How can parents relate to their rebellious children?

For children in the rebellious period, first of all, I think we must learn to listen, and listening is actually a process. Let the child express his bad emotions, including bad thoughts, or some grievances he has received, maybe you will give a certain understanding when expressing, and then give a certain guidance, and then give a certain help, maybe the child will feel that this is a very good way to communicate. It shouldn't mean that the child has not listened to it, and after the ins and outs of this matter, you immediately give him an instruction, or immediately give him a help that you think is beneficial to him.

In fact, the child doesn't know what you do, but what he may need more is to let him freely express his emotions, freely express his views on the good and bad, there is such a person who understands him very well and agrees with him very much. And then you have the right influence, or you can say that, what will happen to me when I touch this matter, he will think that it is like this, and you will have this emotion, and you will be like this. Then you give him a relatively reasonable suggestion, and then he will express himself freely, and he will choose, in his own opinion, a way that should be done, in this communication, we say that it is more effective.

Severe punishment is the next policy, this is like gambling when you send water, you are not as good as sometimes, you still have to be accommodating, don't put too much pressure on the child, understand more children, so that it can be easier to get along, who is from that period? Even if it's wrong, it's going to be rebellious, and it's good to pass that period.

You must not lose your temper with a child who is in the rebellious period. Listen to what they say, even if it's wrong, consider maturity and then communicate and persuade patiently.

During this period, the tough method will push them into the outside world, and they will be easily influenced by bad people or things, so be sure to know more about their inner thoughts. Make them feel the warmest and most considerate at home.

<> "How Should Parents Get Along with Rebellious Children?"

Is it enough to be tortured by children, first of all, parents must not have that kind of winning and losing mentality. Let's put it bluntly, from the moment the child is born, do parents really win the cautious slide? Is there no such thing at all?

You should be clear that when it comes to relationships, whoever is distracted has actually lost.

Therefore, loving children is our knowledge, and we ourselves are the ones who have already lost. Why do you need to divide your strength and my shortcomings when your adolescent child is rebellious? Children love us, you don't have to doubt that.

But because he is going to grow up, he needs to test the boundary, if this boundary is tolerant, then he naturally does not need to toss, and he can naturally present the child's feelings for his parents.

I was very rebellious back then, but when my parents stopped fighting me, I would try to attack at first, but when I didn't have any feedback, my heart was very empty. I started to ask myself, what am I doing? Is there a disease!

Why don't you have anything to do? And then slowly I got back to that feeling of being a child. I would feel that no matter what my parents said, or even scolded me, I would think that it was just a kind of care and love for me, and it was not a kind of negation of me at all.

Therefore, non-confrontation is the only way for parents to help their children get out of rebellion. But don't play that sense of existence and value on your child, if that's the case, it means that you yourself are not mature, and there is still a child with an unsound personality living in your heart. Therefore, in order for children to grow, we parents need to grow even more.

If your child is going through the same rebellious period and you don't know how, we can talk.

In the process of children's growth, many parents feel sad about their children's disobedience and disobedience. Let's take a look!

In the stage of entering adolescence, the child's sense of independence is gradually formed, want to get rid of the dependence on parents, easy to show rejection of parental discipline, when their behavior is hindered, it will produce a rebellious psychology, thinking that parents do not understand them, and gradually distance themselves from their parents, this behavior is rebellious behavior, but in the eyes of parents, children instead become disobedient objects, some parents do not know what to do, but this is a very normal situation. The specific solution can be learned below.

There is a big difference between parents and children, but it does not prevent communication between parents and children. In fact, parents and children can also become close friends. Parents should communicate more with their children, understand their children's ideas, and become friends with their children.

During the rebellious period, children and parents are very different in thinking, but parents should not be in a hurry to deny their children's ideas, but should analyze the pros and cons of problems with their children. The children rebelled, but also had their own judgment. When they find that their ideas have a lot of shortcomings, their attitude will not be so radical and they will reconsider the solution.

Parents patiently explain that excessive conflict can be avoided while analyzing.

Many parents think that the use of violence can better discipline their children, but in fact, this kind of thinking and method is very wrong. Violent discipline of children can harm the child's body and mind, cause the child to resist, and even leave a psychological shadow. Parents should educate their children through reasoning, not violent discipline.

To educate children, behavior education is more important than words and deeds. For example, children love to play mobile games, and their parents take their phones to play games and watch movies as soon as they come home every day, so children are greatly affected. Parents have bad habits in front of their children, and children imitate adults.

Therefore, for rebellious children to learn well, parents must make changes.

Parents should pay more attention to their children's situation at school, parents should let go of their rights as parents, change the way they speak, try to judge things according to their children's way of thinking, and guide their children to communicate correctly.

Before the age of 3, the parent-child attachment period, if you can take the baby by yourself, the child will have trust and a sense of security in you. It will be easy to get along in the future.

If you encounter a child who is rebellious, it will be too late to discipline him, and more guidance will be the main thing. Guided like a friend instead of preaching.

I think parents should respect their children more, and children will rebel, mostly because they feel that their parents don't understand them.

The rebellious period is a necessary way for a person to grow, so parents should not see it as a flood beast. Then take a gentle and grooming attitude to get along with the child, and it will slowly pass!

Children should be cared for, but not spoiled, and parents should not indulge their children without limits. Secondly, appropriately delay meeting certain needs of the child, so that the child learns to cherish and respect. Finally, learn to say "no" to your child, and to explicitly refuse unreasonable requests and explain why.

For children in the rebellious period, parents should be relatively tolerant, understand their children more, and do not impose some of their own ideas on their children, and at the same time guide them well.

Parents should get along with their children as friends, should not yell in the process of getting along, should try to follow their children's wishes, and should also respect their children's ideas and get along with their children.

As the child continues to grow up, his self-awareness is getting stronger and stronger, and he begins to have his own opinions, and is no longer willing to be controlled by his parents, so he becomes "disobedient" and "rebellious". Next, I have compiled the relevant content on how parents get along with their children in the rebellious period, and I hope you like the article!

(1) Parents should first take a step back, the relationship with their children is more important than education, and they must first deal with the parent-child relationship.

(2) Parents should also keep their mouths shut, and they can use the three-step method of controlling anger.

Step 1: Stop arguing;

Step 2: Let go and stop talking about it;

Step 3: Take a deep breath and adjust your emotions, if it is in the rebellious stage, especially when you quarrel, when a parent-child conflict is formed, both parents and children can relieve their emotions through the three-step method of controlling anger.

(3) Both parents and children should find opportunities to channel bad emotions.

For example, change the activity and listen to **. At the same time, parents should also pay attention to the use of "me" information when communicating with their children, parents should communicate with their children to say more "how am I", instead of always saying "how are you", some parents often use accusations when communicating with their children, such as "why is your room so messy", "why do you sleep so late", the beginning of the word is "you", our suggestion is that parents should use the word "me" more, for example, "you seem to have played for a long time last night, I am worried" Wait a minute. In short, parents should talk to their children from my point of view, instead of blaming their children with the word you.

(4) Parents should also lower their expectations of their children.

We often have too high expectations for children, so there will be some conflicts, then parents should give their children a goal that they can get by jumping, if he can achieve it with a little effort, he will have confidence in himself, slowly do something, the mood will be relaxed, the pressure is not so great, then the rebellion against parents will also be alleviated.

Children go through multiple rebellious periods throughout their formative development. Once when the child is two or three years old, and once when the child is adolescence.

If it is a two- or three-year-old child, parents should be patient with their children, treat them carefully, and keep a normal heart, which is the first step in dealing with the baby's rebellion and backlash.

Secondly, we must give children a certain degree of autonomy, without violating the bottom line, since the child is in the rebellious period, some things will no longer be hard and fast, but conditionally let the child enjoy equal rights.

Finally, it is necessary to find out the psychological reasons for resistance and then find a way to solve it.

If it is an adolescent child, parents must stabilize their emotions, seize the opportunity, and insist on accompanying their children gently and rationally with an inclusive attitude. When children express their opinions, parents should not be in a hurry to interrupt, let alone draw conclusions too early, and try to let children express their thoughts clearly and completely. Give an appropriate expression from time to time, add a little curiosity, and your child will speak freely with your respect.

Innocuous little things let the child call the shots, and parents silently pay attention to praise in time, so that he can build confidence in her actions. When it comes to principles, we should guide children to express their true aspirations.

In the face of a rebellious teenager who doesn't want to talk to you in the middle of the wheel, or even doesn't want to go to school, try to recall yourself when you were young, do you also have unrealistic dreams, and there are also moments when you want to escape? Then study the child's preferences and understand the relevant information, even if it is gossip news, as long as the child speaks, the connection can be gradually established. Find a moment when your child is emotionally relaxed, talk to him about his youth, talk about his dreams that didn't come true, and be honest with her what worries him.

Talk less about the score and more about the method, encourage each progress, and be considerate of his bad mood. Compare the youth of the two generations with your child, praise his progress and strengths, and take the initiative to express your love for your child.

I think parents must not be tough at this time, because the more intense you react, the more your child wants to fight against you. So the best thing to do is to communicate calmly, and with a little more patience, you can take the trouble to tell him slowly!

Don't fall into the trap of competing for power with your child, if you win the child, you will lose the parent-child relationship. Put your child on an equal footing and set rules with your child. Help children recognize their emotions and effectively channel their emotions.

Personally, I think parents should communicate more with their children and open each other's hearts, rebellious children are usually short-tempered, and parents also like to fight violence with violence, I think parents' attitudes should be softened, so that both parties can get along harmoniously.

You should spend more time with your child, chat and communicate with him more, understand his ideas and support him.

As a parent, you should calmly communicate with your child sincerely as a friend, share with your child the confused experience of your own youth, explain that rebellion is a normal growth of psychological and physiological changes, refract retrograde, understand the harm of rebellion to life and school, respect the correct expression of children's views, give them appropriate self-space, and maintain their inner privacy.

Only by communicating gently with children, encouraging and praising children, abandoning the way of nagging and urging, and patiently persuading, following and guiding reasonably, can we help children get out of rebellion and reassure parents and children.

Adolescent children are growing psychologically, but they are not yet mature. Therefore, they occasionally feel that they have grown up and no longer want to listen to their parents' nagging all day long, and they don't want their parents to control them all the time. Therefore, in this period of children, parents may wish to try to make friends with their children, parents first learn to empathize, understand the child's psychology, the child is willing to communicate with you, communicate with you.

You'll be able to find the right way for them to do what they're supposed to do. However, before that, you may want to try to learn about the new things that your child is exposed to, and if you can, you may want to experience it with your child for yourself, so that your child is more willing to communicate with you. ‍‍