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For the parents' generation, marriage is about the door, and the elderly hope that their children will find a person with similar family conditions to marry, but for most young people now, it does not matter whether the other party's family background is good or bad. The important thing is that you can do it if you like it, and without a good life, two people can struggle together. For most men, they think that earning money to support their families is a man's business, and finding a girlfriend who is poorer than themselves can make two people have more self-esteem together.
But that's not what all men think.
Some men feel that they should find a girlfriend who is similar to their own family, and will not find a woman who is too poor to be a wife. After all, the living environment is different, and there will be a big difference in the consumption concept between the two people in the future. On the other hand, the girlfriend's poor family background means that there is nothing to marry a man, and after marrying them, you have to often supplement the girlfriend's maiden family.
This may also be the reason why many men are reluctant to find a girlfriend from a poor family to marry. So in men's hearts, what do they think about the problem of their girlfriends' poor family background? Let's hear from the men.
The concept of consumption is different, and at the time when I fell in love with my wife, I thought that material things were not so important. The important thing is that two people's hearts can be together. If two people can love each other, can tolerate and understand each other, why should they care about the amount of material things.
My wife's family is much worse than mine, but I think I'm better than a woman. I am more capable of giving her happiness. But after getting married, I found that the two of us are very different in terms of consumption concepts.
I always wish that the living conditions for the two of us would be better, and there is no strict control over spending. Wives are different. She is always careful about material consumption, and doesn't let me buy this or that, saying that it is to give her children a better life in the future.
I don't think it matters what kind of family the other person is. The important thing is that our hearts are together. If two people have the same three views, I don't think anything else matters.
We are emotionally equal when faced with a spouse who is poorer than ourselves, so we can't look at them with tinted glasses. John kennedy. It doesn't matter if a man chooses a girlfriend, or a woman chooses a husband again.
Family circumstances should not be used as a measure of happiness in the future. Two people are suitable to be together, and being happy together is a condition that determines whether two people can get married.
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No, two men and women are together in love, they are attracted by personal charm, and they don't look down on their girlfriends because of how big their family is, the future is created by two people.
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Personally, I feel that it will be, but it is still necessary to divide people, because some people also care more about their girlfriend's family background and dislike their girlfriend because of this.
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No, because men and women who fall in love together do not look down on each other because of their family background, because if they really look down on each other, they will not fall in love together.
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Yes, of course, this also depends on everyone's personality, some boyfriends with better personalities will not look down on each other no matter what.
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When we like someone, we will put a filter on a person, but when we know too much about a person, the strength for him slowly fades. When you are young, if you like someone, you may not care about his family background, but when you are old enough to get married, you may care about the boy's family background!
Young love is very simple.
When you are young, you like someone blindly, it may be because of his very handsome appearance, it may be because of his outstanding talent, or it may be that he plays basketball well with rough limbs, in short, when you are young, there seems to be no reason to like someone. And we won't pay too much attention to his family background, because we think that as long as we are together and work together, the future life will be better, and it is best to fall in love when you are young, at least the person who is in love with you is single-minded, and there will be absolutely no interests. And when you fall in love at that time, a girl won't want you to buy her too many things, she only cares if you have time to spend with her, and whether you have patience with him is simply a boy with a better character can have such a girl.
When it comes to marriage.
Today's society is very realistic.
Young girls are haunted when they are with boys who are not wealthy. As a result, little girls think that when they grow up, they don't want to be with those poor people. The reality is even more so, although the girl has reached the age of marriage and meets the person she likes, but because his family is too poor and he is afraid that his life after marriage will be difficult, he regresses and is unwilling to live with someone who is too poor.
Hurriedly choose a rich old man to get married, although the old man may not be the person he really likes in his heart, but at least the material life of the girl is still better, it still depends on the personal choice, if the girl prefers the material life, she will care about the boy's family conditions.
If a girl cares more about emotional and spiritual communication, then she doesn't care about her family.
However, poor couples mourn everything, and the choice of youth may affect the quality of life in the second half of life, whether it is to choose material life or love, I hope that the future life will be better.
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Of course not, our lives should be created by our own efforts, as long as both of us are the kind of hard-working people, our future life will be better and better.
I have never had the luxury of relying on my parents, nor have I ever thought of finding someone from a good family background, because I am afraid of being disliked by others, and the kind of person who will dislike my partner because of a person's family background is even more disgusted by me.
Because in my opinion, how a person is not determined by his family background, but more by his acquired efforts and whether he is capable. I also have some friends with good family backgrounds, with an annual income of millions or even tens of millions, but what can I do? My friend: They have been working for five years since they came back from studying abroad, and they still have to spend their family's money.
Is such a person necessarily good? has been "gnawing at the old" and unwilling to lower his standard of living, if his parents are gone, who can he rely on? Only your own ability is your own, you can't rely on your parents for a lifetime, if you want to make yourself live a better life, you still have to rely on what kind of person this person is.
Looking at people can not only look at the moment, but look at the long-term, and at the same time they should be independent rather than "gnawing the old" after working. It's a shame that adults are working and still "gnawing at the old". What about a good family?
If you earn money, you still can't support yourself. Personally, I recommend that you look at the person you love and whether your love is worth your effort. Because I also have to rely on myself, I feel that this kind of earning on my own is more reliable and reassuring.
So in general, your girlfriend's family background should not be a shackle that affects the relationship between you, you should look forward and work hard for your life.
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Should I consider the family background of my other half when I get married?
Just like in "Ode to Joy", Fan Shengmei's family is really a nightmare for many single young men, and many people avoid it, but Wang Baichuan didn't mind and took the initiative to help Fan Shengmei, but this is just an example, in real life, Wang Baichuan is very rare.
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