College students are in love and psychologically unmarried

One is that you are confused by many social phenomena, and many of them reflect that kind of result, and in a situation where you may reject the non-mainstream, that kind of thinking has more or less influenced you. The most important thing is because you are a rationalist, you may think that you don't have the money to fall in love now, but you don't know how much motivation love will bring to yourself, remember not to see the world too materialistic, the reason why people are human beings is fundamentally emotional, emotion is the most incredible thing in the world, I hope you watch some beautiful love movies, they will gradually let you know the world, and introduce you to a movie [Twilight] I hope it will help you.

You're thinking of a lifelong kind

You haven't met a woman who can make you throw your head and spill your blood, bold love, I'm afraid that the wounded soldiers won't be able to go to the battlefield, and the worst result is just to return to a person, go don't be afraid.

There is a premise of marriage to fall in love.

This shows that you are very sober and understandable.

But it's also a sign of immaturity.

Maybe you think that love in college is just a small fight, and you don't want to be so solemn as you think.

It's nothing, the more you see it, the more you will naturally figure out something.

Be spontaneous and follow your feelings.

I have a friend who is as unmarried as you, and now I think that you will not be one in the future.

There is only one solution, and that is to find a female (boyfriend) friend yourself, so that you know your own problems.

It may be that you have a sense of fear in your heart, that you will not be happy, or that you have psychological problems caused by the unhappiness of some people around you.

My career hasn't improved yet, how can I fall in love and get married! Zuo Liyu shook his head and disagreed, just like the previous example of a girl who was admitted to the civil service, she bluntly said, "Good love can make people progress together."

Zuo Liyu believes that for college students who have just stepped out of campus, it is important to fight for their careers, but a good love can make two people cheer each other up and stimulate motivation at work. Life is multifaceted, and all aspects of family, society, life, and marriage can go hand in hand to achieve a fulfilling life. In fact, the main reason why young people feel that starting a family and starting a business is contradictory is the problem of time, as long as you balance the time relationship, what kind of things to do at what age, love often becomes a help at work.

Even if you have a successful career and fall in love and start a family, you will face various career search and emotional problems. Life, work, and learning are with everyone throughout their lives, "A good love should be two people together, become excellent together, progress together, and achieve career success together." Zuo Liyu said.

Zuo Liyu reminded college students that marriage is directional, and knowing what kind of other half is more compatible with themselves is the key to "planting trees, flood control, and waterlogging" for marriage.

Pro-3 Hello, I'm glad to answer for you, questions about college students' views on marriage and love, problems in college students' love 1, unrequited love and the illusion of love Single-family love refers to the one-sided "love" in a heterosexual relationship in which one party is devoted to the other party, but cannot be reciprocated by the other party. The illusion of love refers to the fact that in a relationship between people of the opposite sex, one party mistakenly believes that the other party is "interested" with him, or mistakes the normal interaction and friendship between the two parties for the coming of love. The illusion of love is another form of unrequited love, which often makes the person concerned want to be emotional and self-inflicted.

Unrequited love and the illusion of love are both a kind of cognitive and emotional mistakes in the psychology of love. Unrequited love leaves some students in a painful situation, in the midst of emptiness, fire-resistance, annoyance, and even despair. If it is not handled well, it will have a negative impact on the future love and marriage life, so college students who fall into unrequited love should stop as soon as possible and make another choice.

In order to overcome unrequited love and the illusion of love, it is important to correctly understand the profound meaning of love, and at the same time use reason to control emotions, respect the other person's choice, and not be emotional.

1. Unrequited love. Unrequited love is commonly known as unrequited love, some college students fall in love with each other, misunderstand each other's words, deeds, and emotions, mistake friendship for love, and fall into it and can't extricate themselves. First of all, we must avoid this "love illusion" and learn to analyze others accurately.

Secondly, if you confess to the other party and are rejected, you must use reason to restrain your emotions.

2. Polyamory.

Some people have bad motives from the beginning of their relationship, and they are in a state of flux. Or there is no clear standard for the love object before falling in love, which makes it impossible to determine which one is more suitable for you and difficult to choose. Others are motivated by sheer vanity and ignore the singleness of love.

3. Broken love. According to the survey, nearly 35% of the psychological problems of college students are emotional confusion, and the loss of love is the most prominent. The pain, anxiety and low self-esteem caused by falling out of love, if it is not transferred in time, the psychology will be in a state of imbalance of pain and loss for a long time, and it is easy to produce psychological problems and diseases.

Fourth, online dating. Everything has two sides, and online dating is even more so. To some extent, online dating is a good communication platform for introverted students who are usually not good at expressing themselves.

However, it is also very likely to lead to inability to keep up with learning, declining grades, poor self-protection awareness and prevention awareness, and being cheated of money, sex, and even life-threatening situations in the process of meeting with netizens in reality.

There are many tragedies on college campuses because of the failure of love, and such immature love psychology affects the surrounding classmates. For a little thing, quarrel and contradict. Please correct the attitude of both parties in love.

When two people are together, it's like building the Great Wall, it's not that simple. In addition to love, there are many important things in our lives that we need to discover.

2.The two get along with each other, which is the process of understanding each other. Promote each other, encourage each other, love should be the spice of learning, and love in college is more sincere and simple.

In this material age, college love is also relatively romantic. When the love after work is much less simple, more material and conditional. Correct the relationship between love and career, and academics are the main pillars of college students' sense of value.

If you spend too much time on the simple inspection of love, it is a manifestation of irresponsibility, not only irresponsible to your parents, but also irresponsible to yourself.

3.Love is an intimate relationship between people, and this relationship quickly reveals the shortcomings of both parties. It is difficult to make changes for the other person in a relationship and learn to be tolerant.

It is said that love makes people more confident, and love can also make both parties know how to be tolerant and considerate. Meeting the right person at the right time can last a long time, and these two points are too difficult.

College love is just love, and most of the love after work is rushing to get married. When I was in college, people were still young, and love was often just love, and if I liked it, I was together, and I didn't think about the future. Some, even if they know that there is no future, will be together, graduation season, that is, breakup season.

But after work, at this time, everyone is slowly entering the marriageable age, and there is no longer time to squander. So at this time, the love will be more considered, and it is often rushed to get married.

Falling in love in college is a matter of two people, and falling in love after work is a matter of two families.

When I dig in college, because I am still young, the person I talk about has less to do with my family, and at this time it is often a matter of two people. But after work, the family urged him to get married, and the family wanted to get married, and he had a boyfriend and girlfriend, and the parents couldn't help but ask him to come to the house to play, and seemed to recognize this prospective daughter-in-law and son-in-law.

In a relationship after work, the other party's family is often taken into account, such as whether the parents are satisfied, whether the family is right, whether the parents are alive...What the hell. At this time, love is not just a matter between two people, it has become a matter between two families.

Love in college is simple, and love after work is close to reality.

When I was in college, most of them were still ignorant, and their living expenses were provided by their parents, so it was very simple and I didn't need to think about anything else. The love after work has been in line with this reality, and most of them are rushing to get married, so they will think more about it, such as whether the other party's job is stable, what the salary is, and so on. Most of them want to find someone who is on par with them and has the ability to support their family.

There is nothing wrong with this kind of caution towards love after work, and love in college is the purest and least adulterated with material requirements. But college love often can't go far, because two people go in different directions after graduation, so it's a kind of sadness in vain.

In fact, the hearts of college students are still willing.

It's not that I haven't met someone I like, there are many reasons why I don't have a spine to be together, such as being poor, it costs too much money to fall in love, which makes the original poor college students worse, especially boys, it turns out that girls' lipstick, cosmetics are so expensive, birthday gifts should be given, ordinary small surprises should be there, what holiday gifts, there should be a sense of ceremony, go shopping on weekends, eat, drink milk tea, there must be, it's all money, money, wow.

The second reason is that there are a lot of things to consider, if a freshman and a senior are together and are wild, I am thinking, what topics will there be, the circle is different, one is about to work, the other is looking forward to college life, how to get together? College, you might think, are we going to get married? Will we have results?

Will we make it to the end? If it's unlikely, maybe reason will tell you, don't talk about it, there is no result. The graduation season of college is the breakup season, and it is better to separate in the end than to have it at all.