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When you say this, it shows that you have the awareness to communicate with them.

It's normal to be reluctant to talk to them and to be ostracized in adolescence Everybody has a little bit.

It depends on what kind of parents you are.

It's a suggestion that you can talk about something from school at dinner (talk about what you taught that day) and they're still interested in getting to know about it, saying something that isn't controversial, and if they're more open, they're going to be able to say something funny, gossipy. If it's not like that, you can ask questions (about your study and life) that don't want to be useful, just to keep you on good terms, or to say something that isn't very important.

The point is not to quarrel.

Occasionally, you can invite them to play some games (easy interaction) Don't feel naïve, it's still useful, don't care about their coldness or overzealousness (unless he's going to get angry).

Don't say that there is no common language, be careful and you'll be fine.

Make them feel that you need them so that they will feel safe Parents may feel a little insecure as they watch their children grow up, and don't rely too much on them Let them accept your growth Occasionally hint at your need for fashion, and some parents will pay attention to this aspect and maybe share your interests.

In short, there is no need to have endless words, there is a necessary communication, and don't give up arguments because of rejection.

Then don't say it, there's nothing to do, and I won't say it

You're all wrong, whether it's beating or protecting.

It's not something that can be explained in one or two sentences, so let's take a look at books on education and psychology.

Because, even if I explain it here, you won't do it, and you may not understand the true meaning, so I won't go into details.

This is the first time I've posted my research on teenagers online. Although it is only a few words, if you can understand it, you can understand it, and if you can't understand it, I don't say it.

The rebellious period of adolescents is actually a process of cognition and exploration of the (social) world of adolescents, and a process of "growing up". Because parents have not been able to change their thinking in time, they cannot provide "nutrition" for the growth of teenagers, so the "prestige" of parents has been weakened, and the ideas of the old and new generations have conflicted. Teenagers begin to draw "nutrients" from their surroundings.

However, in this colorful world, teenagers do not have the correct world view and values, so it is easy to be attracted by "desires" and "degenerate".

The reason why I studied these was because when I was a teenager, my parents were too low in education and too little knowledge to provide me with effective enlightenment, which caused me great regret. So, I spent more than ten years researching and thinking, and finally found the answer in recent years.

Let me tell you about my own experience. There was an old grandmother who raised four daughters. Each of them is beautiful and kind, and they are also very knowledgeable.

It's just one of the little daughters, who has a more vicious mouth and is a bit selfish. One day, the little daughter was chattering again, complaining about one of the older sisters, maybe the words were a bit heavy, and the grandmother was very sad to hear it, and secretly wept on the side. But the youngest daughter is still unaware and still persevering.

Later, guess what? If it were you, would you slap that little girl? However, the truth is that the grandmother herself gave herself a very loud slap in the face, and while crying, she said very heartache:

It's all my fault! It's because I didn't teach it well, otherwise how could you sisters scold each other like this now?。 I was also present at the time, and this slap deeply hurt the people present and the little daughter.

She immediately realized how serious her mistake was. I also began to regret it, tears continued, and I assured my grandmother, Mom, don't do this, I know that I was wrong. In the future, I will never say this about my own sister again...

After that, the little daughter, who has always been vicious, really never had a similar situation again.

Landlord, do you understand? No matter how big a child makes a mistake, how much he will not change it. Parents can't be biased or blamed, but should reflect on the problem!

The child is born to you, and the so-called nurturing is not only to raise him, but also to educate him well. And what kind of education is the most touching and effective is nothing more than two points, teach by word and deed, and lead by oneself. The grandmother in the above story has been sincere and enthusiastic all her life, and she has worked hard to raise several children without any complaints.

Although she doesn't know what to teach her children, she has done a good job in every bit of life, and these have penetrated deeply into the hearts of children little by little, and will inevitably achieve good results. And even so, it is inevitable that there will be children who are not so sensible, and when they encounter such a situation, they cannot be treated with punishment, because this child is not sensible, and he may not understand the painstaking efforts of his parents to do this, but may be more repulsive and disgusted, and even make mistakes even worse. And once you first do a good job of self-reflection and correct it in time, the child will inevitably see it in his eyes and feel it in his heart, and believe that it is not far from his road to becoming a good child.

In view of your previous education methods, it is difficult to completely change it all at once, but I hope that when you take action against your children in the future, the husband and wife will communicate well in advance, at least you can no longer fight in front of your children, and the damage caused to your children is also incalculable. The maintenance of a family, as long as there is sincere love, many problems will be solved.

Should you let your son develop on his own, do what he wants to do, and tell him that his life is just a few decades in the world, and he should be happy to make noodles when he should be pickled with girls, and when he should be made noodles?

This will make the child grow up to be very timid, and he will shrink from doing anything!

I understand what you mean.

I hope you can find a Taoist priest who is accurate in divination.

He'll give you some methods.

For example, from health and your numerology to help you degree.

If you don't, it's basically impossible to rely on yourself.