What are the disadvantages of living with my parents? What are the benefits?

The disadvantage is that life is very inconvenient, you will be restricted by your parents, you will be influenced by your parents, you will not have your own private life, and your actions will be limited. The advantage is that someone takes care of their daily life, someone takes care of their own life, someone cooks for themselves, and someone helps them take care of their children, and their own life will be more convenient.

If you live with your parents, your parents can take care of you on a regular basis, and you can relax in your daily life, but living with your parents will not cultivate your own independence, you will rely too much on your parents, and sometimes your parents will not understand what you are doing and may cause conflicts.

The disadvantage is that there is no way to exercise one's independence, and it will be particularly dependent on parents, easy to have friction, easy to quarrel, and the advantage is that the living state is better, it is more economical, and it avoids physical problems.

You can take care of your parents, make it easier for you to live, and if you encounter anything, your parents can enlighten you, and your parents can help you, but your parents may nag you and you will lack the ability to take care of yourself in life, which will not help your own development.

Advantages: No cost for food and housing, less cost.

Sometimes someone speaks, and it doesn't get so stuffy.

Disadvantages: Housework to do (cooking, washing dishes, drying clothes, etc.), at this time parents do not have to do it is easy to produce mental imbalance, of course, you need to bear obligations when you spend less, just like when you were a child doing housework to earn pocket money.

You don't have a say in the space, only the room is yours. For example, if someone puts something you don't like in the living room or other places, you can say it, because the house is not yours either.

I need to endure some bad habits of my parents, such as: casually putting things around, which is what I hate the most, but I can't help it, I haven't changed it many times. Of course, I have bad habits myself.

01. Reduce the burden on parents. If you live with your parents, when you have a child, many families will usually bring the child to the elderly after the full moon. Originally, the parents are also old, and after the children get married, they should enjoy the blessings.

But in order to reduce your burden, not only do you have to work hard to take care of your children, but also add your own pension and pension to your children. If parents live on their own, they will have a lot of time to live their old age. They can square dance with their friends and go on a trip, which is what they should live.

02, the method of educating children by the elderly is not advisable. From my point of view, I bring my own children, and the older generation of people can't accept the way of educating my children anyway. When grandparents are more accustomed to their children, they are simply ancestors.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with the elderly loving their children. However, for the sake of the child's future education and growth, I feel that it is better to give him certain norms. Parents must always be respected, and it is impossible not to live together or dislike them.

Everything has to be done from a practical point of view, and if all the conditions are more suitable, it is better to live separately.

03, it is easy to cause more family conflicts. If two generations live together, there will definitely be a big generation gap, but it cannot be said that whose concept is completely right. So there will be contradictions between the two generations.

For example, some children like to pursue a quality of life, while parents will feel too luxurious, and some parents always like to eat overnight meals, but their children feel that it is unhealthy. Parents are accustomed to going to bed early and getting up early, and their children like to stay up late and want to sleep lazy on weekends, and parents will say that they are too lazy, which will eventually cause all kinds of conflicts because of their parents' verbosity.

Finally, some people think that not living with their parents is unfilial, but I don't think so. We can look back and see how many children and grandchildren of those families of four generations lived together. Therefore, living together may not be happy, and not living together does not mean that there is no filial piety.

Unless your parents are old and can't take care of themselves and need to live together to take care of them, otherwise, it's better not to live together. As long as the children can find a more "harmonious" way to arrange their parents' old age, as long as they are genuinely thinking about you, then there is really no need for parents to ask to live with their children.

Let's talk about the benefits first: 1. Don't cook by yourself.

2. You don't have to worry about firewood, rice, oil and salt every day, you just need to make money for living expenses.

3. When you are sick and the woman is not at home, someone will take care of you.

4. In the future, if you have a child, someone will take it. You can make time to do a good job.

5. Parents don't need to run a long way on their birthdays, just go home on time, and don't need to run on both sides (mother's house, mother-in-law's house) on major holidays, which is convenient for taking care of the elderly.

6. With parents, there should be more guests (relatives, juniors), and the home should be lively.

7. From an economic point of view, it is better to save money with parents, and the elderly will save money for their children.

The downside is:

1. The food is not appetizing, and it is difficult to speak.

2. Husband and wife have to pay attention to their life, and they don't dare to make a big fuss when they are quiet, and they are easy to be grumpy if they are too depressed.

3. You have to go home on time, and you have to show that you love to go home at least on the surface.

4. When you quarrel, you can't open your heart and scold.

5. Don't think about sleeping lazy.

6. Be warm to your parents and their guests, and don't be annoying.

7. Spending too much money will also affect the relationship.

8. It doesn't work to discipline children strictly.

There are many benefits, and there are many disadvantages, but there is still a generation gap in the thinking of the next generation, if it is not handled well, it is easy to affect the relationship between husband and wife, if there are conditions to not live together, even if it is better to go up and down the floor, there is a private space. Hope these are helpful to you.

Whether or not the two generations want to live together involves practical interests.

Nowadays, when young people get married, they can't buy a house, buy a car, or give a bride price by their own ability, so the parents of both parties will provide great help financially, so some of them will think that they have the right to interfere in the lives of the young couple, such as asking their daughter-in-law when to have children and how many children.

And young people, get the benefit must not be too ruthless, parents say to listen to what they say, the most practical, is to get rid of the old people to help watch the children, now the social pressure is so great, it is difficult to find a job lost, especially women take the children out of the work, basically can not return to the previous level, so childbirth has become a family needs to work together, daughter-in-law has a child, father-in-law and mother-in-law take care of the child, the young couple continue to work hard to pay off the mortgage, car loan, make milk powder money and so on, Otherwise, without the help of the elderly, life is really busy and difficult. Nowadays, some girls are looking for a partner, and they will also see whether the man's parents have a pension, whether they are in good health, and whether they can and are willing to help take care of the child.

Although there will be many contradictions between the elderly and children, such as differences in living habits, ideological differences, differences in parenting concepts, and the run-in collision of living under the same roof with each other, which will lead to many bad things, but there is no way, the family is a big interest as a whole, unless young people do not rely on the elderly to get married, do not rely on them to help take care of children, and each other can arrange their own lives, so that they can achieve a distance to produce beauty, and everyone is at ease.