wife's order as a shield to persuade him to drink, but fortunately, his friends also understood his situation and did not reluctantly make it difficult.

In fact, unless his physical condition does not allow it, "Mr. Hu does not drink much, but he likes to drink very much", (Liang Shiqiu) Hu Shi is afraid of guilt, I think, first, he has a deep insight into the nature of human marriage and the situation he is in; The second is that he is indeed inseparable from his wife, there is love and responsibility, although Hu Shi has no shortage of confidants around him, and there are also extramarital affairs, such as Wei Liansi and Cao Chengying, but Hu Shi and Jiang Dongxiu have held hands for a lifetime, never abandoned, and grew old together. "The mountain wind blew the pine marks on the window paper, and it couldn't blow away the figure in my heart. "There is such a bitter lovesickness for Cao Chengying, Hu Shi still did not leave Jiang Dongxiu, of course, this is not a fear of guilt, this is Hu Shi's rationality, Mr. Hu Shi is afraid of guilt, never hides this, and often laughs at himself, self-mockery is a state of life, this realm is difficult for ordinary people to reach.

In May 1961, a Taiwanese newspaper published an article entitled "Hu Shih's Disguise and Fear of Guilt", which included the following words: "Keeping Dongxiu (Hu Shih's wife) as the empress is a hypocrisy, and the real power is in the hands of the prime minister."

It is said that Hu Shi couldn't help but laugh when he read it: "This person seems to know my past affairs, and he is generally good, but some places are nonsense." He also said that the so-called "nonsense" actually refers to the fact that some of the cited materials do not match the facts; As for "pretending to be afraid of guilt", he still acquiesced in pretending.

It should be pointed out that throughout Hu Shi's life, his so-called discussion that the nation that is afraid of his wife Pei Ying is easy to practice democracy seems to be blunt, but it is not unreasonable, and what he means is just that he hopes that the Chinese people should have a little more "the third instinct of human beings——— humility", that is, what he calls tolerance, instead of using tongues and fists at every turn, or even machine guns and tanks to solve problems.