What are the causes of social fear? What are the manifestations of social fear?

Social phobia is a kind of persistent social anxiety, which refers to the inner experience of intense fear and tension and the fear of avoidance reactions in special people. I think the causes of social fear can be broadly divided into three points:One is cognitive bias, the second is personality factors, and the third is family influence.

First: cognitive biases

Cognitive biases include cognitive biases about the self and cognitive biases about interpersonal interactions.

RightCognitive biases of the egoIt is often manifested in the inability to objectively recognize one's own strengths and weaknesses, and the lack of understanding of one's own advantages, and the magnification of shortcomings. For example:Having too much self-esteem about their appearance, without correct cognition, resulting in serious inferiority, anxiety and other negative emotions, become afraid to communicate with othersFear of other people's attention to you, and then avoid crowded occasions, which can lead to social phobia in the long term.

RightCognitive biases in interpersonal communicationIt is manifested in the unreasonable cognition of the purpose, meaning, content and method of interpersonal communication, and often looks at interpersonal communication from a negative perspective, such as thinking that human feelings are indifferent, and the purpose of interpersonal communication is to use each other, pull relationships, and go through the back doorBe cautious, too nervous, which can also lead to social phobia.

Second: personality factors

People with social phobia often have an imperfect personality foundation, such as low self-esteem, timidity, shyness, dependence, high introversion, anxiety, fear, perfection, excessive self-esteem, sensitivity, lack of self-confidence and other factors. Worry that others will see some of your shortcomings when you interact with others, and worry about the negative evaluation of others, so reluctant to communicate with people.

Third: family reasons

I think the family cause is social fearMost importantCauses.

When the child is young,Excessive harshness and criticism from parents, causing the child to think that he just can't do it, do everything wrong, and do nothing well, so that the child becomes inferior and unwilling to speak.

There are also if at homeParents just don't socialize with anyone very much, then the child has not been guided accordingly since he was a child, and he will not be very good at this aspect and enter puberty due toLack of social skillsMany social situations instinctively do not want to participate, and in the long run, it will lead to more and more lack of social skills, and naturally when you become an adult, you will find that you are very afraid of this aspect, and a large part of the reason is that you are not good at it.

Maybe each of us will have some social fear in life, but some people's social fear is lighter and some are heavier. But in fact, social fear is not entirely a bad thing, because we are more sensitive to emotions, so we can take better care of other people's emotions; We're also more attentive and can see things that others can't. Everyone has to learn to accept their own shortcomings, and perhaps in the eyes of others, what you think is your shortcomings is the strengths that others like.

Social phobia: Social interactions are accompanied by feelings of anxiety and depression, as well as persistent inner conflicts. The inner desire to socialize and make friends, but because of worry, they avoid socializing, and even reflect on why they can't do better, and continue to be annoyed and blame themselves for it.

One. Low self-esteem : The causes of low self-esteem can be said to be varied, but the most common ones are as follows

Excessive criticism from others: For example, the strict requirements of the family, the PUA that has become popular recently, etc., make people who have a clear self-awareness gradually fall into denial, thinking that they can't do anything.

The experience of multiple failures: The frustration that arises because of the many failures in the past gradually leads to the loss of information and the inferiority of self-denial, which leads to social fear.

3.Defects of their own: Not only physical manifestations such as appearance, height, birthmarks, stuttering, etc., but also perceived ability defects, etc., will cause low self-esteem caused by self-perceived incompatibility with others.

Low self-esteem is due to devaluing oneself too much, ignoring one's shining points, and having a biased perception of oneself. Therefore, to deal with this situation, we must learn to pay attention to our own strengths and achievements, accept our own shortcomings, no one is perfect, God takes away the door, and there will be a window sill.

Two. Excessive care: There is always a nervousness of being watched, feeling that your every move will be noticed by those around you

Because I care too much about what other people think, so,I always imagine all kinds of bad possibilities, and imagine that my every move may cause other bad consequences such as the discussion of the people around meAs a result, my heart is even more fearful and worried. There are even times when you know that others may not pay much attention to you, but you still have the feeling that others are paying attention to you, and there is a behavior called "fantasy anxiety", and the more you think about the bad consequences, the more nervous you become, and the worse consequences follow.

So, to deal with this situation, learn to be positive auto-talk, and imagine the good outcome.

Social fear is not terrible, it is a terrible psychological fear that is difficult to overcome and the true ability of oneself buried by social fear. I hope that the little cutie with social fear can overcome her psychological fear, actively show herself, and become one of the shining ones in the crowd.

I don't know when the term "social fear" began to become popular. Social phobia refers to social phobia, the fear of dealing with people and avoiding and avoiding them as much as possible. It is more common in people between the ages of 17 and 30.

People from 17 to 30 stages, they are in the first stage of life exploration, accumulating energy, and laying the foundation of life. When they first entered the society, they shouldered responsibilities, and the external pressure began to slowly increase, and they were about to become the backbone of the family, and it was inevitable that family members and relatives would look at him expectantly. But when he realizes that he has not met his expectations, he will inevitably have a feeling of inferiority and inferiority.

Such a lack of confidence will make them afraid to appear in front of relatives and friends。Avoiding unnecessary subconscious contrasts, they choose to avoid socializing and avoid unnecessary troubles.

Sometimes I have social fears. Every time I visit relatives during the festive season, I feel embarrassed to see unfamiliar faces, and some relatives don't know what to call me. Out of concern, relatives and friends sent me concerned greetings, asked us about our current situation, and asked some questionsWhen I don't come up, or when I'm not wearing well, I feel like I don't know where to start, and I feel like I'm on pins and needles

Once, in order to avoid these unsettling feelings, I would even hide and avoid socializing.

Now that I think about it, this is actually because my mentality was not correct at that time. In fact, there is nothing that is not coming up or is not easy to say, it is just my own lack of confidence and a kind of avoidance.

Sincerity does not get the response it deserves, so it begins to distrust people, do not expect, and do not have full enthusiasm. Begin to avoid unnecessary interpersonal interactions, because after seeing some things clearly, everything seems to be covered with a utilitarian mask and no sincerity, so subconsciously I think that there is no need to deal with people anymore.

Believe that social fear can be overcome. As long as we have a correct mentality, no matter who we are facing or what kind of situation we are facing, as long as we are above board. Accept yourself calmly, be generous, and do your best, there is nothing you can't face.

Summary:

Be brave, it's not a big deal. Be honest, there's really nothing to escape.

Are some of us born with social fear? Of course not, we are born afraid of pain, this is human instinct, but it is not our instinct to be afraid of people, since it is not caused by congenital factors, then it is caused by acquired factors. So what are the acquired factors?

I think there are several reasons for this!

Living in a complex family since childhood, parents always quarrel or parents do not agree on their educational philosophy, which will lead to a pleasing personality on both sides, or do not like to talk and are unwilling to interact with others, because living in a family full of love and encouragement since childhood will lead to insecurity. As a result, when you grow up, you will have problems interacting with or talking to people. I am a medical student in what I am studyingIn "Human Development", it is discussed that the attitude of parents will affect the development of children and the development of personality tendencies in the future.

So I think the family environment is an important factor that leads to social fear.

Different ways of thinking can also lead to social phobiaI care more about what others think, and I always keep evaluating myself and denying myself. My own personality is a kind of outgoing, but sometimes there will be manifestations of social fear, for example, I want my aunt to give me more when I eat in the cafeteria, but I can't say it, because I want my aunt to give it in case she doesn't give itWhat should I do? How embarrassing!

What a shame! Although I always think that it is okay to be fine, there are two kinds of thinking that control me, and I often choose the first one and choose not to say it. Therefore, the difference in the way of thinking will also lead to social fear.

Different upbringing circumstances and experiences can lead to a person's personalityFor example, I can tell others what kind of person I am now, but who would have thought that I used to be an introverted and timid person! When I was a child, I didn't have peers in my hometown, and the grade was not in elementary school (there was no kindergarten in my hometown), so my personality was very introverted, and later, I moved to the county seat, went to kindergarten, and met my good best friend, she took me crazy, took me to make trouble, and my personality gradually became cheerful. So I think the difference in growth rings and experiences can also lead to social fear.

The above is what I think leads to social fear, in fact, overcoming social fear is very simple, let go of the denial of yourself in your heart, get rid of the fear of childhood, just fine,May we all be generous in our dealings with others, and may we always be happy every day!

There are three manifestations of social phobia:

1. Psychological performance, the main manifestations of the patient are red face and ears when socializing, and the voice trembling affects the performance.

2. Physical manifestations, patients will have symptoms of autonomic hyperactivity, such as rapid heartbeat, sweating, and a thin and shaky voice.

3. For the impact on function, patients often avoid social interaction, are more sensitive in their hearts, and care very much about what others think of them. There are tasks that are often afraid to accept, which has an impact on interviews, raising hands to speak, making reports, etc.

Social phobia** method.

Psychology**. 1. Behavior is the preferred method of phobias. Systematic desensitization** and exposure shock** have a good effect on social phobia. The first basic principle is to eliminate the conditional association between the object of fear and the anxious fear response; The second is the confrontational avoidance response.

Many patients have learned how to avoid objects and situations that cause them fear without affecting their day-to-day social functioning.

2. There are many applications of system desensitization, which can be divided into real-life desensitization and imagination desensitization. The first stage is relaxation training. In the second stage, the patient is asked to make a list of relevant situations that trigger social phobia in order of the severity of the fear response, and then start with the situations that elicit the weakest fear response, and place the patient in each of them or imagine being in them.

Each step is done until the patient is comfortable and relaxed, and then moves on to the next stressful situation, until the strongest situation does not cause fear.

Common manifestations of social phobia include: flushing, stuttering, violent heartbeat, and in severe cases, tremors in the limbs, dizziness, nausea, palpitations, and sweating.

Specific manifestations in specific situations include:

1.Feeling scared when speaking in front of important people;

2.will be uncomfortable because of blushing in front of others;

3. Fear of gatherings, as well as certain social occasions;

4.Frequently avoid talking to strangers;

5.Care about other people's opinions and evaluations, and don't want to be talked about by others;

6.Avoiding everything that is centered on me, unwilling to come forward;

7.Speaking in public is a terrible thing;

8.Under the attention of others, it is impossible to work with peace of mind;

9.When I see someone I don't know, I unconsciously tremble and panic;

10.I dream of having trouble in social situations.

The above ten are relatively common and typical symptoms, ranging from mild to severe, and can also represent the degree of social fear. In addition, depending on the individual's situation, there may be a fear of going to the toilet, writing, the opposite sex and other symptoms.

1. What is social fear? Social phobia, also known as social anxiety disorder (social anxiety) and phobia, is a mental illness in which you feel intense fear or anxiety about social or public situations.

2. What are the main manifestations of social phobia? Social phobia often manifests in adolescence, and some symptoms of social phobia remain in adulthood. Some people have reduced symptoms of social phobia in adulthood, while others have severe symptoms in adulthood, often affecting normal work and interpersonal communication, and adopting an avoidant attitude towards many things, inhibiting their own talents from playing.

3. What is the occupation of social fear?

1. Programmer.

This profession deals with the computing industry on a daily basis, including **, and does not need to have much contact with others. It is a very professional and technical occupation, and to a certain extent, it is irreplaceable. So there is no need to look too much at the face of the boss and do a good job in the relationship between comrades.

Even if you don't like to contact other people and make others feel that their emotional intelligence is low, you will not be eliminated by the company, and many bosses still like such programmers who don't talk much, are honest and willing to do filial piety. So it's the best career for people who don't like to socialize with people. The disadvantage is that there is a certain technical threshold.

2. Financial personnel of the company. The company's financial staff is basically clever and deals with numbers every day. Usually when working with people, Gou Neng can only talk about the company's financial system, and there are many things to do according to the rules.

You don't need to do too much left and right. As long as you do your job well, don't make mistakes. Touching the dust is especially suitable for the work of otaku and female friends who are afraid of society.

3. Writers and painters and other artistic and creative industries According to incomplete statistics, people with social phobia are generally very meticulous. They are usually more observant of their surroundings and are particularly sensitive to changes in their surroundings. And when a person is alone, his concentration is generally higher.

From past experience, it can be seen that many famous writers or painters in the world have certain social phobia problems, such as the great painter Van Gogh, because of the ups and downs in life, so he likes to be alone all his life. This time of loneliness also gave him infinite creative inspiration and concentration.

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In short, we must realize that social phobia itself is also a disease, and it is also needed. Otherwise, it will definitely affect your normal work. Here are two ways to change the way you socialize:

1.People with social phobia generally experience setbacks and blows as a child, or after experiencing certain things in adulthood, they become reluctant to socialize with others due to lack of self-confidence. Therefore, improving your self-confidence is a key step, and you should always do autosuggestion training for yourself to express that you can do things well.

At the same time, don't blame yourself too much if you encounter problems. We must face up to our own efforts and progress.

2.Having the courage to accept the opinions of others is not scary, and people with social phobia can find a job that they are satisfied with. But if we want to pursue a better life, it will be a better choice to break through ourselves and embrace others.