Do you believe that there is a predestination in the dark?

Do you believe that who you are with is predestined for a long time?

The answer is "predestined", but not necessarily true.

The reason why I put quotation marks in the answer here is because Hu Gao used the established answer to go to the unknown question for it.

In the Olympiad, 1 plus 1 is fixed equal to 2, and this "doomed" can also be this 2, and 1 plus 1 is destined to be equal to 2. But when used in the description of people and things, this "destined" is not fixed to be 1 plus 1 equals the "2" in 2, it can be an infinite number of "2".

In my opinion, "destined in the dark" is indeed the answer, but it should be said to be a summary, the crystallization of the wisdom of all our civilization sages, it is more concise and wise than any summary copy, it includes the thoughts of the hundred schools of thought and the cause and effect theory of Buddhism, etc., and summarizes the interests between them in the most concise words.

All the people and things we experience every day are "predestined".

Including the passing yesterday, our lives, everything we do, and the future, your wife who has never met, your child born in an unknown year, all the facts you see, and all the future to be experienced, are all "destined in the dark", and it can even be said that the entire human civilization is woven by countless "destined".

So my answer is "predestined".

Who to marry, there are some human factors that cannot be controlled, that is, the so-called "predestined in the dark", but there are also some rough human factors. We meet a lot of people in our lives, some of whom may be in the same school, work in the same company, or live in the same community, and they see each other every day, but they never get to know each other. But some people may live in different cities or even different countries, but by chance, they have the opportunity to meet and get acquainted.

This is the part that is uncontrollable by man, there seems to be some invisible force in the underworld, which connects two people who seem impossible to intersect, but after getting acquainted, whether a couple of men and women can develop into lovers depends entirely on the human factor.

The impression of people when they first meet determines whether they will develop a good long-term relationship in the future. The quality of the first impression of others, and judging whether a person's character and morality are good, and whether the rubber stool hall is worthy of long-term association, is not because of fate, but the result of man-made, and it is the role of people's own projection psychology. Only when both men and women have a good impression can love each other produce affection.

Therefore, people's acquaintance to love is mainly due to the role of human factors.

The reason why a person will marry another person for life is that many people will attribute it to an inexplicable and unexplained fate, that is, "fate". But in fact, it's a choice that people make themselves. Many of people's choices are actually driven by the subconscious, and things at the conscious level, which people can easily perceive, will think that this is "me" choice.

And things at the subconscious level, because people can't perceive them very clearly, they don't think of them as artificial choices, but "predestined in the dark". It is not difficult to explain why some tall men marry short girls; Some introverted girls marry extroverted men; There are gentle and virtuous women who marry a prodigal son and so on. It's a choice that people make, not a given.