My boyfriend always thinks my family atmosphere is not good, can we still be together?

Updated on society 2024-07-31
19 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-15

    After graduating from college <>, I stayed in the provincial capital to work for my boyfriend at the time, and now we have a 5-year-old son.

    The conflict after marriage started with my family. When I proposed, my family received a bride price of 100,000 yuan from his family.

    I can understand that my family is from a rural area, and I think it is not easy for my family to train me to graduate from university, so I should make up for it. His family is in the city, the family conditions are much better than mine, maybe he is also a little pampered, at that time he had a lot of opinions about the bride price, saying that my family did not pay attention to me, when I got married, there was no dowry, and the bride price was not returned, I was not afraid that his family would treat me badly and so on, entangled, endless, I think what to do with so many reluctant words when I give it, we are still young, the money can still be earned, the past is over, the most important thing is to face the future. But he just thought that my family was not good, and then I thought that the most important thing was that my family was poor.

    In the years after we got married, we still gave my brother who went to college from time to time a little financial aid every year, and when he gave it, he was also willing, and once we had a conflict, he began to talk about it. He felt that my family knew to ask him for money, and he didn't allow me to speak for my family, saying that I had always stood in my family's position and spoke, and every time he said that, my heart was very uncomfortable, and I felt so difficult to do it in the middle.

    I can only turn a blind eye to him, and often coax him. In the future, whenever our husband and wife quarrel and have a small conflict, he will be angry for a long time, saying very difficult things, as long as you make him a little uncomfortable, he will add ten million times to return to you, anything ruthless and desperate can be done, I can't get him back with one eye open, it's really very speechless.

    I don't usually talk much. Every time two people have a conflict, I will be silent for a long time, no matter what he says or does, I will not respond. Sometimes I also think that maybe I didn't do well, so I try to do things according to his will, I'm actually a person who doesn't have any opinions, maybe I'm really too cowardly.

    There's still a long way to go, and I really don't want to go on like this forever. He's good to people when he's good, and really bad to people when he's bad. How do I do that?

    Sometimes I think about leaving, but I really can't bear to have children.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-14

    I think your boyfriend keeps saying things like this, and you probably won't be together, because it's not necessarily your family, your birth environment, or your own values that he dislikes.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-13

    If a boyfriend always dislikes your bad family atmosphere and is always picky about you, it is best not to be together with this kind of person, because he does not know how to tolerate and understand at all.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    Personally, I think that if your boyfriend thinks you have a bad family atmosphere, there is still no need to be together, because if a person dislikes you from the beginning, he will definitely dislike you more and more.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    If the boyfriend's family is not harmonious, will this affect our later life?

    1.It is better for girls to find a boyfriend with a harmonious and happy family, because a bad relationship between parents will more or less affect the normal life of young couples. In addition, boys who grow up in an environment where their parents quarrel will withdraw if there is domestic violence.

    The impact on boys will be even greater. Therefore, girls generally have to consider whether the family is harmonious and whether there is family affection. If you marry into a discordant family, it is also very embarrassing, and it is not easy for the in-laws to talk to each other.

    I don't know if it's going to get in the way of each other. The only way to do that is to talk less or live separately from them. His parents disagreed that it had nothing to do with me, and it was difficult to convince him.

    It's better to say less, so as not to provoke contradictions and cause trouble.

    2.For some people, seeing negative disharmony as a child and thinking that the family will coordinate the family when they grow up, it is beneficial. Of course, there are also some families, and the parents' disagreement will bring them some negative intentions and pessimism.

    Wedding dresses are full of negative energy. Pass on this hatred to your future family. That's not good.

    So, I'm willing to train before I get married. Future family relationships.

    It's been well optimized. There will be no tragedy either. Every married woman who marries a man has good intentions, but then it is really difficult to get along with.

    3.Parents' feelings on their children's growth and outlook on life.

    The impact is huge. A parent's life is a reflection of a child's future life. If the parents are harmonious, the child will be happy in the future and will live a loving life with his lover.

    If the parents do not agree, the child's personality and life will be a mess. If they are married, they will not deal with the trivial matters of life and will not deal with the relationship with their lover. If you marry into a family where your parents are not in harmony, it depends on how the daughter-in-law handles the relationship.

    If you have high emotional intelligence, you can let the family relationship slowly warm up. To be a person with good eyesight, you must have strong endurance, be filial to your parents like filial to your own parents, be impartial, rub both sides together, do not arch the fire, slowly soften the long-term feelings of your parents, and treat yourself as their daughter.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    It will definitely have an impact, because the method of doing things for a person's personality in the original family is direct, and there are many things that may be trivial in the future.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Yes, your future life will be a mess, and it will also be affected to a certain extent, which will affect the relationship between your two young couples.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Personally, I don't think it will affect your life in the future, because his previous family has nothing to do with your current family, you just need to live your own life.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Yes. Because marriage is a matter of two families, if his family is not harmonious, you will definitely get married.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Your boyfriend is too far from your family, mainly depending on the gap between you and his family, how do you think about it? If you look down on his family because of this, or have other ideas, then it is advisable for you to separate, and if you do not dislike each other's family life, after all, it is the two of you, and the prospects for continuation are bright, then it is recommended that you continue to be with her.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    If the relationship between two people is relatively deep, the family situation is not important, as long as the two people really love each other.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    If you really like each other, you shouldn't suggest the family environment, and the two of you should still have some communication and exchange.

  13. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    When girls get along with their boyfriends, they find that the relationship with their boyfriends is very good, but the family differences between them are relatively large. In such a situation, there is no need for girls to think about being with boys, after all, being together with each other is not a matter of two people, but also a matter of two families. Before entering the married life, you can find that when you communicate with each other, there will be all kinds of contradictions.

    It may just be that the two people have been dating for a relatively short time, so the problem has not yet arisen.

    In love life, you will see that many girls will forget the problem of big differences in each other's families when they are faced with a better relationship with their boyfriends. In fact, young people should realize that falling in love with each other is not a matter of two people, and it is impossible for two people to be together just because they like each other. If the girl's family conditions are more advantageous, the girl's parents will hope that the girl can find the right person, because the right person is very important.

    When a girl finds a big family difference between her boyfriend and her boyfriend, she should break up with the boy earlier. It's not because girls look down on boys, especially for some girls who find that the values between them and their boyfriends are completely different when they go out to spend. Girls have lived in a privileged environment since they were young, so when they consume, they want to buy as long as they look at what they like.

    But you will find that your boyfriend will seem to be more strained, although the boy's behavior is very good, but there will be conflicts with each other in the future.

    As a girl, if you choose to continue to be with such a boyfriend, it is just a waste of two people's time. In fact, girls also realize that getting along with each other is generally the most important thing is the combination of family. Because before entering married life, love is only a matter of two people.

    However, after really entering married life, you will understand that marriage is not a matter of two people, but a combination of two families, and there will be obvious gaps between the two families in terms of economic expenses, and it will be easy to have contradictions.

  14. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    It should not be continued, this is because marriage is a matter of two families, not two people, so there is no need for such a situation to continue.

  15. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    I think it should go on because your relationship is very good and you shouldn't be separated because of these little things.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    I think it should be continued, because family differences have no effect on your relationship.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    It can be seen from the title that in addition to being dissatisfied with your boyfriend's family conditions, you are still very satisfied with his other conditions. Of course, evaluating a person is a very complicated thing, and it needs to be considered from all aspects. Her person is very good is reflected in the **?

    He is very handsome, has a very good personality, and is self-motivated in his career. Then such a boy is actually a treasure boy. Even if his current conditions are not good, there is a future and hope for the future.

    So it's a very test of your eye for people. If you do, go ahead. Accompany your boyfriend to start a business and move towards a better tomorrow.

    Here is an example that many people know, the famous cross talk actor Guo Degang was once very down, and when he was young, he suffered a lot in order to pursue his ideals. But his current wife, Wang Hui, resolutely followed the young man who was poor and married for the second time with children at that time. As a result, everyone knows that the property rights of Deyun Club, a famous cross talk group that is well-known throughout the country, are completely in the hands of Wang Hui.

    So I think your boyfriend's family conditions are not good, but as long as he is sincere to you. And you can see that he has a tenacious quality, an excellent character, and a man's heart to pursue his career, then you must persevere, don't lose this dark horse in life, and happiness will definitely come to you.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    My boyfriend and I have a good relationship, but the family is quite different, to continue, first of all, show your determination to this relationship, so that both parents accept each other; Secondly, you can talk about love for a longer time, give each other more time to work hard, and at the same time, it can also confirm a sentence and see people's hearts for a long time; In addition, try to maintain equality and independence in interactions, and obtain the approval and respect of parents.

    In our relationship, we often encounter such a situation, such as two people have a good relationship, but due to the big difference in the family, it is difficult for the relationship between two people to continue. In view of this situation, if you want to continue the relationship, I think you can start from the following aspects.

    First, show your commitment to the relationship and get both parents to accept each other. Part of the reason why parents sometimes oppose a relationship because of family differences is also because they don't see each other's determination. If the two of you can show your attitude towards each other, or your determination to the relationship, in front of your parents, you will be able to make your parents accept each other more quickly.

    If you don't show up and adopt an evasive attitude in the face of your relationship itself, then your parents' hearts are finally bottomless, and it will not be able to give you a chance and accept you.

    Secondly, you can talk about love for a longer time, give each other more time to work hard, and at the same time, it can also confirm a sentence and see people's hearts for a long time; There is a very good saying that time says it all. In the face of such feelings, don't be in a hurry, you can talk about love for a few years, on the one hand, during this time, you can work together to run your business, on the other hand, you are still together, and you can also let your parents see the true feelings between you.

    Over time, they will also feel that family differences are not a problem, and that your happiness is the most important thing.

    In addition, try to maintain equality and independence in interactions, and obtain the approval and respect of parents. Sometimes, due to the large family gap, one of the parties may feel that the cube is coveting their own family property, and the party with poor family conditions often has an inferiority complex in their hearts. In this case, you must pay attention to some principles when dating, such as trying to maintain equality and independence, and don't habitually rely on each other, so that you can gain the approval and respect of your parents, which is more conducive to the maintenance of your relationship.

    These are some of my tips for continuing a relationship when there are too many differences in the family.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    I think if the two of you don't care about this kind of gap, then you can go on as long as you get along with each other, and if you both care about it, then you should break up as soon as possible.

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