Hello, in the first year of marriage, what should I do if my husband doesn t let me take care of mon

Updated on society 2024-07-17
28 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    In the final analysis, love is still a matter of two people, you can see from one thing, that is, the salaries of two people are still in their respective pockets. Once married, this situation rarely occurs, and many times even if you want to, the other party will not tolerate such a situation, especially the newlyweds.

    Because in the eyes of newlyweds, combining the money of two people into one is a real family and a manifestation of love. Therefore, after the husband and wife get married, they must reach an agreement on this matter to avoid contradictions, and pay the money at the same time, but also pay willingly.

    Since it involves merging the two into one, it becomes a difficult question who will keep and control it. If you have money, you have a sense of security, this is a truth that everyone understands, especially for men, paying your salary means that it is inconvenient to spend money, and you will be a little resistant to it more or less.

    After getting married, who is the most suitable person to manage the money between husband and wife? Interview a few people, let's hear what they have to say?

    First, Mr. Jiang: Our wife has always been in charge of our family's money.

    Married for 4 years, our family money has always been in the hands of my wife, and even I feel inexplicable, which naturally formed today's normality, and I am used to it. In fact, I don't feel anything bad, men spend money lavishly, and it's okay to have a woman behind the back.

    Just like I used to, I earned a lot, but my card was still empty all year round, and I never took my usual expenses of thirty or fifty seriously, and spent a lot of unjust money. After getting married, it is different to have someone in charge, although it is not convenient to spend money, but seeing that the days are thriving, there is also hope and more motivation.

    Second, Mr. Shen: Aren't all women in charge of money?

    Isn't this all about women taking care of money? Shouldn't men pay their wages? In my circle of friends, it's all like this, so I haven't thought about such a problem either. As long as the relationship between husband and wife is good, whoever takes care of it is the same, anyway, it is two people, and it can't reach the third person.

    I've never heard of a man managing money. Just like a friend of mine, although his wife spends a lot of money, he complains and complains in front of us at most, and I don't see him come home and make a fuss about getting his salary card back.

    Men earn money for women, if there are no women, what is the point of earning more money? Of course, this is also a condition that does not affect the normal operation of the family, after all, to live, the first thing is to ensure that life can go on.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Your husband may feel that you are not so trustworthy. You may not be too good at putting money there for you, he is afraid that you will spend it indiscriminately. Maybe your husband is a more thrifty person, it's the same to put **, as long as you really love each other.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Why do you have to take care of the money, tell your reasons, and then let him say why you don't take care of the money. Then see who is justified, and who will follow!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    He can not let you manage the money, but how to distribute the money must let you know that whoever manages the money is to live a good life, it doesn't matter, but if you spend his money, it depends on his attitude, you can't say that you can't say anything about it, if it's not for you, he has other thoughts about your feelings.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Talk to him face to face and find out the best solution, both husband and wife, you also have the right to know how much money you have at home, if you think you can manage the money well, you can try to manage it for a month and see who manages it better. If he doesn't tell you anything, I don't think you are called husband and wife... Express what you mean and he can understand you.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    It's like a handful of sand in your hand, the tighter you hold it, the faster it falls. The more you want to control your husband's money, the less he wants you to take care of it. You can think about it first, what is your original intention if you want to manage your husband's money?

    Do you have a precautionary mentality? Did you want to take care of it, or did you be warned by an adult? Secondly, if you want to adjust your mentality, you must first figure out what you want to control.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Don't worry because this is a problem, as long as you have money to spend, you can buy what you want to buy, this is okay, if your husband can save money, let your husband take care of it, after all, it's all for the family.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Don't listen to some people's nonsense, every man has his own personal space, and if you fall out because of this, it's not worth it, and you should find a better opportunity to talk to him again, and it's easier for two people to take care of it together.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Hello, in the first year of marriage, what should I do if my husband doesn't let me take care of money? In this case, I don't think he will let you manage the money, so does he earn more than you?

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    It's normal at first, but the two of you don't have anything to do after living for a long time, so you can understand the others.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    First of all, do you love to buy things? Which of you is more frugal. Living at home, who is thrifty and who manages the money, I personally think it is right.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    He doesn't want you to take care of the money. Then get a divorce as soon as possible, if you don't like it.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Then you can discuss with him, and the two of them will keep the wealth of the two of them.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    The easiest way to answer for you is to solve the problem according to your own way and method, to give reasonable answers, and you have clear questions to ask questions about the relevant content is not in a reasonable way to ask you to answer.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Try it according to your own method, you can change it according to your previous method, find out if it is still your own method, and then make a summary.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Summary. Dear, after getting married, your husband has not given you a penny, which is not normal.

    After getting married, my husband won't give me a penny, is this normal?

    Dear, after getting married, your husband has not given you a penny, which is not normal.

    The teacher believes that if the boy does not give a penny, these factors are mainly considered. The first factor, I'm like this, I never care about money, I don't know how to manage money, anyway, I usually have money to spend. Men and women have their own duties, men are outside, women are inside, and now men and women are equal, and women also have their own jobs.

    Discuss big things, forget about trivial things, if your man has a meal with an important customer or friend and has to apply to you to pay, do you have a glow on your face? The second factor is that money never passes by.

    My dear, like our family, I'm only responsible for spending money.

    So you don't go to work?

    My husband gives you a lot of money to spend. Surely blissful.

    Dear, the teacher also has his own job, but the teacher wants to say that because I am not very good at managing money, my husband manages the big money in the family, and I am only responsible for spending money, and he is also responsible for repaying loans.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Managing money after marriage is also a skill, your husband's money is willing to be handed over to you to manage, you have to seize the opportunity, manage the money well, learn to manage money, and let the money make money, which is not only conducive to family construction, but also will make the husband feel that you have a good family, why not.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    It turns out that the reason why you don't want to care about money is that you are a moonlight clan? You don't spend it every month's salary, you are really not suitable for managing money, don't worry, you said that no matter what your husband will never let you manage,

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Why do you care about money, in the future, when you have children, you will have too much time to use money, so let's take care of the economy first.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Is it normal for my husband to not give me a penny after getting married? This is certainly not normal. If both of them are married, and the husband doesn't give him a penny, I think this phenomenon is rare in real life.

    First of all, what is the purpose of the husband.

    First of all, we have to understand what the purpose of the husband is doing this, if two people do not have a job after getting married, and the husband does not give himself a penny, then how should we live like this? But if you have a job to earn money, it is understandable that your husband does not give us money, but the two people must have a clear rule on the management of property, who is in charge of the money, how to save the money and how to spend it, and the two people must have a good negotiation.

    Secondly, money is the joint property of the husband and wife.

    After the other two people get married, the income of the two people is the joint property of the husband and wife, and the husband does not give him a penny, so it can be seen that the husband attaches great importance to money. But as for the joint property of husband and wife, I think both of them should know it. Even if the wife earns money herself, I think the husband also wants to give money to his wife, which makes this man very generous.

    If this man is an iron rooster and does not pull a hair, there will be a lot of contradictions in the later married life.

    Third, work together to solve the problem.

    If we don't have a job in real life, my husband won't give us money. Then we must sit down with our husband to communicate about this matter, how can we live without money? But even if we have a job and a salary, we need to face up to the problem that my husband doesn't give us money.

    If the husband doesn't give a penny to his wife, it means that this person is an iron rooster. How can this life continue? This is an issue that two people need to negotiate together.

    After getting married, my husband doesn't give a penny to my wife, which I think is extremely abnormal. What do you think?

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    After marriage, your husband doesn't give you a penny, this can't be considered abnormal, if you have economic income, then it's normal for your husband not to give you money, if you don't have income, then it's normal for your husband to be in charge of the family's money.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Hello. Dear, if your husband doesn't give him money after getting married, if you are a housewife, then you can clearly find him, after all, you have to take care of the family, don't be embarrassed, this is understandable. However, it is better for women to make money on their own, and it is better to ask for money from a man than to have it themselves.

    If you don't have to take care of children, you can find an easy job. The salary does not need to be too high, it is good to meet your daily consumption.

    Have you ever tried to find your husband at home and have money? Or didn't ask for it, wait for him to take the initiative to give it to you?

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    This is not normal. Because most men will take the initiative to hand in their salary cards after getting married, and such a marriage will be happier.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    I don't think that's normal, because married couples are family. Property should also be shared by two people, and the wife should not be allowed to spend it, which will only be detrimental to the emotional harmony between the husband and wife.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    This is actually abnormal, it means that your husband is very selfish, and it is also possible that he does not love you.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    If you get married, it's a family, and it's definitely not normal if you don't pay for the family's expenses, so you can communicate with your husband.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Hello, after the first year of marriage, your husband will not let you manage the money, although it will make you feel uncomfortable, but it is not appropriate to have a conflict over this matter, you need to figure out your husband's thoughts first. First of all, you must first understand the reason why your husband does not let you manage the money, such as whether he thinks he has stronger financial management skills, or he is unwilling to be controlled by a woman financially. Secondly, it is also necessary to understand whether the husband's attitude in this regard is very persistent, and there is no room for bargaining.

    In fact, money does not necessarily depend on women, it still depends on the specific situation.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    First of all, if you simply want to manage the family's money or your husband doesn't want you to manage the money, it's not wrong, the main thing is whether the two people have the same concept. Return to the Waiter

    Personally, I think that it is normal for Heng to ask the other party for money, and there are the following three situations:

    You are a housewife, you should have a good talk with your husband and let him give you the living expenses you deserve.

    You have your own job, you are relatively financially independent, and he doesn't give you money.

    You are not a housewife (not doing housework) and it is unrealistic to expect him to give money, you should work hard to earn money yourself and try to be financially independent.

    In all industries, in fact, the hardest is the housewife, who has to take care of the children, the elderly, and take care of her husband's daily life, and at the same time has to clean and cook is very hard, so if you are a housewife and have no way to go out to make money, you should talk to your husband and let him give you basic living expenses to be able to maintain some expenses of the family.

    A female friend of mine is a housewife, because she has to take care of the elderly and children, she can't go out to work, so her husband gives her 90% of his income, and only keeps some pocket money for himself, so that it is enough to manage the expenses of the family, she is also more frugal, and the rest of the money is saved.

    If you have an independent career and don't need to work for your family, you don't have to ask him for money, and if you don't have a regular job, you should try to find a job that will keep you from worrying about expenses.

    I remember that my parents are like this, each takes care of their own money, spends their own money, and will not interfere with each other in terms of small money, and my mother has never used my father's money, but I will still support each other in terms of big money, such as buying a house, buying a car, and buying furniture at home, and my father will pay more, I think this is enough.

    So it still depends on the specific situation, whether it is the woman in charge of the money or the man in charge of the money or their respective financial independence, it doesn't matter, if you really want to manage the money, you should say good before marriage, if he doesn't give you money is also normal, not all families are women in charge of money, it can only be said that the two of you have different concepts, you should be more tolerant and understand each other, only the same values can live together for a long time!

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