Parents are obedient to everything their children, what are the harms?

With the better and better living standards of people now, the living conditions provided by parents for their children are getting better and better, and they do not master the method at all when educating their children, but blindly spoil, obey their children, and accept any requirements for their children without reason. Parents spoil their children too much, and they are obedient to their children, and the harm to their children is very great.

Whether the child develops a good habit or a bad habit, it takes a long time, especially when the child is young, the mood is not mature, there is no normal ability to judge and lose points, the family environment has a very large impact on the child, if the parents spoil the child too much, it is easy to cause the child to develop bad habits. If parents help their children solve everything, and parents will give what their children want, children will habitually rely on their parents, instruct their parents, and thus lose their independence, and will only hide behind their parents when they encounter difficulties in the future, so it is very detrimental to the growth of children.

Nowadays, many parents usually complain that their children do not know how to be grateful at all, but in fact, there is a causal relationship between this and the cause.

If parents spoil their children too much when they are young and are obedient to their children, children may become ungrateful. Parents are always selfless and dedicated to their children, but they do not teach their children to be grateful at all, and agreeing to any request will make children feel taken for granted, so children may not have gratitude when they grow up.

If the child is in the family environment, all the requirements of the parents for the child are all obedient, almost spoiled to grow up the child, there will be a lack of experience of setbacks and tribulations. But children can't stay with their parents forever, and parents will have to leave their children one day or survive on their own. But children who grow up in such an environment have no empathy, they don't know it at all when they socialize and live with others, and they will only blindly ask others to contribute from the perspective of others, so it is difficult to adapt to social life and may be excluded.

There are a lot of harms. Because this is likely to lead to the child being very willful, it will affect the child's character development, it will affect the child's growth and development, it will lead to the child's rebellious behavior, and it will also lead to some extreme behaviors in the child.

Children can become irritable, proud, irrational, disobedient, and unfilial, and this is not good for the child's physical and mental health.

It is not conducive to the growth of children, children will have no opinions, no good self-care ability, no good personality, and will become very willful.

Every child is the treasure of the parents' hearts, sometimes parents are particularly obedient to their children, eager to give the best things in the world to their children, but they don't know that this practice is actually doting on children, and in this practice will also form some harm to children, it is easy for children to become selfish, and at the same time, they also lose their ability to be independent and self-reliant, weakening their ability to accept setbacks.

If parents are always obedient to their children's requirements, it is easy for their children to become selfish for a long time. They will think that all good things should be given to him alone, and gradually they will become only thinking about themselves and not thinking about the feelings of others, which is extremely detrimental to the child's development. After all, we live in a society where we need other people to get along with, and no one likes a self-centered person.

Blindly satisfying children can make children lose their ability to be independent, and we have seen news reports before.

Some students are not able to achieve independence until they go to university, and they need their parents to be by their side to help them take care of their daily affairs. Although such cases are relatively rare, they are also real. As a parent, if you take care of everything for your child, then the child loses the ability to be independent, which is also a deprivation of the child's ability to be independent.

Adhering to your child will also weaken your child's ability to accept frustration, because the child's demands at home will be met, so they will naturally think that they can enjoy the same treatment when they are out of society. Once you find that no one in society will follow you, then your heart will be very frustrated, and not all children may be able to bear it at this time. Therefore, I hope that parents will not spoil their children too much, refuse some unreasonable requests from their children, and don't let him think that the world revolves around him.

It will lead to problems with the child's personality, will cause the child to become more and more extreme, and then can't get what he wants, and may use an extreme way, but it may lead to problems with the child's concept of choice, and then it may be extremely rebellious to Sun Chun.

Will Li Qi let the child develop such a habit of friendship, it will also make the child disturb the book and become rebellious, the child will not know how to respect others, which will affect the child's living habits, and will spoil the child too much, so that the child has problems in life.

It will affect the child's personality, and it will also affect the child's attitude towards doing things, and when he grows up, he does not have any ability to shrink and roll, he can't do anything without his parents, and he can't support himself. You may be particularly scared when you don't have access to others. Dry preparation.

If the parents don't give the child anything when they grow up, the child may run away from home and jump off the building to threaten the parents. This kind of thing can really be big or small.

The child will become very willful, without good interpersonal communication, without the ability to accept the sedan chair, without good language skills, or without good popularity, the child's personality will be very irritable.

The child is noisy and develops such a sex, and the child becomes rebellious, and the child does not know how to respect people, which affects the child's life and livelihood.

Shouldn't. Because parents are obedient to their children, they will make their children pampered, and it is not conducive to their children's growth, so I don't think it should be like this.

Parents should definitely not be obedient to their children. If parents are obedient to their children, the children will become particularly rebellious, and they will grow up to be very disobedient, which is the wrong behavior to overspoil the children.

I don't think so, if this happens, the child will become very rebellious and will not listen to his parents.

Whether it is obedient to the child before, or strict with the child, children at this age will appear to be rebellious as their parents. At this time, parents should adjust their own position, rather than letting their children receive the past state.

What to do if the child is rebellious and ignorant:

The first is to accept it calmly and make up your mind. At this point, it is useless to blindly blame yourself, and it is even more useless to just blame the child. Calm down, accept the reality of your child, show 12 points of confidence and courage, and be ready to "fight a protracted battle".

I believe that as long as parents do not give up on their children, as long as there is love, their children will definitely get better.

The second is to change the concept and change the way of education, and no longer accommodate children without principle. Now that the child has been awakened, the willfulness and selfishness of the child are caused by the parents' own obedience to the child, then from today, from now on, it is time to start on, and the child must no longer be spoiled. Of course, the change of parents' attitude towards their children, the degree of requirements, should be appropriate, no longer in a hurry, and the steps should not be too big, otherwise the child will be difficult to adapt to all of a sudden, and will not be able to do it, and the effect of Zen will be counterproductive.

The third is to learn to respect children, not to the tip of the needle, should be soft to overcome rigidity, and resolve the rebellion of the child. At the age of 16, he is still in the rebellious period of adolescence, although he is nearing the end. The main characteristic of this period is that it is rebellious, does not want to be controlled by its parents, does not want to be bound by rules and regulations, is unrestrained and free; They seem to have their own thoughts and their own beautiful life plans, but they are extremely at a loss in the face of reality, after all, their abilities are insufficient, their wings are not hard, and everything can only be utopian; The special age makes the youth hormones in their bodies have fermented, so they are still entangled with emotions during this period, and even trapped by love.

Parents should understand their children, understand their children, respect their children, and help them get through this "life disaster".

Fourth, we will deliberately cultivate children in the big picture, guide children to look far ahead, and establish good interpersonal relationships. Selfishness is human nature, but the role of family education cannot be ignored. The subject is obedient to the child, which undoubtedly prompts the child to be more selfish.

Therefore, putting an end to the spoiling of children is the first step, and it is also necessary to consciously guide and educate.

Fifth, at this time, children will also have strong self-esteem, demand independence, and have their own privacy secrets. Therefore, parents should not interfere too much, even if he fails in some things, as long as he does not ask for assistance, let him deal with it himself. Don't praise and criticize your child too much in front of other people, this will have an impact on your child.

Don't go out of your child's room at will, pay attention to your child's psychological state.

Sixth, I hope that parents will pay special attention to the child's character. No matter what the personality of He Wangque, don't let the child be too extreme, and parents, teachers or psychologists should intervene when appropriate.

In short, as parents, we must believe in our children, children are born to be taught by us, so we must truly never give up on our children, with love, determination, patience, and perseverance to influence, raise, guide, and educate, and believe that there is no child who has become bad.

1.Let your child know that it's not good to be selfish. Parents should let their children know that being selfish is bad.

Selfish children will not be liked and will be easily excluded. No one likes to be friends with selfish people, let alone play with brothers, they will be very lonely. 2.

Let your child learn to get along with others. Children who know how to share selfishness usually do not have many friends and do not know how to get along with others. Parents should encourage their children to make more friends, communicate their inner thoughts with others, and learn to express themselves in words.

And in the process of getting along with friends, children will also know how to spend money and share, and children will not be selfish.

This parent should communicate well with the child, understand why the child has become the way he is, and then slowly teach and correct.

Parents must strictly manage their children, so that children understand what to do and what not to do, so that children can learn to share.

Loving children is good, but excessive love is likely to turn into doting. Doting is the abnormal love of parents for their children, and it is also an irrational love that directly affects the physical and mental development of children. So, I am very obedient to my children, who knows the dangers of spoiling children and how to solve them?

First, the loss of independence. Studies have shown that children from doting families are more likely to develop sensory integration disorder than children from strictly democratic families. Because caregivers (parents, grandparents, or maternal grandparents) over-indulge and protect their children, they are always afraid that the child will be hurt and bullied for long-term hugging protection, depriving all children of the opportunity to be independent, and in the long run, the child will lose the ability to be independent.

Second, develop bad habits. Some parents spoil their children too much and get used to their children's temperament. As long as the child likes to go with him.

For example, when the child does not eat, he replaces the meal with snacks, and the parents do not stop him, he has always been used to it. Long-term pampering can lead children to develop bad habits.

Family education is based on consistency, so that children can learn to empathize and give children a sense of responsibility.

Again, spoiling makes the child less capable. Our parents want their children to have the ability to learn and do well; They also want their children to be confident and able to do things in awe. All parents think this way, but we love our children very much, and this kind of education leads to low ability of children.

Spoiling can reduce a child's abilities in every way.

Finally, it is not conducive to the normal progress of school education. Children who have moral defects due to doting enter kindergarten are often criticized by teachers because they cannot be willful and do whatever they want at home, so they ask their parents for help. Indulgent parents are generally disgusted by criticism and constantly make more excuses for their own doting behavior in order to achieve psychological balance, making it difficult for teachers to persuade and educate.

If it continues like this, it will only cause harm to the baby's growth and character formation.

Spoiling children will really hurt children, will make children's personality become particularly irritable, do not know how to be grateful, the most effective way is to give children when they make mistakes, should be given severe criticism and education.

The danger of spoiling a child is that he will never grow up, and the solution is to combine grace and power.

Husbands and wives often quarrel over financial issues. If parents often quarrel in front of their children because of financial issues, they care too much about each other's interests and losses, and they usually mention money and brands in front of their children, resulting in their children becoming realistic and utilitarian. If husband and wife can get along in harmony, pay less attention to some money and material things, and pay more attention to the cultivation of emotions between family members, let emotions override material, compromise and humility with each other, and love each other, it will naturally make children feel family affection and ignore interests.