Is it right to divorce for the sake of the family, and should the divorce be told to the family?

If the divorce is just because the relationship between the lover and the family is not good, it is not necessary and can be solved.

However, the problem now is that there is no relationship between you either, and I don't think it's fun to be together reluctantly.

You are now just worried about the growth of your child, just ask, a child grows up in a discordant family, and his life is full of quarrels, cold wars, scolding and bitter faces, do you think the child can grow up healthily? To be honest, children who grow up in such an environment have a very rugged personality, and each stage of a child is only once in a lifetime, and parents must be responsible for their children. If you are sure that you really have no feelings, end it early, the current concept of people is not very old, and it is not impossible to reorganize a family while you are young and give your children a healthy environment to grow up.

Of course it's not right, the child is too young to be born, and your responsibility is to let him grow up happily. How can a husband and wife not quarrel. Feelings still need to be cultivated.

After a long time, it is like the left and right hands. No matter how emotion there is, they will eventually choose to go together because of a support point......Children cannot be victims of your affection......Please give him more loving ......

If you have no feelings, and you have no financial problems, then leave, if the relationship is weakened because of the family relationship, and the parents want to meet his conditions, then it depends on what you are like personally, I think it should be difficult to find, then do not leave.

Wrong. It's you, not family, who lives your life.

You have to know that you who can go through your life with you are lovers; Parents no matter what, they just want you to be happy, if you still have feelings with your lover, you should think about how to help him and his family improve the relationship, I believe that as long as the feelings are still there, through your efforts will definitely make the family feel it, getting along is also a kind of learning, not to mention that you still have a baby.

If you no longer have feelings for each other, it is advisable to divorce, because marriage is based on feelings.

Don't hide it, you must tell it. Actually, the most important thing is when to tell them. I think that most divorced people are most entangled in this "time".

I was divorced, and I must have been in a bad mood at the time, and I didn't know what to do. Therefore, it is understandable not to tell your loved ones. It's just that I privately think that when I have some relief, when I have accepted the fact of divorce, I should inform my parents.

Choose to let them know at such a point in time. Although they will be worried, this "worry" will also be much lower.

Divorce to hide and don't hide from your family Do you want to tell your parents if you get divorced?

To be honest, the divorce tent is staring, even if it is told to the parents. They can't help you much either. For their own emotional problems, they still have to rely on themselves to solve them.

Of course, the choice of this point in time should still be determined according to your actual situation.

Living in today's society, divorce is no longer a particularly important and noteworthy thing. Flash marriages and divorces are very common, and children are no longer the bond that binds their parents. It seems that as long as the relationship is not harmonious, whether it is just married or just after giving birth, you can turn around in style and look for the next wonderful.

During an after-dinner chat, I casually asked my daughter, who was in her first year of high school, who she planned to be with if she divorced her father. My daughter told me with a serious smile that no matter what the reason, she is not allowed to divorce after two years, and she must wait for her to finish the college entrance examination in two years. The reason is very simple, the important learning stage of life, I don't want to be separated from my parents, I see my father today, see my mother tomorrow, and enjoy a different care and doting than before, which feels very fake and not real at all.

It seems that the content of the current movies and TV series is still not credible, who said that children don't care if their parents are divorced, who said that children will be happier after divorce, who said that loveless marriages that quarrel all day long and cold war have a greater impact on children than divorce? For children, no matter how bad their parents' marriage is, a place where parents are there is a home, a complete home. Lacking any of them is a lack of love, and now many people are more open-minded and feel that they should not sacrifice their happiness for the sake of their children.

I am very puzzled, I don't want to sacrifice my own happiness for the sake of my children, so why can I sacrifice my children's happiness for my own sake? How innocent a child is, isn't it the crystallization of love, just an accessory of dispensable love? Older children, after their parents divorce, if they can accept the reality, if they are more resistant in their hearts, then their academic performance will plummet, and their personalities will become more extreme, either they will be silent and sluggish, or they will be irritable, psychologically distorted, and even finally embark on the road of crime.

The child is a gift from God to us, a testimony of the love of two people, and when we bring him into this world, we must take good care of their mountain oaks, instead of leaving him alone on the road and leaving him to fend for himself. This is the greatest harm to children and a blasphemy of love. If the marriage really can't go on, please appease the child, at least let him know that he is not the one who is abandoned.

From a legal point of view, divorce is a trade-off between the parties and a matter of disposition by themselves, without consulting with their families. From the perspective of people's orders, you should discuss it with your family, after all, it is involved in bright space and lifelong events, two families.

It's best to discuss divorce with your parents and your sister, because there will be a lot of issues involved, and you may not be so thoughtful.

My parents were always reluctant to accept the fact that my husband and I were divorced.

When we divorced for a year, my parents still didn't give up: "Xiaomi, this kid is not sensible. How can incompatible personalities be grounds for divorce? There are few personalities in our generation that are compatible, and the old man and I have not come to ...... now”

The ex-husband loves sausages and bacon, and he can't make it himself. Every Chinese New Year, his parents would make him a big bag, and this habit remained unchanged until we were separated.

Before the divorce, the family of three went to visit the elderly, and after the divorce, the ex-husband only took the children to visit their parents on major holidays.

In fact, half a year after the divorce, my ex-husband and I each had a partner. Regardless of whether his parents really don't know or pretend not to know, he and Qin Yu can't get along with him.

Later, when the ex-husband went to visit his parents again, the old man gradually lost those words, but they still welcomed him as a "son-in-law".

But my ex-husband's new wife didn't like him to go to see my parents, in her words, they were "ex-parents-in-law", and since we were divorced, the relationship in the past would naturally be as weak as possible.

The ex-husband knew that his new wife cared about him and was insecure, so he didn't get angry. "It's only two or three times a year, which is not much, and the ex-parents-in-law are always the children's grandparents, and I am the child's mother. It's impossible to get rid of it. ”

One weekend, my ex-husband was on a temporary business trip and couldn't pick up the child, so he asked his new wife to go, but the child thought that his father would not come, so he called me. The two women met by chance, and not only released their suspicions, but also became friends.

Later, the ex-husband's father was diagnosed with cancer. I took a weekly leave and rushed to my ex-husband's hometown, busy and busy, and I didn't see anything outside.

I whispered to his wife, "I have to come this time, don't worry about it." ”

It's okay, I know. ”

Well, we're a family. I said, "If something like this happened to my family, he would do the same." ”

They divorced when I was very young, and now I can't remember what my mother looked like. When I was young, I didn't know what divorce was, and I remember living with my mother, but then my mother often came home without accompanying me, and I became a child that no one wanted. Maybe if my parents and children swap lives, they will understand how I felt at that time.

At that time, I was young, I was often home alone, and I had nothing to eat if my mother didn't come back, and I was often hungry and full, and I looked much thinner than children of the same age. This kind of life lasted for a while, when I was six or seven years old, a strange grandfather suddenly came to the house, and introduced me to my grandfather at that time, and my mother asked me to go with him, I don't know why, but I don't cry or make trouble.

That's how I came to my grandfather's house, and at home in the country, my grandparents treated me very well. Although the family is not rich and has little money, the two elders never starve me. At that time, I had not seen my father, and according to them, my father had gone to work in Guangzhou, and now all the expenses of the family depend on his father's salary, and if he does not go out to work, the whole family will go hungry.

My father would send money home regularly every month, which was considered the living expenses of me and my grandparents. I don't have a deep impression of my father, and he only goes home for a week for almost a year. When he came back, he was going to leave before I could get close to him, and when I was a little older, I was even a little afraid of him, and every time he came home, I would deliberately hide away.

Other families have parents who love them, but I don't have any feelings for them.

I grew up in such an environment. My grandparents were not in good health, and I was sent to my aunt's house for foster care. With the passage of time, my father has gained a firm foothold in Guangzhou, but he still sees me once a year, he always leaves me at my aunt's house for various reasons, in Guangzhou over the years, I know that he has changed countless women around him, and he has long forgotten his mother, and I can't remember what my mother looks like, but in my heart we are the real family.

In the eyes of parents, the marriage and divorce of children is a lifelong event, I think you should inform the parents of Shuangpao Hanfang Qingque, if there is no major problem, maybe the parents will persuade her to change her mind, otherwise she will regret leaving regrets after the divorce.

Legal basis: Civil Code of the People's Republic of China

Article 1091:In any of the following circumstances, where a divorce is caused, the party who is not at fault has the right to claim damages:

a) bigamy; 2) cohabitation with another person;

3) Committing domestic violence;

4) Abuse or abandonment of family members;

5) There are other major faults.

In the event of a divorce, the joint property of the husband and wife shall be disposed of by agreement between the parties; If an agreement is not reached, the people's court is to make a judgment based on the specific circumstances of the property and in accordance with the principle of taking care of the rights and interests of the children, the woman, and the innocent party.