What does it mean to be timid beforehand and bold afterwards?

As the saying goes: The more women leave, the more bold they become, and the more men leave, the more scared they become, what does it mean? The reality of human nature is exhausted.

Marriage is a major event, in ancient times, there was a saying that "it is better to demolish a temple than to destroy a marriage", and people in ancient times attached great importance to marriage, and they would not divorce or remarry easily. In modern society, people's concept of marriage is more open, abandoning the old traditional concept. Divorce and remarriage have also become more common.

Regarding marriage, Qian Zhongshu wrote a classic quote in his book "The Siege of the City", "Marriage is like a besieged city, people outside want to go in, and people inside want to come out." Many people also like this quote and think it speaks to the true impact of marriage on people.

Although divorce is very common in today's society, it is also a relatively big time, because it can have a serious impact on the psychology of both parties. We ancients have an old saying, talking about the different effects of divorce on people, this sentence is "the more women leave, the more bold they are, and the more men leave, the more afraid they are".

The meaning of this sentence is also very simple and clear, that is, after a woman's divorce, her courage becomes more and more decisive, and she becomes more and more mature, and when facing a new relationship, she is often more mature and rational than the first time, and she is more confident. However, most men are just the opposite, after the divorce, when men face a new relationship, they tend to be more hesitant and more afraid.

This does not mean that this is the case for everyone, and that this is the case for most people. So what is the reason for this?

This has a lot to do with the ratio of men and women in our country, we all know that there are more men and fewer women, women are all stars and moons, and a girl may have many men in pursuit, so it is easier for single women to find another marriage than men after divorce.

Therefore, the more men leave, the more scared they become, and after leaving, they are worried that they will not be able to find their other half. And after a woman is divorced, at least she won't worry about not being able to find a husband.

In addition to the impact of this society, the impact of the psychological gap between men and women cannot be ignored. There is a huge gap between the concept of marriage between men and women.

Although on the surface, men tend to be stronger and more confident than women, in fact, women are often more confident and strong than men in the face of big changes. Although women may be very hesitant before divorce, they are often more confident after divorce. I think I'm good enough to be afraid of no one for the rest of my life.

The more timid he is, the more scared he is, it is indeed like this, and he is not afraid of the bold. But sane people are not bold everywhere. Those who are too timid do have to exercise themselves, and there is no need to be so afraid.

This is related to people's experience: if a person has the experience of successfully getting up from setbacks through hard work, he will feel that the current setbacks are "not a problem", he is bullish on the future, and he understands that no matter how bad it is, it is not far off; On the contrary, if a person has never tried to overcome setbacks, then he will never be able to turn over, and he will think very seriously about big things, and he will be bearish about the future. It's a bit like the Matthew effect, so if you want to become fearless of setbacks, it's enough to have an experience of overcoming setbacks, and after strengthening this self-confidence, a virtuous circle will be formed.

Whatever you do, you are the first to be brave.

The heart is strong, will not flinch, and will be generous.

When everyone is timid, when the heart is strong, he is bold.

In fact, as long as you have a peaceful heart, you have a clear conscience in everything, you are down-to-earth, and you think about the problem deeply, and you are timid because you feel that you are very cowardly in the eyes of others, but in fact, it is not necessary, others often do not keep in mind what you are worried about, so you can live freely and easily.

Bold people are decisive and act on what they want to do, while timid people are afraid and retreat, not daring to do what they are not allowed to do.

If you are bold and bold, you will have the advantage of being cowardly, and if you are bold in just things, you will be chivalrous and courageous, and if you use it in unjust things, you will be stunned.

You must be bold, so that you will not improve yourself.

Understand the sophistication of human feelings. So you're ripe. If you're scared, you'll protect yourself.

It means that you are mature, so it's better to be cautious.

Yes, most people are timid, but when it comes to their bottom line, they can't bear it, and they don't need to endure it anymore. Especially timid people, usually do not show mountain dew, but when they touch the reverse scales, their explosive power is even more than that of bold people.

Yes, the elderly, women and children provoked me, I didn't dare to put a fart, and I dared to fight with a strong man if he provoked me.

Cause and effect are reversed because at that time the words bold or timid were used to describe it, so now we call it bold or timid.

Because the ancients believed that the "gall" of human organs determines human courage.

I understand: bold people, the bitterness in the gall is more, and the bitterness is more experienced, otherwise it is the cowardice

Just like they use"Heart"to represent a mood of the same. It is estimated that science was not developed at that time, and people's subjective understanding. And then it continued.

This is a great achievement in Chinese human anatomy. Brothers! 1

Nonsense. Then I ask you why you were born by your mother.

Say a few words about the question.

The courage has changed from small to big, and the key word is one word: refining! Also, there are no silver bullets and shortcuts.

Courage is slowly refined. This requires you to take the first step bravely. Take the first crucial step, which is the beginning of your success.

No one is born with a red heart. We are laymen, and we have also had the experience of refining courage. It's not that we are boasting, now it is not a problem to walk at night and say a few words on stage. At the root of it, there is still one word: refining!

For example, you don't dare to walk at night, for fear of gods and ghosts. You might as well try to walk a short distance or twice at night, and your courage will gradually become bigger;

For example, if you blush when you see a girl, you try to have more contact with the girl, and even talk to the girl intentionally or unintentionally. A few more times, and you'll be able to talk and laugh with girls;

For example, if you have stage fright, you should participate in more social activities, strive for the opportunity to speak in a small area, show your eloquence, and slowly expand to a larger occasion or stage to show your style. After a few times, no matter what the occasion, you can talk like a river, talk endlessly, and be calm. You might even become an orator.

Personal experience, landlord try?

Happy landlord!

First of all, you need to be physically strong.

And then there's the fixed-line thinking. To be timid is to have a rich imagination and scare yourself.

There's nothing wrong with being timid.

I think timid people are smart and imaginative.

It takes a lot of things to numb yourself, timidity is the current lack of experience, in fact, the invisible things are terrifying, and boldness is not to be a hero in the limelight, but to have a rational mind.

Do what you don't dare to do....to prove that he was bold.