My boyfriend is especially unmotivated, what happens with a guy like this?

Updated on psychology 2024-07-12
14 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    Keep up with the lack of self-motivation.

    's boys are together, in fact, it's not so scary, of course, the premise is that there is a high probability that you need to endure poverty. Although self-motivation makes life hopeful, it also has sequelae.

    When you're tired, you're in a bad mood. You can't hold bricks when you carry them, and you can't move bricks when you hold them. That's life.

    Actually, it's pretty scary. But as long as you are responsible and loving, you can be very happy.

    Two people together, if one person is running and the other is climbing, the person who climbs will ask you to wait for him, why are you running so fast? Waiting to be reincarnated? So you slow down, and over time you get used to crawling with him, and after climbing for a long time, you suddenly find that your friends around you are already flying, and you will be psychologically unbalanced, thinking about how you were still running back then.

    But what about the person who climbed, not only did he climb happily and slow down your pace, but he also complained that you didn't know how to run at that time, why are you still crawling now that everyone else can fly? You are indignant in your heart, didn't you ask me to wait for you in the first place? He's starting to hate you for being unproductive.

    So the key question is not whether he can climb or not, whether you want to climb with him in the future, or whether you want to fly higher and higher.

    The ex-boyfriend is not particularly self-motivated, how to say it, the two of them will always stand still together. I am a person who needs to be pushed forward by others, so I am with him to get by and have no pressure and no motivation, but problems will slowly appear, for example, when we face the problem of being in a different place, he still chooses to stand still, no plan and no action, the two of us can't reach a consensus, from no pressure to huge pressure, and then break up and ......

    At first I would think "Oh my God, I'll never be able to catch up with him, I'm so tired", but now I'm still under pressure, but I think I must work hard, I want to catch up with him, and I can't hold back. Two people moving forward together, even if it is hard, it is better than standing still together and regretting it.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Guys are not self-motivated, if you are with such a boy, you will become irritable or confused, so when your boyfriend is not self-motivated, as a girlfriend, you have to encourage him and make him positive!

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    With such a boy, you will not see any hope, and it feels like the whole world has no color.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    With such a guy, you will feel very tired, and you will also feel that life is particularly tight, so I suggest that you should break up immediately and find a more suitable person. A good love should be excellent for both parties.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    I think it's a very devastating thing to be with an unmotivated man, he doesn't want to go to work or make a lot of money, he's lazy every day and just wants to play, this kind of man is not suitable for marriage.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I think it's going to be very tiring, and if you don't have a good life after getting married, these guys are generally lazy and won't share the housework with you after they get married.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Being with such an unmotivated man will be very tiring, and you will also have a lot of pressure, which will make you not only care about your own life, but also worry about him, which is particularly tiring and stressful.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    It's insecure to be with such a man, and you need to do everything in life yourself, and you also have to take on the responsibility of providing for your family.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    I think you will be very happy with such a man. Never seek to improve, and his material life will not be guaranteed. Affect the feelings of two people.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    I think you feel tired with guys like this and feel like there's no hope in life.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    What should I do if my boyfriend doesn't like to progress? First of all, you should look at what is the reason why he doesn't like to progress? Then prescribe the right medicine, and if there is no way, break up!

    Let's analyze the reasons why men are not aggressive.

    First, whether he is limited by some fixed work circles, and in his eyes, he really can't find more effective working methods and a suitable working environment, and this psychological barrier makes him feel helpless to find a job.

    <> second, whether he is brewing other opportunities, such as wanting to be a real person, or looking for and waiting for better job opportunities, but the process is too long.

    Third, he is addicted to all kinds of games, online programs, and all kinds of live broadcasts every day, and he doesn't care about anything other than eating or sleeping, and just likes to stay at home, which shows that he is really lazy!

    He may not know what he wants to do and what his future is, because both the former and the latter cannot see their own performance clearly. It may also be that he is too confident in himself and generally doesn't want to do it, but he can't touch him if it's good, so he spends every day complaining!

    If it's the above two attitudes, as a girlfriend, I think you can give him more encouragement, don't ask too much of him, let him get a job no matter what, and show that you won't despise him because of what he does and how much money he earns, give him some motivation.

    Finally, let's talk about how to solve the problem of a really lazy person, I think that unless he can't reach half a piece of cake at the back of his neck, it is possible to take the initiative to reach out, otherwise this kind of person will not be sober for a while, and inertia is very difficult, so it is good to break up decisively when you meet this kind of person, good luck!.

    The above is a detailed interpretation of the problem, I hope it will help you, if you have any questions, you can leave me a message in the comment area, you can comment with me more, if there is something wrong, you can also interact with me more, if you like the author, you can also follow me, your like is the biggest help to me, thank you.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    You can't get it, because such a man has no ability, and he doesn't really care about you, if he cares about your future, this person will fight.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    No. If a boy is not self-motivated, he has no income, he sits and eats at home every day, and does not go out to work hard, where does he get the money to feed a family.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    You can't get it because your boyfriend doesn't care about you, and your boyfriend may not love you, and you will only lose time with him.

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