What are the consequences of a woman marrying an unmotivated man?

In many families, most of them are men who are outside the home, women who are in charge, men who work outside the home and take on the responsibility of providing for the family, while women are responsible for doing housework and taking care of children at home. If a man is not self-motivated, even if he goes to work, he only thinks about how to make a living every day, instead of thinking about what meaningful things to do in his spare time, then this will make women feel anxious. Men are not self-motivated, which means that the obligation to support the family will fall on the woman's body, in the society, although everyone is equal, but in the salary is still unequal, a man only needs a little level, a little perseverance, it will not take long to achieve the most ideal income, and women are different, to go through the growth period, work will be affected.

What kind of contribution does love and marriage make to a woman, if it is warmth, development, happiness, it must be valuable. But the prerequisite for happiness is that both of them will work hard for the family, if the man is not self-motivated, can not support the family, and makes the family more embarrassed, it is better to live alone. Falling in love and getting married is originally for a better daily life, not to find someone to reduce their quality of life, which is why it is very important to love people, to be with optimistic and positive people, every day is light, and to be with people who are sinking, either to come out or to sink again.

Married life is daily life, the most inseparable item is money, in "Little Times", Gu Li has a classic dialogue: "There is no material love, it is a plate of loose sand, you don't need the wind to blow gently, take two steps and disperse" You will find rich couples and beautiful things, and people and couples without money often quarrel because of a little bit of money, this is the reason for layout and understanding, just like a wise person, never worry about not earning money, and people without brains are always worried about not earning money.

Marriage needs two people to manage it well, even if a woman loves a man, don't spoil him too much, too much spoiling him, it will make him lazy, and when it becomes a preference, it will become a very difficult thing to change. It is necessary to be moderately tolerant and understanding, but at the same time, it is also necessary to know how to work for him, and having work pressure will be motivated. At the same time, don't forget to give some encouragement, if he is not motivated, then communicate with him well, set a goal, and work hard together.

It will be very tired, it will be very unhappy, it will be very wronged, if a woman marries an unmotivated man, this is the consequence.

As a result, such a marriage is a complete failure, and such a marriage will also lead to a lot of conflicts between two people, and it will also lead to the outbreak of war between two people.

Then either you pull him up, or he pulls you to be decadent all the time, so when you get married, you must recognize his essence.

It is very important to be motivated in a relationship, and I believe that no one wants to choose someone who is lazy and does nothing all day. If the boyfriend is not motivated, I don't think you should choose to get married, because after marriage, we need to face a lot of things, and two people need to face the expenses of a family. If the boys are not motivated, then only the girls may be tired.

1. Life after marriage will be a piece of chicken feathers.

When I was in a relationship before, my parents also told me that I must choose a motivated person to fall in love, especially someone who is motivated in both study and work. A motivated person will not be too bad at doing anything, because he has hard work, so if the other party is not motivated at all, and he doesn't even have the heart to work hard, then in the relationship, he may be so passable. When you really get married, you will find that your life after marriage is also a mess, and it may even be worse.

Second, it is up to the girl to do it alone.

Two people come to the step of getting married because they feel that they can't do without each other, so if our boyfriend is not motivated, we still choose to marry him, I think this is equivalent to digging our own grave. Because marriage itself is a lot of things to face, before getting married, you need to prepare a banquet, and after getting married, you need to prepare your own small home. If the man himself is not motivated, then I think most of these things are done by the girl alone.

Even for a boy, getting married is like a reason to be more relaxed, because after getting married, he can rely on his lover. And at this time, it is more reasonable for him to rely on his family and lover.

You can see your entanglement, and this entanglement is also very realistic. Even before you meet a better one, this can be fine. Just ask yourself to be quiet and ask yourself, what do you want?

Through your simple description, it can be seen that you are all-rounder, which means that your ability to make money is good, and it is possible that your family division of labor will be in the future, and it may be a good arrangement for you to be outside the home and inside the home. In the end, you have to ask yourself, what will you do if you give up on him? What will happen to you if you marry him?

Because it is you who know the situation best, and the final choice is still up to you.

Resolutely can't get married! No money, no house, no job, just graduated, these are not excuses, people who haven't graduated yet, there are also entrepreneurs and people at work. Good to you, single-minded, there are many people who are good to you, how can you do it if you are not motivated, if you are not motivated, where does the sense of responsibility come from?

How good is it for you? Is it good to be single-minded? Single-mindedness is the most basic.

If you are not motivated, can you be responsible for it in the future? Can you shoulder a home? Marriage is not child's play.

Be careful

There is a saying called poor couples are cheap, especially two people who like to be comfortable, and one person is motivated, so even if they get married in the future, it is difficult to get along, there are so many men in the world, you don't have to marry a man who does not choose comfort, choosing comfort is actually lazy, this kind of man is unreliable, don't give up the future for the sake of the past.

A man may not be career-oriented, if he has a job that can do his job well, can earn money to support his family, the family can help buy a car and a house, if his family can come up with some money, he can get married and live, as long as he is not lazy to do it, it is also possible to consider taking on family responsibilities. A motivated person may work hard and do a good job in his career, but he may not spoil you, love you and be good to you, a man is not motivated, as long as he is not lazy to eat, he can support his family and is suitable for life.

This man is too unmotivated, so you will be very tired and miserable to marry him. It doesn't matter how good he is to you now. On the basis of marriage and love, there must be a certain amount of material, and it is impossible to completely only have marriage and love.

It's useless to just be nice to you and how to do you. But if you're willing to go with him, you can. But the road ahead is very difficult, you have to think clearly.

It's best not to marry such a man, he is not motivated, marrying him will feel that there is no progress in life, and it is very tiring, and life is most afraid of lack of self-motivation.

If the job is stable and the economy is stable, if he doesn't work hard, he can also take care of the family, so that the man can be considered.

Don't tie the knot, no matter how much you love him, don't entrust the rest of your life to someone who is irresponsible and self-motivated, which will only ruin your life.

If you don't want to worry about your husband's unmotivated every day after getting married, and worry about your children's education after you have children, then think about it again.

In my opinion, you say that a man who only wants love and no money should be put in quotation marks?

This kind of man who has dreams but no ability is really utopian.

You said that he had been looking for more than a month, and he couldn't even find a job, how could it be?

Unless he didn't bother to look for it, or he just wanted to find a job with a small range of ability, a good salary, and an easy one. But is it possible?

Illustrate, this man is unreliable, at least in life.

I don't even have a house anymore, didn't I build a small western-style house in my hometown? Then what did you do when you first met her? Don't you care about being shy and impatient?

This problem is relatively one-sided, some men are not self-motivated, but they do a good job in their own posts, and they are very considerate of their wives and families, and they can also give women marriage.

It should be that unmotivated men are generally lazy, and there is no way to guarantee their own economy, so they can't give women marriage.

Not necessarily, although some people are not self-motivated, they are also very smart and can make a lot of money.

Yes, because unmotivated boys will be very cowardly, and they will not be responsible for marriage.

No, everyone's understanding of life is different, some people like a quiet life, but they don't like people who are too self-motivated.

Because women will cook for themselves, do laundry, clean up, and tidy up the house.

Men he won't, he will, he won't do.

A man who can really clean, wash clothes and cook, he will also live well alone.

Men are very good, women are not motivated, such a difference is indeed too big, but this does not mean that such a marriage is doomed to failure, the key depends on whether the two people can accept such a difference, if both parties can accept it, then there is no trouble, if both parties can not accept it, then they can only part ways. If a girl is not motivated, she puts the initiative of marriage in the hands of the man, and once the man leaves him, he will have nothing, so the girl still needs to have her own career or a skill. In addition, a good love should be evenly matched, so that the marriage can go happier and longer.

It depends on whether both parties can accept such a difference, if this excellent man does not mind that his wife is not motivated, and is willing to support the family, in fact, such a marriage is not impossible, in life I do see that some families are like this, the man works hard every day, the woman has no job, and is unemployed at home every day, but the man has no complaints at all, and is still very good to his wife. But there are also men who can't accept that the woman is not motivated, and the final result is, of course, divorce.

Girls should have their own careers or skills, I very much disapprove of girls not being motivated, and being unmotivated means that they can only rely on others. If your husband can love him for the rest of his life, he is very lucky, but who can guarantee that his love for you will remain the same for a lifetime? Once he leaves, you have completely lost the person you rely on, and then you find that you have nothing, which is very tragic.

Therefore, girls still have to have their own careers or skills, and only you can give yourself stable and sustainable happiness.

A good marriage should be evenly matched, and a good marriage should be evenly matched, where two people's thoughts are at the same level, so that they can communicate well and feel great joy in getting along. Two people can also help each other through various difficulties together, and make life better and better.

Such a marriage does not last. Because two people's outlook on life is different, there is no way to be together at all.

I don't think so, the gap is very big and after a long time, he may not look down on you, you have less and less topics, and marriage is an empty shell, existing in name only.

Personally, I believe that marriage is a joint effort between men and women, and no matter who they are, they should strive to be excellent. If one party has been working hard to grow and become better and better, but the other party is still the same, there will be a gap between the two people slowly. The man can do ideological work with the woman to see, if there is really no way to change, then you can only part ways.

Such a marriage cannot be sustained, because then the gap between the man and the woman will widen.

Definitely not, I think girls have to have a career or something they are interested in, and there will be no perfect life if they live in the radius of a man forever, they must have their own space, independent thinking, ideas, and things to pursue. It's the life that is in lockstep that is the most exciting.

It varies from person to person, and some people live a lifetime, the man earns money, and the woman works as a housewife at home.

Some went their separate ways.

Feelings need many external conditions to support, only two people work hard together, the future will be beautiful, but if you meet a boyfriend who is not motivated, I am afraid that there will be a weak heart.

1.Tell him what you think and communicate positively

Your boyfriend may not be motivated because he hasn't figured it out somewhere, he hasn't opened his mind, and he himself doesn't realize that he is not motivated, which requires you to tell him what you think, don't be afraid of quarrels, pay attention to the tone and way of speaking, talk to him about the hard-working friends around him, and show that your attitude is to hope that he can work hard, so as to let him reflect on himself and seek breakthroughs.

2.Encourage him, give him motivation, give him strength

People are inert, but just putting pressure and motivation on him can rekindle his fighting spirit, talk to him about your future, tell him about the importance of hard work, and let him know that he is facing the pressure of staring and supporting his family.

And give him a certain promise. Don't pour cold water on him and discourage his confidence, otherwise he may collapse, but affirm his ability to give him confidence. Let him go on the road full of fighting spirit and go to work hard.

3.Reconsider your feelings

If your boyfriend is very naïve, the mud can't support the wall, no matter how you coerce and lure, and you still don't want to be motivated, then you have to reconsider your choice, whether he can give you the future you want, is he the right choice?

Since you have given him the opportunity to change his life or he is still not motivated, then it is better to give up your feelings, maybe only when he really experiences setbacks will he wake up and seek progress, but youth waits for no one, don't waste your beautiful youth on a confused future.