My senior son took poison last year and lost his independence, how can we live

My senior son took poison last year and lost his independence, so it can be like this:

1. If you have a certain financial strength and have the ability to take care of yourself, please ask a reliable nanny. However, now the quality of nannies is uneven, finding a reliable nanny is purely by luck, and the nanny has to go back to take care of the elderly during the New Year, so please nanny must be able to take care of yourself during the nanny break, and the nanny who encounters a bad nanny also has enough ability to protect herself and have the energy to find a new nanny.

2. Nursing homes, rich and thrifty, anyway, it is to pay the wallet month. For example, how much is a double room a month, and then there are nursing staff to help with laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc., and there are nurses to take care of you if you are sick and not hospitalized. A conscientious nursing home is the first choice for the elderly, and if a black-hearted nursing home is definitely a nightmare for the elderly.

Therefore, if you want to go to a nursing home, you must investigate it and choose carefully.

3. If the economic strength is average, find some elderly people with good relationships and similar interests to support the elderly. It seems that such a situation has already appeared in the country. However, group care is only suitable for the elderly who can take care of themselves and are in good health.

After all, it's okay for the elderly to help each other occasionally when they're sick, and it's unlikely that they will ask others for help for a long time. The elderly must have a good attitude, don't grieve all day long, after all, if you want to live a life can only look forward, but also a certain amount of old capital, you can pay for services, if you really don't have any money, please be sure to take good care of your body.

If your family's financial situation is good, you can adopt a child to raise. If it is an ordinary family, you can also learn about the situation of the nursing home in advance. For today's society, we should actually think about what kind of life we want to live.

You can go on occasional trips with your wife, go shopping, and try things you haven't done before but want to do. People only have a lifetime, and if you can't get back what you have lost, don't let yourself live any worse, and every sun you see at every step you take is for yourself. Instead of being sad, it is better to embrace the future again with your family, come on!

Live for yourself!

I understand your mood right now, but life has to go on. Under the condition of financial ability, it is possible to adopt another child, and there is still a person to rely on in old age. If the economic conditions are not very good, save more money now, and it is also a good choice to live in a nursing home in the future, and the conditions of nursing homes in China are very good now.

You are a master-apprentice mother, your son has a master-apprentice mother, you are a master-apprentice mother, your son has an accident, it is indeed a very tragic thing, if you two are young, you can have another one, or go to adopt one.

There are some things that you can't control, you have to think about it, don't be immersed in pain and can't extricate yourself, the past can never come back, and life has to go on.

Hug you, we all love you, just treat the children as if they went to a foreign country, think of the children who add to the blockage of their parents.

The son had an accident. You should adjust your mood as soon as possible. I still have to continue to live well.

Let's support each other, and rely on pensions in the future.

Hello! With all due respect, I will not say words of comfort. If you want to find sustenance emotionally, I suggest you adopt a dog, I think you must know the star Fei Yuqing.

He is still unmarried, but he has been raising dogs, someone asked him what to do if the dog is gone, he said: will continue the habit of loving dogs, so that the dog is happy, he will be happy.

My family also has dogs, my dogs are already a member of my family, and the trust and trust of the dog in the owner may be better than the emotions of people and people!

I suggest you watch the video again: Robot Butler. There will be feelings.

Finally, I hope you can be happy!

Don't forget to adopt! Thank you!

I suggest that families like this can do something more meaningful, such as caring for the children in the mountains, at least others will remember you well, and if you are old one day, these children will be like their own children.

I have a classmate who is a lonely family, they are now retired, their son lost his life because of a car accident, at first the two of them were grief-stricken, after a long time, they gradually came out of the grief, the old couple often traveled, has completely gotten rid of the shadow of the loss of independence, I think people live to want to open, to see, to cheer up, to live for themselves.

It is said that there is a large family that has lost a single family, and these families who have lost their children will huddle together to keep warm. Comfort each other.

When an only child dies, parents must live.

My only child is no longer there, but as a parent, I should summon up the courage to get rid of my grief as soon as possible.

If the only daughter dies, the parents must also be strong and live, because many societies will also care for this part of the family, which is really pitiful.

Hello, to live.

When an only child dies, parents must live.

The only child is no longer there, but as parents, we should have the courage to get rid of our grief as soon as possible.

The only child is dead, the parents can live, run the man, but they can still live, but if you are old, there will be no such thing, I am tired, it doesn't matter if you can fall in love.

Of course, the parents of an only child will be grief-stricken. But you also have to face life, and you have to live, there will be. Policy. Let the elderly live and take care of the elderly.

When an only child dies, parents should live well, because human beings only have one life.

For parents, this is really a sad thing, but it is still necessary to live strongly, after all, there is still a chance in life. There is still a chance to be alive, and there is nothing left when you die.

Hello friend, we must live, life will go on, the sun will rise tomorrow, so we should come out, and my daughter will see that we want us to live happily.

You have to live, you still have to live. No matter how sad you are, you always have to live.

It's definitely okay to live, but after suffering this kind of blow, if you don't adjust your mentality well, you're also living in torture.

The kind of people you are talking about who have an only child who has died, this kind of parents are called people who have lost a lot of families, and it is true that there is almost no way to live after the death of their children, but there are also some people who can still find the meaning of life.

If an only child dies, can the parents live? When an only child dies, the parents are very sad and suffer a very serious blow, but they should also live strongly.

Generally speaking, this kind of thing is the last thing we want to see. At the beginning, it responded to the national family planning policy. There is only one child. An only child is gone. Parents should be sad. But I still hope that they can continue to live with their children's dreams.

To live, no matter what, you can't live without living, you can go to a nursing home in advance.

What is life, do you know? Let me tell you, life is to be born and live, no matter whether your parents are there or not, to live is your life.

I think parents must be very sad and desperate if they lose their only child, and at this time, they need someone in the family to give them a little comfort, otherwise they will easily lose their thoughts, and no one wants to lose their children.

No matter who dies, the living should live better for the dead, so that they can be worthy of the dead.

I have two understandings of what you say:

If an only child dies, can the parents live?

If an only child dies, can the parents live?

Whatever the case may be, it's sad and sympathetic.

I think anyone with white hair will be uncomfortable when they send black hair, because they are only children, and no one wants such a thing to happen, but the old couple will definitely be heartbroken, but they have to continue to live.

This close friend, about the 2018 subsidy for families who have lost their independence, the unified standard of one-time subsidy for families who have lost their independence in urban and rural areas, a one-time subsidy of 30,000 yuan for each household, including 10,000 yuan for spiritual comfort and 20,000 yuan for living allowance. At the same time, the standard of support for couples aged 60 or older is uniformly adjusted to 1,000 yuan per person per month, but the subsidy for single families varies from place to place.

A provincial Department of Finance and the Provincial Health and Family Planning Commission recently jointly issued the "Notice on Further Improving the Family Planning Special Family Support Policy", starting from January 1, 2017, the one-time subsidy for single families in urban and rural areas, a one-time subsidy of 30,000 yuan per household, including 10,000 yuan for spiritual comfort and 20,000 yuan for living allowance. At the same time, the standard of support for couples aged 60 or older from single families will be uniformly adjusted to 1,000 yuan per person per month. For details, please consult your local family planning and civil affairs department.

Like you, my son is also a malignant tumor, and my only child has left us forever. Every day is a torment. Life is better than death.

I'm the same, my daughter is also a malignant tumor, she has insomnia every night, and she washes her face with tears! How nice it would be if the replacement was sick! Hold on! What can I do!

You should communicate more with your child, he is 28 years old, you can't always gnaw at the old, he should go out to work, and he should take on his own responsibilities. Tell him that you are old and that he should take care of his own life, and that if this is not possible, you should ask his friends or your relatives to persuade him.

28 years old is already a mature man, and should be an age that is struggling and fighting, in the future he may need to bear the responsibility of a whole family, so now you as parents should be tougher and let him go out to work and work, this is for his own sake, but also for the sake of your whole family, after all, you as parents can not raise him for a lifetime.

The reason why your son is still lying at home every day when he is 28 years old is because you have been raising him all the time, if you want him to become independent, you should first let him go out to live and don't let him rely on you anymore.

Let him pay the living expenses for the family, at least the food, water, electricity, and Internet fees. From another point of view, his current appearance is somewhat influenced by his original family, such as not being able to endure hardship, unwilling to go out to work to earn wages, or being pampered since he was a child. 28-year-old people generally have their own ideas and values are relatively fixed, and he may not be able to listen to what you say, and he may not be able to do what he hears.

Let's find a way to make him realize his behavior from the side. Of course, if your family is very wealthy, then he just wants to lie down and win, and there is nothing wrong with that.

In this case, one is that you have a mental illness and need to see a psychiatrist; The other is lack of education, you have to make him deeply understand that he has to survive independently without you, such as secretly disappearing for a while, cutting off his finances**, and see what he will do, 28 is already an adult, and it is the sin of his parents not to make up his mind.

First of all, communicate with her gently and know what he really thinks in his heart. The more he was at home, the less he lost contact with the outside world, the less he wanted to go to work. Encourage her to come out.

Let him realize that he should go to work and have his own pursuits. Recognize the cruelty of society. And it is necessary to make him confident in doing things.

When he has self-confidence, he is willing to come out.

In this case, it is caused by the child's laziness, you should cut off the child's financial **, so that he has no money to spend, so that the child will find a way to make money without the support of economic conditions.

Another way is that parents can choose to travel, go on a long-term trip, and not go home, so that the child can see how she lives at home.

Your son is 28 years old and lies at home every day. I don't go to work, I don't go out. It's likely that you have autism, or depression.

You should find someone who speaks the same language as him and has the same heart. Have a good chat with him and ask him what he thinks. If you can't find someone like that, then you have to go to the doctor.

Otherwise, the child will ruin his life and have no future.

Your child's situation is common to most families, so how to make the child not exempt from the possibility of becoming a waste of firewood, then parents should give him something to do appropriately, so that he can feel the fun of making money, of course, this also needs his own efforts, the most important thing is that if he can make money himself, and can live a happy life, he will take the initiative to find, so the most critical reason is that he has not found his goal now, in this case, parents had better interfere less with him, without saying anything, he tried to provide him with all kinds of living conveniences as little as possible. Don't have any kind of food to open your mouth, this possibility is provided to him, let him eat by himself, make his own purchase, and at the same time try to give him as little pocket money as possible, let him do it himself, and you have to tell him clearly that his parents do not want him to have this possibility for a lifetime.

Your son is 28 years old, and he lies at home every day, and he doesn't go to work or go out. First of all, you have to cut off his financial **, don't give him pocket money, encourage him often, and find a psychological counselor to give him psychological counseling.