What is mother in law and daughter in law, and what does it mean to have no mother in law?

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a complex relationship. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law came together because of the same man, and then they were inextricably linked.

1.Partnership.

The new daughter-in-law is also called the bride, what is a mother, the mother is the mother, marrying you is to let the new daughter-in-law be the mother, and be the second mother of the groom without regrets.

The mother-in-law is the husband's mother, the daughter-in-law is the husband's second mother, and what the mother-in-law used to do for her husband is now handed over to the daughter-in-law. Laundry and cooking, housework, and earning money to support the family have all become part of the work, and it is also your obligation to have children.

Based on this principle, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are the cooperative relationship, the mother-in-law is the pre-marriage care, and the daughter-in-law is the post-marriage care. If the daughter-in-law can follow this ideal state, be a good wife and mother without complaints, and have no complaints about the family members, then the contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law basically does not exist, and the family is happy.

2.Rival relationship.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law both love the same man, and sometimes they become rivals.

As soon as he got married, the son followed his daughter-in-law to sweetness, and circled around his daughter-in-law every day, and he had no time to take care of his mother. As the saying goes, "the mother's heart is in the son, and the son's heart is in the daughter-in-law"! For the mother-in-law who gave birth to a child and raised a child, the son who has been by her side for more than 20 years is suddenly attracted to another woman, especially some mothers-in-law who are all about their son and have no other emotional sustenance, which is even more incredible.

The daughter-in-law naturally became a thorn in the side.

In my opinion, the relationship between mother and daughter and the relationship between enemies does not exist in my opinion. Mother-in-law is not a mother, no matter how good she is, she can't become a mother and daughter. In addition, if you really become an enemy, eighty percent of the marriage has collapsed.

The so-called "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law":

First, it means that the two people are very fateful, maybe they knew each other before, but they never expected that the two of them finally became mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Second, it means that the relationship between two people is very good, like a biological mother and daughter, as if it was destined for fate in the previous life, which makes people feel very envious.

It's the meaning that the time is very good, and the meaning of often not making contradictions. It's just a good place.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law treat you like your own mother, and you treat her like your own mother, without any dissatisfaction.

It's just that I don't fall in love with my mother-in-law.

What my mother-in-law likes and appreciates, it's not your type. The vast majority of mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law do not change their fate. Mother and son may not be destined for luck. As long as you fall in love with your husband, let's live a good life.

Once your mother-in-law treats you as a daughter, and you treat your mother-in-law as a mother, it's broken, why? You take your mother-in-law as your mother, how do you deal with your mother? Casually, the two of them just scolded and broke the bones and tendons, but you say a heavy word to your mother-in-law, or she says a heavy word to you, can you stand it, you must remember it for a lifetime, so she is not a real mother and daughter, don't treat your mother-in-law as a mother.

Po: It's a person who has to give the man he loves the most to a woman he doesn't trust!! Daughter-in-law:

It's the person who was willing to take over the trouble, but then was dominated or entangled by the trouble!! The relationship between these two people has been clear since ancient times!!

The relationship between the husband's mother and the husband's wife.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a disguised relationship between love and rivals.

It's the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law!

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a non-blood, non-emotional, non-related, but because of the structure of the intimate relationship, the family interpersonal relationship is far-fetched, and the intimate relationship is constrained and deliberately composed in terms of title, words and deeds, morality and emotion, but the two parties have not reached the true acceptance and recognition in their hearts, thus forming a special communication, coordination and social relationship between people

What kind of marriage can become a golden mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship in the previous life, this matter is not good for everyone and anyone, because no one knows about the things in the previous life? Who can't remember? Who can't see it?

However, in this life, you can become a family, whether it is a mother-in-law or a husband and wife or a friend, or a child is a fate to cultivate in the previous life, this is all Buddhism said, in the previous life, there is a fate to meet, husband and wife have the fate of husband and wife, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have the fate of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, even if the children come to this world, and their parents are also the smoke of fate, because in the vast sea of people, why can these people come together? This is all cause and effect, all of them are reincarnated in the four seasons, exactly, what kind of cause and effect? We ordinary mortals can't say it clearly, but we all feel it in our hearts, which may also make some sense.

Legend has it that 500 times in the previous life in exchange for the passing of this life, this life has become a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, maybe you have been looking back for more than half of your last life... bar,

You don't have to worry too much about this, living a good life now is that it's good to be a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law if you are fated to get along well, be more tolerant and considerate in life, and live your own life.

There is no past life! This life is up to you.

In the past life, he relied on accumulating virtue.

Do good in this life!

Between people is to repay gratitude, revenge, debt collection, debt repayment four kinds of relationship, although the following is explained by children and parents, you use this principle in the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the same.

The Buddhist scriptures tell us that there are four kinds of fate between children and their parents.

The first kind of fate is to repay kindness, this child has been kind to him in his past life, and he has come to your house in this life, to be your son, to be your grandson, to repay the kindness. You must be filial to repay your kindness, and you must work very hard to make your home prosperous, this is good!

Therefore one must have a good heart, do good deeds, and treat others with kindness. How did the loser come about? He who came to avenge his grievances had hatred in his past life, but he came here in this life to take revenge, that is, to destroy your family and ruin your family, and to avenge his grievances.

So one can't hold a grudge against anyone, why? He will come to your house, to be your son and grandchild, to be your descendant, to take revenge, and you have no way to prevent him from coming to your house.

The third type is the one who pays the debt, he owes you money in the past life, and now he comes to pay the debt. Such children and grandchildren will have good material conditions for their parents, but they will not have a filial piety and will not be respectful to their parents.

Will you be raised, how much? It depends on how much you owe. If he owes you a great deal, he will give you a great deal of material support. If you owe less, you can probably barely get by. There is a cause and an effect!

And there is a man who comes to collect debts, called a debt collector, to whom you owe it. If you owe less, he will leave when he is a few years old or a teenager, and if he owes a lot, he will support him until he graduates from college, gets a doctorate, and is just right to go out and do things, and at this time he dies and dies, which is what you owe a lot.

The Buddha said that if you don't have these four kinds of conditions, you won't become a family. So there are relatives and grudges between father and son, and there are debts, and if you understand it, use the Dharma to transform him.

Treat him with sincerity, compassion, and affection, dissolve his hatred, so that he can develop a sense of respect and filial piety. This is something that education can transform.

That's why Buddhism is our method of transforming good and evil into dharma, which is good! This is the origin of bad karma, and we end it with good karma, learn the teachings of the saints, study the sutras of the Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, and change all the relationships into the best ones.

This article is excerpted from episode 214 of [Pure Land Great Sutra Note].

The essence of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the lack of trust, and the most fundamental way is to enhance mutual trust, mutual cooling, and mutual concession, the daughter-in-law regards her mother-in-law as her own mother, and the mother-in-law regards her daughter-in-law as her own daughter.

Be more considerate of the elderly, the main thing is that the husband balances the relationship between the two parties, and the elderly can't rely on the old and sell the old when they are wrong.

Quite simply, if you treat him as an outsider.

We will always treat each other with respect.

Don't get your hopes up. will not be disappointed.

Love me, love my dog.

That's the essence.

If you love him, you should love his family.

All the reasons become excuses.

Does the mother-in-law love the house and the daughter-in-law?

I can't blame you for being angry and uncomfortable when you live together, because the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in China is not something that ordinary people can handle, especially when they live together. Dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law requires both parties to have a high degree of cultivation, haha.

But it's very wrong for you to still linger on it when you live out.

In fact, the difficult handling of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a "glorious tradition" passed down from generation to generation. So when this relationship is first established, traditional ideas enter people's minds with preconceived ideas. Since it is preconceived, people will verify it, search for evidence, and even create such evidence to prove this popular truth through the ages, haha.

So some of the normal frictions are the frictions that ordinary people may have, and people also blame him on the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I don't know when this thinking will change.

You have moved out, and you still can't let go of the previous words, which shows that your tolerance and forgiveness are not in place. There may be something wrong with your mother-in-law's behavior, but she must have her own reasons for doing that, maybe she may be even worse than you when she is a daughter-in-law, haha.

One forgives others.

Do you really understand the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? There is a good mother-in-law first, and then there is a good daughter-in-law.

Nothing, I just wanted to give upstairs a thumbs up.