When you fall out of love, what happens?

When I was out of love, I was very painful and very negative, and I felt that I was the most miserable person in the world, I didn't want to eat, I didn't want to work, I just wanted to sleep alone.

There is an excuse to continue to make ......

There are always a few times in life that you have to go through a few breakups.

In the first few times, I would feel like the end of the world, as if I was going to die in the next second, and I would feel painful when I thought about that person, or when I thought about all the things we had been together before. Physiologically, I feel that my heart is tightening one after another, and every time I contract, the blood will flow against the flow, and even the tips of my fingers will be numb and painful. You used to fight with your friends until late at night, you used to overeat and want to forget the unhappy things, you used to cry in the middle of the night, and even cried alone on the crowded streets, feeling that the tears would never end your life, and you felt that you would never get better again.

However, as you get older, the number of broken lovers increases, or in other words, as there are more and more things in your life that you need to think, care about, and grasp, and as you become more and more mature, when you fall out of love again, you will no longer be so desperately sad.

You know you're going to come out, you know you're going to recover after a while, you know that one day you're going to recover from falling out of love and move on to the next sweet relationship. At this time, falling out of love is no longer as painful as the end of the world.

However, this is another difficult stage - you know that you will come out of the breakup at some point, but you don't know how long it will take. You know you're going to have to go through a hard time to forget, to recover. It's like watching an abusive movie where you're tempted to fast-forward or skip some of the clips and go straight to the happy finale.

Helpless life this product, there is no fast-forward button.

At this time, yours may not be really interested in anything. I don't want to talk to my friends, because you know that no matter how much you say, you will only complain and complain; I don't want to get drunk in the middle of the night or cry in the wind like in a movie, because you know you have to go to work tomorrow and there are still a lot of things to get done. Don't want to overeat or go on a shopping spree, because you know that the consequences of such an immature behavior can be twice as much as a workout at the gym or a sadder feeling when you pay off your credit card next month.

You know you're going to come out, you know you're going to have to stay sane, you know you're going to try to get life off track, you know you're going to have to endure this for a while.

But you don't know how long it will be.

This is the most difficult time to grow up and mature, and after falling out of love.

Maybe at this time, doing anything will not help much, you can only wait for time to go slowly, the plot of life will be staged step by step, and one day you finally feel interested in something in a real sense, this difficult day will be over.

My personal advice is, don't let yourself be idle, go to work if you can, go to work if you can, go to work out if you can keep fitting, read when you can read a book, learn something if you can learn it, and at least tidy up your room when you can't do anything.

That way, the day you find yourself feeling refreshed, you won't regret that you wasted this time.

In the process of falling in love.

Breakups are inevitable.

However, after the breakup, many people are unwilling, so they make some radical and irrational actions, self-righteous infatuation and human nature, but it is actually a very cheap behavior, have you experienced it yourself, and how many have you seen?

1. Pray for the other person to turn back.

Hoping that the other party will change their minds, or even begging the other party to turn back with death, is a very cheap behavior in the eyes of the other party, such a move will not only not make the other party cherish and feel distressed, but will make the ex more resistant and disgusted. Regardless of whether there is still a chance to get back together after separation, if you are too eager to go back to the beginning and let the other party retract your decision, the tighter you press, the more counterproductive it will be.

2. Foolishness in the way of temptation and self-sacrifice.

Prove that there are still feelings.

Some people find a new love immediately after a breakup, not because they really met a suitable other half, or because they are emotional, but because they want to stimulate the other person's potential feelings in this way. There is a high probability that the breakup is a decision made by the other party after weighing the pros and cons, or even saying that the other party has a sense of disgust with you. This kind of detection method will not only not arouse the other party's jealousy and good feelings, but will make him feel that you are abusive.

3. Spread unfavorable scandals about the other party after the breakup.

There may be grievances in your heart, or it may be true that the other party has hurt you, but since you have broken up, who is right and who is wrong is actually not so important. What's more, the end of a relationship can't be a one-sided problem, if you want to wantonly publicize scandals that are unfavorable to the other party everywhere after separation, in addition to making the other party more disgusted with you, it will also make the people around you think that you have a problem with your character model.

4. Slump after a breakup.

A life is very long, although falling out of love is also a setback, but it really doesn't prove that there is no hope in life, a state of slump is insignificant in the eyes of the other party, people may not pay attention to it at all, only Danhuai's own parents will really feel heartache, and what is really ruined is their future and life.

The most direct way to make your ex regret and even want to reunite is to make yourself better than before, not how miserable and depressed you are.