Why do good people never end well since ancient times?

Kindness is a good quality, but being too kind is easy to be used by people with a heart. As the saying goes: "People are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden by horses."

We can remain kind, but our kindness must be a little sharp, and the so-called edge of kindness is actually to protect ourselves from harm. So, why is it that people with better hearts tend to have more bitter lives? Here's why.

There are many people who are good on the surface, but they are actually afraid of rejection, they are afraid of being disappointed, so they choose to sacrifice themselves to satisfy others in order to achieve that everyone around them likes them. They want to live as others see them, but they hide their own light. In psychology, this kind of psychological state of not being able to refuse and not being able to make demands freely, and being afraid of being rejected by others, is called "rejection sensitivity", which is an unhealthy psychological state.

Rejected sensitive''of individuals are prone to anxiety.

In the long run, depression may occur.

Won't say no to other people's requests: Many people think that people with good hearts can do what others can't. In fact, in many cases, they don't know how to refuse.

When getting along with the opposite sex, they will always try to satisfy each other. As a result, the psychological balance of the two sides is gradually unbalanced, one is extremely demanding, the other is infinitely pinning, and there will eventually be a day of collapse. A kind, gentlemanly style deserves it.

But at the same time, you have to be able to refuse, have a sharp edge, and have a bottom line. The courage to say no is sometimes more important than the courage to say yes.

Kindness is a moral requirement for human nature, and the so-called kindness is not to do bad things, to think about others, and to treat people kindly. But in this real world, your goodness needs to be a little sharp. It's not that if you are kind to others, they will give you back with a corresponding attitude.

Some people will use your kindness to achieve their own ends, which will indirectly hurt you. So when you face some unreasonable or even selfish people, you must know that the premise of being kind to others is not to hurt yourself and protect yourself.

I don't agree with this conclusion, from the perspective of the people around me, although the kind people are not rich and rich, but most of them are stable and happy, they have not experienced bullying, have not experienced disasters, have not married the wrong person, and are all simple and happy lives of a single family.

Because he thinks he thinks you're kind and easy to bully, so it won't end well.

The poor man must be hateful, either angry and indisputable, or cowardly and not resisting.

Kind people tend not to be treated well, and there may be several reasons for this:

1.Good people are easily deceived: Good people tend to trust others and are easily deceived and taken advantage of, which makes them more vulnerable to harm and unfair treatment.

Kind people are not good at defending their own rights and interests: Good people are often not good at fighting for their own rights, and they may prioritize the feelings of others over their own interests, which makes them more vulnerable to injustice.

3.Kind people are easily misunderstood: Good people can be misunderstood as weak or bullied, which can make it easier for some people to bully them and treat them unfairly.

Social environmental injustice: In some social environments, good people may suffer from injustice, such as interest groups, power agencies, etc., which may take advantage of good people to achieve their own goals.

In conclusion, it is a very common problem that good people are often not treated well. However, we should not give up our goodness and justice because of this, but should work harder to fight for our rights and fair treatment, and at the same time learn to protect ourselves from being deceived and harmed.

I think the principle of ordinary people is "people don't offend me, I don't offend people", maybe the place you are in is not good.

I'm a freshman now, and it's like this in the dormitory, if you treat others well first, some people may think that you are scolding her, and in turn bullying you, this kind of person will not pay attention to her in the future, and this kind of person will generally end up without true friends; There is also a kind of person who will be grateful because you are good to her, and the same kind of person is good to you, this kind of person is a friend worth making.

In fact, everyone needs friends, and you may be expressing this emotion because you did not first imagine everyone as a good person, and show favor to them first, so that you can test what kind of person they are. It's not a bad thing to suffer, as long as it doesn't exceed the limits you can tolerate.

Kindness is a good quality, but kindness does not equal weakness. Kindness is not meant to be good to everyone. Having different attitudes towards different people is in line with Marx's theory of "concrete analysis of specific problems".

But first you have to make yourself strong, you have to keep recharging and you have to be knowledgeable. Ignorance plus kindness can only equal weakness! It's normal to be looked down upon for ignorance.

If you are kind, please continue to be kind, I believe that kind people will be happy, because we have a clear conscience!

Because of kindness, you are not very wary of others, and a few bad people will take advantage of your lack of defense, dig a hole for you, and harm you.

It's not that kindness doesn't end well, but that many people lack the edge in kindness.

In traditional Chinese culture, Confucianism believes that human nature is inherently good, while Legalism believes that human nature is inherently evil, and children receive the most education about human nature from an early age is still human nature, and human nature is also the concept that many people have been repeatedly rooted in their hearts from enlightenment education to later education process. But the reality will always make people who enter the society receive a few loud slaps, see through human nature, see through people's hearts, but find that although human nature is good, the reality is: the devil is dead in the world.

So why is it that human nature is good, but the evil in the world has not diminished? There are three reasons for this:

1. Human nature has two sides, good and evil, and the human heart has two ways: Buddha and demon.

Human nature has both good and evil sides, just as the human heart is the coexistence of Buddha and demons, so evil has never been reduced because of the existence of good.

People are emotional creatures and tend to be kind. Human beings are economic animals, but also practical animals and profit animals. Man is a real animal, and he must become an animal of desire because of desire.

There is usually no difference between people's hearts, but in fact, there is a Buddha and a demon living in everyone's heart, and they are usually at peace, but when the major right and wrong come or personal economic interests are involved, the Buddha and the devil will take the initiative and fight for control, and whoever wins will push the person in the corresponding direction. If the Buddha wins, then the goodness remains, and if the demon wins, then the wicked are born.

Good and evil have always coexisted in the world, and it will not let the evil subside because people advocate good, they are like twins, accompanying each other in the world.

2. The malice spawned by uncontrolled desires.

People's practical interests and economic desires will never leave the world because of the development of society, and these dark sides of human nature that are real but not faced by us will always exist with human life. When human beings have desires, power desires, interests, and the heart of gain and loss, everything is in the most self-interested way to deal with others, when people are manipulated by desires, when desires cannot be satisfied, people will pursue a higher level of desire satisfaction, and the god skin may release the demons in their hearts and let them be manipulated by the demons in their hearts. Unleash all the evil in human nature.

Kind people are too good and think too much, so they can't let go of their hands and feet, and bad people, for the sake of their own interests, can be desperate to display their talents.

Human nature has two sides of good and evil, the human heart has two sides of Buddha and demons, and human nature has both good and evil sides, just as the human heart is the coexistence of Buddha and demons, so evil has never been reduced because of the existence of good.

Kind people always shout that the first is that you think about others first, and they will consider their own interests and their own safety first, they have the spirit of self-sacrifice and selfless dedication.

There are no absolutes in the world, good people also have a dark side, and bad people also have a sunny side.

I believe that each of us wants to get along with others better, because each of us will have all kinds of people around us, and we also know that only when we get along with others can we get along with everyone more harmoniously, and we will make everyone better together.

So we see that a lot of people are very kind, and they will be kind to the people around them, but even though we see that there are many people who are very kind, and they can treat the people around them well, we still see a lot of people. They are not treated by others, so some people wonder if they need to be kind if they are not treated well.

Indeed, we see a small number of people who find that even though there are many people who are very kind, we are even better able to care for and love each other. But even if we take others seriously, there are some people who don't treat us well, and even they will do things that hurt us, so it will make many people feel that it will take a long time. There is no need to be kind to others anymore.

But we're seeing that for more people, they know. If we are not able to be kind to others, then it is obvious that it may be difficult for others to be kind to us and we believe that when we are able to care for and love others better, this will take a long time. The other party can also be very good with us and get along.

I believe that when we work hard and care and love well, others will eventually be able to make me and others get along more harmoniously.

So we do see that there are people around us who are able to treat others with kindness, but they don't get kindness from others. So some people wonder if it is necessary to be kind?

Maybe for a small number of people, they think that since we are kind to others, but others are not kind to us, so we don't need to be kind to others, but we see that for most people. They know. If we can always care for and care for others, then our kind actions will eventually affect them.

In this way, the two can get along better together.

I believe that when each of us can be kind to the people around us, eventually the people around us will also be kind to us, so that everyone can get along better together, and ultimately let everyone get along more harmoniously and friendly.