My husband doesn t want to go to work and sleeps at home every day, I feel like I m going to suffer

I am 30 years old, female, graduated with a master's degree, coordinates in a third-tier city, married without children, my parents-in-law are very good to me, and my husband has known each other for six years and been married for three years.

Since we got married, we have been supporting ourselves, and I have paid for the family's property fees and other expenses. I am more self-disciplined and demanding of myself, and I have my own hobbies and schedules in my spare time.

The husband is filial, considerate, good-tempered, does not smoke or drink, and has no bad habits. Disadvantages: 1. No self-control:

The body gave up management, and he was only 30 years old and ate and drank all day long. 2. I don't like to go to work: This is a headache for me.

My husband has been staying at home since the beginning of the epidemic, sleeping all day long, sleeping until eleven or twelve o'clock during the day, getting up to eat something by himself, and then staying in the bedroom all the time. He hadn't cooked yet when I came back from work.

In fact, the family is very harmonious in general, but recently my husband doesn't want to go to work and doesn't like to work. I thought he had a mental illness and put him on antidepressant medication (which was prescribed by the doctor) for more than a month in January. He secretly stopped the drug himself, and he was still drowsy after stopping the drug, because we didn't know that he stopped the drug and thought it was the drug effect that made people sleepy.

My mother-in-law can't control my husband now. Let him go to work and he won't go to work. I went out at nine in the morning and he was sleeping. I came back at half past five in the afternoon, and he was still lying down and sleeping.

I'm cheerful, fiery and impatient. But now I come home and feel like there's nothing that makes me happy, and I feel like I'm going to be depressed.

My expectation for my husband is: I hope he will work well and be sunny. I don't expect to make a lot of money and get rich, even if we each feed each other, wouldn't it be nice to have a small life? What am I going to do? ”

My advice: Does your husband go to work if he wants to, and if he can't think about it, he can't? So free?

Or is he currently unemployed and you want him to find a job? In addition, depressive medication, which this normal person can't take, so does he have depression? If he has this disease, he can't force it, otherwise it will be more serious.

1. It is best to go to a professional hospital to check again. If it is determined that it is depression, care for him, don't force him, depression is a physical disease, and he cannot resist it.

2. If it's not depression. Then he will be separated from his parents and live with his parents, especially if his mother is still in charge of him, he will never grow up. In the future, you pretend not to be too assertive, take his opinion as the main thing, don't be too good at making money, you are too capable, in comparison, he is too incompetent, and he will give up on himself.

Tell your husband that he is the pillar of the family and can't not go to work at home every day, so how to solve the daily expenses and living expenses of the family, so that her husband must think about it.

You should have some communication with your husband correctly, you should let your husband make some work plans, which is more conducive to improving the quality of life, and you should guide your husband correctly.

I think I can find my parents-in-law and ask them to talk to my husband, because if I directly fight with my husband, it will be counterproductive.

You should communicate with your husband well, after all, it is very bad for the family to continue like this, and it will also make the relationship between the two people weaker.

In such a situation, I think you should communicate with your husband, let your husband go out and find a job to support the family, and don't put too much psychological pressure on yourself.

The best thing to do isSeek prompt medical attention, and usually care for and encourage him, and even take him to exercise more to release his excess physical strength, so that when people are tired, they will not think about so many things.

01. Care and encourage him more, and understand a little bit of depression.

Not a terminal illness. First of all, your husband's situation is a bit serious, staying alone at home and not communicating with the outside world, which means that he lives in his own world, and if it is corrected in time, it will become more and more serious. Because people with depression say that there is something wrong with their minds, but it is not mentally ill.

It can be healed.

Besides, you can't do anything with him, you have to care more about him, usually stay with him when you have time, see what he's doing, you can also try to chat with him, such as what the weather is today, what vegetables you bought, what clothes you bought, etc., don't scold him, don't talk about him, to avoid aggravation of the disease, thenTragedyFinish.

02. Seek medical treatment in a timely manner and accept treatment from professional doctors. In addition to your care and love, it is more important that you take him to the doctor, and you really can't put it off. People with depression are strong enough on their own to come out of itBack to normal,But most of them get worse over time.

Only by going to the doctor and taking medication under the guidance of a professional doctor will the condition be controlled and slowly get better.

Don't think about it, there's nothing about depression, it's just a person who puts too much pressure on himself, let him relax, and he will get better slowly, no, don't have such thoughts. If it were true, there wouldn't be so many people with depression in the worldSuicide

03. Take him to participate in more activities and exercise more. To put it bluntly, people with depression think too much, have too much time, or are caused by something. What you have to do is to keep him busy, such as asking him to help clean up, or take him out for exercise, or even sign him up for some social activities, but this is a premise, it must be his own consent, don't force him,Don't backfire.

04, finally. Only with his heart, he will always be cured one day, and don't worry too much, because depression can be **, not a major disease.

If he doesn't communicate with others, it means that he may have encountered frustration when communicating with others, so he now has a kind of depression, then his depression is mainly due to his communication with others, or the pressure in life, so you try to relieve his pressure and let him know that he is not alone.

You have to be by his side, communicate with him more, talk to him about some happy things, and take him to the hospital in time to receive psychological **, usually don't let him stay alone, this is very dangerous.

You should take him out for a walk, you can go out to travel, to see the outside world, don't let him be bored at home alone, which is likely to aggravate his condition.

You should take your husband out for a walk, you can also do some things that your husband likes to do, take him out for a walk more can be relieved, or you can take your husband to a psychiatrist to relieve his stress.

Go and enlighten him.

Keep him at home all day, take him outside a little bit.

And if it's serious, you must let him see a doctor, and it can be relieved by **.

First of all, you must be patient to guide him, care more about him when he is at home, let him feel the warmth of the family, and secondly, take him out more activities to make new friends.

In the face of this situation, you must learn to respect him, and you must also take your husband to see a psychiatrist, and you must be more considerate and gentle in life, and then you also need to take the initiative to communicate with each other and share what happens in life.

To be active ** depression, depressed people are less motivated, and not wanting to go to work is a relatively common symptom.

Depression**:

1. If the depression is severe, it is necessary to take medication under the guidance of a doctor, and there are psychological counseling for depression such as cognition and Morita. Medications** should be administered under the guidance of a doctor. It is recommended to take paroxetine hydrochloride tablets (Leyou), Prozac or Reibila for a period of time.

2. Eat more foods rich in vitamin B and amino acids, such as cereals, fish, green vegetables, eggs, etc.

3. Self-psychological counseling for depression:

1. Listen to ** more often, and let beautiful music dissolve mental fatigue. Brisk and comfortable** can make people's spirits be effectively relaxed. Laughing out loud is the best way to get rid of mental stress.

Consciously slow down the pace of life, deal with all kinds of complicated things calmly and calmly, and don't blame yourself even if you do something wrong, which is conducive to people's psychological balance and also helps to relieve people's mental pressure. Be brave and face the reality, and don't be afraid to admit that your abilities are limited and you can't handle things properly.

2. Make friends, often chat with friends, and heart-to-heart communication or confiding can not only enhance people's friendship and trust, but also make you feel comfortable and eliminate your troubles.

3. Believe that you will be able to reduce pressure, cheer up, feel comfortable, and be healthy, so that you can enhance friendship with a good attitude, work smoothly, and live a happy life.

If I told you that there are many people in this world who are depressed, how would you react? Depression is not terrible, don't be hinted by some negative things such as hearing that depression is psychotic, or depression is unavoidable, etc., and then exaggerate the catastrophic associations, start to be negative and pessimistic, and escape the facts and responsibilities that you should have to accept or face. Depression needs drugs in the early stage**If it is combined with psychology**The effect will be better, stabilize the mood first, what to do, the key is to have confidence, without **confidence, it is not useful to take medicine and see a psychologist.

It is recommended that you read the self-help book "Out of the Storm of Anxiety" as a reference, some healing concepts and initial mentality and spiritual self-help methods, as a reference but not as a substitute for a psychiatrist (o).

Many people with depression are in this situation and feel that there is no point in doing anything. Therefore, depression is the key to solving the problem, and never underestimate the harm of depression. Changyang Traditional Chinese Medicine Chang Xueli uses ancient Chinese medicine to naturally **, I am optimistic about a lot of depression, I wish you a speedy recovery!

Not wanting to do anything and being too lazy to move is not a clinical manifestation of depression.

I am here to tell you about the common symptoms of depression, you can refer to it, if it is similar to your own situation, you may be suffering from depression.

Academic performance declines, and interest in learning disappears. Personality changes, taciturn, detached from the crowd. Changes in appetite, depression and depression can lead to better or worse appetite and possible weight gain or loss.

Sleep problems, often manifested by difficulty falling asleep, light sleep, dreaminess, and early awakening (early morning).

I wake up at two or three o'clock and have trouble falling asleep). Anxiety or fidgeting, even mild stress, can be difficult to cope. Difficulty concentrating on problems, difficulty making even small decisions, becoming inefficient in daily life, and feelings of frustration and disgust appear.

Frequent feelings of fatigue or weakness. Feelings of guilt, uselessness, and insecurity, feelings of disappointment in oneself, the world around them, and the future. Lack of strong emotional reactions and ignorance of other people's concerns.

Depressed mood and difficulty having a pleasant experience with various activities.

Summary. Hello dear, according to the information you provided, I searched for information and learned that if you suspect that your husband's depression is fake, then you can take him to the hospital for a check-up, as long as the hospital shows a certificate, you can also expose your husband's lies, but if it is true, then you have to pay attention to it, depression is a common mood disorder, which can be caused by various reasons, with significant and persistent mood depression as the main clinical feature.

My husband and I have conflicts, pretending to be depressed everywhere, making the people around me look down on my family.

Hello dear, according to the information you provided, I searched for information and learned that if you suspect that your husband's depression is fake, then you can take him to the hospital for a check-up, as long as the hospital shows a certificate, you can also expose your husband's lies, but if it is true, then you have to pay attention to it, depression is a common mood disorder, which can be caused by various reasons, with significant and persistent mood depression as the main clinical feature. Guidance: Depression is best if it is mainly psychological.

Can a hospital for major depressive disorder detect it?

Hello, I'm sorry, I just saw the information, as long as you have depression, the hospital can check it out according to your reaction, and you can rest assured of this.