What is the distance of a friend? Friends also need a sense of distance

You can read a book, and you can talk about the grasp of friends very well, and I hope you can read it systematically and repeatedly, which is very helpful for your future friends.

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The following is a short excerpt from the book.

The frequency and purpose of meetings between friends from all walks of life.

People have the need to communicate, and this is especially true between friends. Since the purpose of communication between people from the three social classes is different, the frequency of communication is also different, so let's take a look at the frequency and purpose of the meeting of the three social classes.

Grassroots society is frequent and meaningless, with the aim of killing time.

We will observe that the communication between the grassroots society is very frequent, and they even get together every day. But the topic they talked about was not how to start a business, nor self-cultivation, but talked about Zhang's family and Li Jiaxiao all day long. So it's a strange world that time is always running out for people who don't do anything, and there's not enough time for people doing things.

So if a person spends his days with friends, it means that he has too much time and needs to spend it. We see that those employees who do not seek to improve are often like this, they complain that the society is unfair to them, they are not used to seeing others pay more than them, they have opinions about the leadership of the unit, but they never use their free time to learn and grow, in order to change their current situation. They always use their free time to vent their grievances, because they have grievances every day, and their hearts are unbalanced every day, so how can they vent?

So they get together every day, either drinking or playing mahjong, taking the opportunity to complain, speak ill of others, and express their dissatisfaction and curses against others. It was really happy to do this, but the next day they had to be angry to survive, so they used it every day to vent. Over time, this vicious circle of not striving for progress has become a way of life for them, day after day, year after year, and finally nothing ...... be accomplished

It is when you think of him that he forgets you, and when you forget him, he thinks of you. Distance is generated, care is mutual, as long as you are sincere and honest with your friends, you will reap a beautiful friendship.

Even if you don't have to talk, you will feel at ease together, and you will be together often and have common hobbies.

It can be ambiguous.

1. There is a kind of distance, when you go farther away, you can never walk together again; There is a kind of gaze that, when facing each other, knows that you can never forget. 2. Distance can make the relationship between people become intimate and cold, and it can also make the relationship between people become intimate. 3. Distance can make some things deteriorate and sublimate some things; Distance can make the relationship between some people fade, and it can also make the relationship between some people become intimate.

4. Distance can make the relationship between people indifferent, but also make the relationship between people intimate. 5. Distance can make some things deteriorate and sublimate some things. 6. Distance can make some things deteriorate, and it can also sublimate some things.

7. Distance can make the relationship between some people fade, and it can also make the relationship between some people intimate. 8. Distance can make the relationship between some people cold, and it can also make the relationship between some people intimate.

Zigong asked his friends. Zi said: "Advice and good ways, do not stop, do not humiliate yourself." ”

The original meaning of the Analects is that Zigong asked the teacher how to get along with his friends. Confucius said, "When a friend does something wrong, it is our duty to point it out and give advice."

However, there must be methods, restraint, and face-saving and easy acceptance. If you don't accept it, don't humiliate yourself. ”

Our life is inseparable from friendship, friendship is very precious but also fragile, inadvertently there will be estrangement, and friends to get along, even if it is persuasion, we must know how to stop, otherwise it will often bring humiliation.

The most comfortable state between people is to keep a distance from each other, and not to think that treating friends as "one's own" means blurring the boundaries, and nothing should be taken for granted. Whether it is concern or counseling, it is necessary to maintain the boundaries and distance that it should be.

I remember that my friends were emotionally discordant before, and when I was asked for my opinion, I also took the trouble to list the man's biggest shortcomings, and then posted similar articles, and finally, the two broke up, and later recalled this matter, I felt that I could communicate in a more tactful way, although it was for the good of my friends, in the end it was me and I crossed the line.

There are straightforward reminders from good friends around you to accept and cherish them, which shows that he truly regards you as a friend. When a friend has an obvious flaw in your eyes, you should also speak out, and sometimes your friend will not know if you don't say it. Of course, when correcting problems, we still have to pay attention to ways and means, and we must use love and calm and gentle teaching, if you cross the line, others will feel that you are interfering with him and reforming him.

Then when he doesn't accept it and has resistance, he has to stop, everyone is responsible for himself, and when he doesn't accept it, you continue to chatter, and it will backfire and humiliate yourself.

Many times, we always give a sincere heart to our friends, and at the same time, we hope to wait for a sincere love from our friends. However, not all people deserve to be regarded as "your own person" and arbitrarily point out the places to be corrected.

The way to get along with friends is to pay attention to proportion, maintain a sense of distance, don't regard enthusiasm as a friend, don't count in your heart, hurt others and don't know, let the boat of friendship overturn.