How to guide a child in the rebellious period?

As the children grow older, they will slowly not be afraid of you riding at this time The child is really difficult to get along with, because when they are rebellious, the parents' words will help, so that they feel particularly upset, they are not willing to go, according to the parents' words, they will only do it according to their own ideas, and even sometimes the family members give them some requirements They will do the opposite, often at this time parents and children are special headaches.

In fact, as they grow older, the children's rebellious period is often caused by their boredom with life, at this time parents should tell them to take the initiative to guide them, so that they are full of confidence in life, so that they are full of confidence in their parents, I believe that only in this way can they take the initiative to cater to their parents, take the initiative to cater to life, and then do something positive.

For children in the rebellious period, as parents, they should take the initiative to have more communication with their children, because in the communication you can find out when and where the children have some wrong reactions to what you say, I think when the two of you can understand each other more deeply, the conversation between the two of you may be able to go straight to the root of the problem and deal with the problem reasonably.

In fact, children in the rebellious period are sometimes not as naughty as adults think, because even if he grows up, he wants to get some attention from the people around him and the people he loves, so the children in the rebellious period are actually more vulnerable. Our guidance should start from this aspect.

If many rebellious children encounter the era of the second child and happen to have a younger brother or sister under them, they will easily have a fear of losing in their hearts. They will express their feelings about what they want to have for their parents through some of their behaviors, and even use some radical behaviors to arouse their parents' attention to him. But in most cases, only when the child does something wrong.

Mom and Dad will use a "very caring" attitude to express their opinions to their children. Maybe it's a scolding. But in this case, under the influence of the rebellious period, the child will have some bad thoughts and lead them astray.

Therefore, we must pay more attention to the rebellious children, because as long as the children find that their parents have high expectations of him, the children will work very hard.

When the child is rebellious, many parents will say that the child is in the rebellious period, and it will be fine to pass. This will make the child's rebellion more and more serious, so the right way to guide the child will help the child's transformation.

1.What is rebellion.

When children are rebellious, they lose their temper and refuse almost everything that others ask of them, and their parents do not listen to what they say.

2.First of all, we need to know why children are rebellious.

Children are in a rebellious period because they are not able to deal with setbacks rationally at this time. Children will have rebellious behaviors because of some setbacks in life, which is caused by their inability to deal with these things and their emotions.

3.How do we do that?

Children need the help of their parents to get through this period because they don't like it when they are in a bad mood.

First of all, we need to understand the child's behavior, we understand the child, and accept the child's emotions. What can be done to accept your child's emotions? That is, we listen to our children patiently, do not label them arbitrarily, and do not deny and comment on children.

Then we have to avoid yelling and adopt a peaceful mind, a peaceful way. If you've ever yelled at them, they'll disobey you when you're not yelling, and then you'll have to shout again, and it's a vicious cycle.

And if you keep using this way, the child will not feel your love, and feel that you don't love me anyway, then I will rebel, and I will be like this.

Finally, we can have an open and honest conversation with the child, make rules together, involve the child in the process of making family rules, tell the child how much you love him, and let the child feel enough love.

After the rules are formulated, we have to implement them, and in the process of implementation, we should gently remind them, and when the children forget the rules, explain in detail to the children, explain why they are formulated and how to follow them.

I hope that parents can try the above methods and have a good parent-child relationship during the rebellious period.

1. Help children learn to deal with their emotions: As a parent of a child, you must first control your emotions, and then treat your child's emotions reasonably. Help children recognize emotions such as sadness, happiness, irritability, and fear, and let them understand that the way to vent their emotions is not a single destruction, but can be in many ways.

For example, do some beneficial activities such as mountain climbing, swimming, parent-child games, etc.

2. Listen to children effectively: When children take the initiative to communicate with their parents, parents should be a good listener, do not interrupt children's words halfway, and do not criticize children wantonly, so that parents can better understand and better know the psychological dynamics of children.

3. Participate in your child's activities: Accompany your child to participate in activities that interest them, such as playing ball, swimming, climbing, etc. Encourage children to participate in extracurricular activities, show their self-worth in activities, communicate with them with the attitude of friends, and guide children subtly.

4. Establish a mutually comfortable parent-child relationship: understand the mood of children who are eager to understand and explore the world when they grow up. Encourage children to do things on their own terms and communicate as equals.

Instead of being condescending to educate, the distance from the child is gradually estranged.

5. Treat children equally: The most comfortable parent-child relationship is often equal to each other, and children and parents can be on the same platform, rather than being constrained by their parents. When parents can treat their children as an independent person and do not cut off the dialogue with their children on an equal footing, many problems can be truly solved and the parent-child relationship can be brought closer.

6. Pay attention to the harmony of the family atmosphere: when the child enters the age of rebellion, it is also the time when the harmonious atmosphere of the family is broken, the two sides are always opposed, the parents still want to control the child as before, and the child wants to work hard to jump out of the parents' preaching, and even when it develops to a serious point, the child will run away from home and do not want to go home.

7. Learn with children: Some children are rebellious and disgusted with school and parents don't like to learn, such as parents always play mahjong, play mobile phones, etc., parents should change their thinking and understanding, learn something seriously, you know, your words and deeds will affect children. It is advisable for parents to arrange common learning time with their children, and to have measures to supervise and inspect each other, which can greatly mobilize children's enthusiasm for learning.

The child's disobedience is not because there is a problem with the reasoning of the parents, but because the child's psychological state and needs are not met. From a child's point of view, sometimes their emotions are stronger than logic, and they may exhibit negative emotions and rebellious behaviors when they feel scared, lonely, lost, or insecure.

If you find that your child doesn't listen to what you say, try the following:

1.Understanding your child: You need to understand your child's emotions and needs, and give your child as much support and security as possible.

2.Communication style: When communicating, you need to pay attention to your tone and way of expression, master the methods and angles, and give children full respect and attention.

3.Good role model: Be a good example from yourself and guide your child's behavior and attitude correctly, so that they can feel the truth of what you say, rather than feeling your control.

4.Adopt positive guidance: Instead of puniting to solve problems, take positive guidance to develop children's self-confidence and comprehension.

5.Establish a good family environment: Family atmosphere is one of the key factors in children's growth, and a good family environment can cultivate children's good behavior habits and correct values.

It is important to note that each child's personality, behavior, and reactions are different, and parents need to adopt different methods to guide and help their children according to their children's actual performance and situation.

1.Respect your child's wishes.

When parents decide something, they should ask their children, "Are you willing to accept me doing this?" "What do you think?"

When communicating with your child, you should not be foolish and force them to explain their thoughts. When your child is irritable or sullen, tell him: "I want to listen to you if you want to; But if you don't want to, I won't force it.

2.Don't be too strict with your child.

Giving children selfless love does not mean that they should be overprotective of their children by taking care of everything. Therefore, to respect children is to give them freedom and let them have more choices and arrangements of their own.

3.Guide your child to maturity.

If the child falls, what your parents need to do is not to prohibit him from moving forward, nor to carry him, but to encourage him to stand up and continue to move forward, so that he can learn to be self-reliant and have the ability to live independently. Because the transformation process of children from "natural persons" to "acting as social people" is a process of gradually moving towards independence, and the consequences of depriving this process are catastrophic.

4.Support your child's legitimate hobbies.

It is cruel and stupid to cherish the child's legitimate hobbies, which are the sprouts of his beautiful life, and the attempt of his splendid dreams, and to deprive him of this right is cruel or scattered, and it is also very stupid. Even if a child's hobby is ridiculous, parents should encourage it as long as it is healthy and beneficial.

5.Allow the child to have his secrets.

Some parents will think that it is a terrible thing for their children to have secrets, but they don't know that secrets are the nourishment for children's growth, and children without secrets will not grow up. The process of a child's growth is the process of becoming independent, and the process of becoming independent will inevitably produce a lot of secrets. The secret is a companion to the child's growth.

It is a responsibility for a child to have a secret alone, to face something alone.

6.Encourage your child to resolve conflicts on their own.

It is normal for children to have friction and conflicts because of differences in personality and hobbies, and the key is to treat these contradictions correctly. You can't stop your children from socializing just because they have one or two conflicts with each other.

Tell children what they should do and what they should not do, and if they do something bad, parents should guide their children patiently and tell them the right thing to do.

Be sure to communicate correctly with your child, give your child the right guidance, care more about your child, pay more attention to your child, don't scold your child, and spend more time with your child.

Parents must encourage their children more, communicate with their children, do not put pressure on their children, do not hit their children, do not scold their children, get along with their children on an equal footing, and give their children enough care and love.