How do you get along with mentors and apprentices of the opposite sex in daily life or at work?

The traditional teacher-student relationship has a strong ethical color. A teacher for one day, a father for life. A teacher-student culture is a family-like culture.

In 2013, in an article entitled "Investigation and Analysis of the Relationship between Graduate Students and Supervisors under Mass Education", the author surveyed graduate students and supervisors in six universities in Guangdong, and the results showed that the relationship between tutors and students was one of mentor-apprentice or even parent-child relationship, accounting for 70% of the total sample. This kind of paternalistic understanding of the teacher-student relationship has also given rise to many virtual kinship relationships within the teacher, such as calling the mentor father or mother, and the phenomenon of siblings being called within the teacher.

With the modernization and transformation of Chinese society, the traditional concept of teachers and students as fathers and daughters is no longer appropriate. So, how to divide the boundaries between teachers and students in colleges and universities, especially teachers and students of the opposite sex? A university teacher shared his views on the blog of Science Net:

About the bottom line. At no time and under no circumstances should a student be sexually harassed, and an improper relationship with a student should never be allowed. There are principles in life, there is a bottom line in doing things, and whoever touches the high-voltage line will make a big mistake.

It's about life. Teachers have their own personal lives and students have their own personal lives, and in principle the two cannot intersect. It is best for the tutor not to invite the student to the home for dinner, the student should not know the address of the tutor's home, and even if the teacher lives in the school, the student should not know which building and which unit.

As a general rule, university teachers should not go to a student's home or rented residence alone. If the group is full of students of the opposite sex, you need to be accompanied by teachers of the opposite sex or your spouse and children, in principle, teachers are not allowed to ingest a large amount of alcohol or alcoholic beverages during the activity.

About worship. If there are students of the opposite sex, it means that they worship the teacher, so please do not be complacent at this time. Please guide, worship or superstitious anyone who is an immature idealism at work, and should be transformed into a motivation to study hard.

Teachers should not be alone with students of the opposite sex, and teachers should be careful about their words and actions, and should not boast about their past grades, which will give students a false impression.

About youth. If the teacher expresses a good impression of the student of the opposite sex, there is a sense that the youth is gone, and implements it in words and actions, it is very dangerous at this time. Teachers should self-reflect, pay attention to their words and deeds, and clarify their responsibilities and obligations as teachers, rather than using the convenience of their own identity to capture the favor of students of the opposite sex.

Get along normally, be respectful, keep your distance, and be dignified.

Just keep a normal distance between men and women!

As the saying goes: the master leads the way, and the cultivation depends on the individual.

In the workplace, there are quite a lot of positions that are not simply trained to be competent, in order to allow new employees to quickly adapt to the position and participate in the work, many companies will arrange one for new employees at the beginning of their employment"Master"。As a result, there is a special relationship in the workplace, the mentor-apprentice relationship.

What kind of relationship is the mentor-apprentice relationship?

This relationship is often different from person to person, some masters teach seriously, and apprentices do not learn seriously, so"Master-apprentice relationship"It slowly fades;

Some apprentices really want to learn, but the master doesn't teach well, so"Master-apprentice relationship"become chicken ribs;

When the master is willing to teach, the apprentice is eager to learn, this kind of thing"Master-apprentice relationship"It is bound to develop for a long time.

Everyone has also been a newcomer in the workplace, and at the beginning of joining the workplace, regardless of whether there is a master or not, they must have received more or less guidance and help from their colleagues.

What if you have a new person who needs your guidance? Would you like to do so? And how to deal with the relationship with the apprentice?

Know more, but not be proud.

Employees who can become masters, the ability of the post naturally has nothing to say, so it is easy to appear that some masters are self-confident and shout at the apprentices, resulting in a tense relationship between the master and the apprentice.

Church apprentices, starve masters.

Some workplace masters are conservative and feel that if they teach their apprentices, their status in the post will be threatened, so they often hide their apprentices. The author thinks that it is not necessary, there is not only one employee in a position in the company, the apprentice learns well, and the master's face is also bright, and the master-apprentice relationship is often further than the colleague relationship.

Individualized. Workplace mentors also need to mentor newcomers"Individualized. "。

If the apprentice is not willing to learn, the master does not need to bother to teach. After all, the workplace master is not as good as the teacher in the school, and there is no business to supervise learning.

If the apprentice is stupid and has average understanding, then the master only teaches the basics, and the apprentice's growth depends on time to accumulate.

If the apprentice has the ability to learn.

If you are strong, but your mind is not right, then the master will not be able to put it"Up the tree"The skills are passed on.

If the apprentice has a good attitude, is willing to learn, and respects the master, then the master can lead the apprentice to do more business and teach while doing, which will gradually add a helper.

I think it's best to always call him Master with respect, so that I can distance myself and I won't have any other thoughts.

You can get along like normal friends, talk normally when you should speak, avoid when you should avoid, say what you should say, and do what you have to do.

The master and apprentice of the opposite sex should respect each other and keep a distance from each other, and only in this way can you get along more tacitly.

As long as you get along according to the general relationship, don't think too much about the rest, as long as you get along well, it must be very good.

It's good to get along with the opposite sex at work, it's a colleague relationship, there's nothing difficult, it's very simple.

First of all, you should focus on work, and try to keep a proper distance, after all, there is a difference between men and women.

How to get along with the master and apprentice of the opposite sex, I think in this case, don't embarrass yourself too much, sometimes people don't want to do anything with yourself but put yourself in a particularly awkward position.

She doesn't love you, and it's not that you're not good. Excellent, not a reason for love. Look at the fact that there are so many people who love themselves, and smiling faintly is also strangely sweet.