In the first year of marriage, my husband worked overtime and went to my in law s house alone for 30

I can understand your mood right now.

But so. Since they are husband and wife, they must support him.

Actually, he didn't want to work overtime.

He worked so hard for your family, your future.

Actually, if your in-laws' house is not far from where your husband works.

You can make a soup at home, get a favorite food or something, and send it over.

Then enjoy it sweetly with him.

He will be touched for a lifetime.

And if you love your husband so much, your mother-in-law's family will be happier.

It's the New Year. Just be with someone you love.

It's fun everywhere.

Why is it annoying to go to my mother-in-law's house for 30 years, it is definitely better to have a husband to accompany you, but since it is an unchangeable fact that your husband has to work overtime, then you are not annoyed in vain, go to your mother-in-law's house for 30, have a New Year's dinner, be happy to have more fun, and leave if you are not happy to eat, don't bother.

We are the same, my husband is on the night shift on the day of his thirties. My house is close to my mother's house, and after eating at the old woman's house, I will go to my mother's again.

What's the bother, I'm also in my first year of marriage. After cleaning up, I watched TV, and everyone prepared a lot of New Year's goods, so I continued to eat if I was bored. Haha, that's what I thought.

If this is not selfish and ignorant. Then I don't know what else to count. My husband is doing things for the sake of the family and happiness in the future. Thank you for your understanding.

Then why aren't you by your husband's side at thirty?

Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, since it has been married into this family, every day to live a wonderful and harmonious life, first of all, to be a good daughter-in-law, respect the old and love the young is a must. Let's try to empathize with each other: although I don't know your family situation yet, but at present, many families have almost tried everything to marry their daughter-in-law back, if you are the parents or elders or husbands of this family, you will definitely very much hope that your daughter-in-law is how knowledgeable, sensible, diligent, filial, considerate, kind, kind, sweet-mouthed, and then the family is harmonious, happy to live every day.

I don't want to see all these kinds of evasive mentality today. Therefore, integrating into the family as soon as possible and adapting to the role of daughter-in-law as soon as possible is the way out. Now that the first daughter-in-law is being favored, this advantage itself is very good, as long as you are a little more diligent and do what they just said, everything will become very easy to handle.

Otherwise, after the generation gap is really formed, it will be even more difficult to deal with in the future.

Since your husband has been at work since the first year of junior high school, you can go home with him. Or rather, there is a class reunion in the afternoon. Just make an excuse.

He said that you want to be good to you, and you try to think in his shoes, so that you don't hate him so much, so that you should know how to get along with them.

Bear with it, what should you do, but you can't be bullied too much,

You can choose to stay at home, or go out to the mall.

It's really not a good place to use your phone to surf the Internet after doing some housework.

My dear, I don't know what your specific situation is, I am also the first year of marriage, and I have been fighting for almost a month for the New Year, but until today I decided to go to his house for the New Year, and then go to my house together in the second year of junior high school, at first we were reluctant to give up a step, I believe that if we insist on not letting it, the result will not be good for both of us this year, and the families of both sides will not be happy. The following is what I realized after communicating with a university teacher, I hope I can do it in the future, you can see what you think will be useful to you: (And you said, I didn't ask for the man's bride price, the house we got married was bought by my family, and this doesn't talk about any traditional practices, I think since you have chosen, then if you talk about it in front of him, it will hurt his self-esteem, and it is not good for both parties.)

Since two people are married, they have to work hard for a lifetime of affection, because divorce is a last resort.

If you feel that two people are not suitable, then why did you choose to be together in the first place;

If two people want to live a little better and longer together, then they need both sides to work together, understand each other, and make concessions to each other.

Everyone wants to let each other spend in their own homes when they go home for the New Year, many couples will quarrel every year for this matter, and it is a very happy thing to go home for reunion during the New Year, but if the two parties do not deal with it well, they may feel uncomfortable throughout the year, and even become the fuse of future quarrels.

Two people are not saying who is ruthless, who wins, two people do not have who wins and who loses, but a win-win game, and both sides in the game need to work hard for this direction of win-win.

Nowadays, many couples are working in other places, far away from each other's homes, and it is rare to go home several times a year. The parents' impression of their daughter-in-law or son-in-law basically comes from the description of their children, in this regard, I want to say that I have to learn to praise my other half more in front of my parents, if the other half only achieves 6 points, I must say in front of my parents that he is good for 8 points, or even 9 points, or 10 points. In this regard, I have always done a very bad job, never speaking for him much in front of my parents, and then again, what good will it do me if I let him have a bad impression in the eyes of my parents:

1.My parents would worry about me and think that he would not be able to take good care of me; 2.If we get together for dinner, my parents may show that he will take care of me more, and he will feel embarrassed to hear it, and ask you to tell me how to take care of your daughter.

So say more about his good in front of his parents, so that he has face, and his parents feel at ease, so that he will also be better for you, a virtuous circle, why not!

When there is a misunderstanding between the two parties, try to manage all parties, he explained to his parents, and I explained to my parents, in short, a principle, for the sake of the other party, stand in the other party's position and talk to the family. In short, let the other party create a good image of their family.

Are you an only child? Why don't you consider having both parents come to your home for the Chinese New Year?

I only registered last year and didn't have a wedding, so I celebrated the New Year at my in-law's house for the first time. However, the situation in my family is that my husband is out of town, and it is the first year of my father-in-law's death, so I can't let my mother-in-law spend the New Year alone.

This year, I spent it with my husband at my own house, and both parents couldn't take care of it. If I go back to my hometown this year, I will definitely accompany my parents for the New Year.

For the New Year, don't get angry about this, if you can't celebrate the New Year with the two old people, just a family for a year, in turn. Tell my husband that you can rely on him this year, and he will depend on you next year. There seems to be a saying that married daughters go home for the New Year, so the mother's brotherhood will not have a good time.

This is all feudal superstition, what age is it, basically a family is a treasure, and it has long been established.

Raising a daughter is not at all more worry-free than raising a son, your situation is not only on the person but also upstairs, I think a little not kind enough to remind you, to set up good rules in the in-law's house, don't be led by the nose, sometimes your understanding and compromise can not be exchanged for the gratitude of others. The more you give, the more others think you should.

It's like my mother-in-law, I accompanied her for the New Year last year, and she felt that it was very deserving. Still a straight temper. Say anything, the daughter-in-law should spend the New Year at her mother-in-law's house, let alone register, as long as she is engaged, she is a member of her mother-in-law's family.

I listened to it, and my heart plucked out the cold! It's really in vain that my parents forgive her for taking the initiative to send out my only daughter, that kind of great love. I'm not a bodhisattva, and I won't be so self-righteous and overflowing with love in the future!

Ask your mother-in-law ** is not good? If your mother-in-law thinks that she will return to her parents' house for the first year of the New Year and have a marriage that does not last long, it is also for your good! You have to listen! Don't let down the old man's heart!

Analyze your own situation, if your in-laws are very sensible people, let's take a step back! In the first year, don't get too stiff! Let outsiders say nothing, and let my husband be a good person! If not, love whom! Don't grieve yourself! You can't wronged our parents!

Generally speaking, if you don't go anywhere on the 30th Chinese New Year's Eve, you can spend it in your own home, but you can also go to your parents' house, like you, or live by yourself, and the province will complain. The first day of junior high school usually goes to the man's house for the New Year, and there are also those who go to the woman's house. In the second year of junior high school, I went to my mother's house, and so on.

There is no law on this, the customs of all parties are different, you didn't make it clear that you are ** people? I didn't make it clear if you and your husband were in the same place, but you can follow what I told you, and you can't be wrong.

In the past, it was a traditional practice in feudal society, but now there is no special reason, just a habit. In fact, the saying that if you marry in the past, you will marry in a long time ago. If the old people on both sides of the Chinese New Year's Eve can't get together, they can only discuss and take turns.

As for the tradition, it is possible to try to break it, depending entirely on the mentality and objective conditions. To be unorthodox is to be prepared to pay the price.

Since you have chosen to get married, you should tolerate each other, to give men enough face and self-esteem, this is not a big deal, and the bride price, marriage is not just a matter of men alone, if you take the house at every turn, I think you will have a lot of disputes in the future, if you do it, don't complain, otherwise you can choose not to do it, isn't it?

So here's how to deal with it this year.

My mother-in-law's family has to go.

Women don't be too strong, in marriage, women who learn to show weakness may have a better marriage, and you can be ready next year to take the old people on both sides to your home and have a reunion dinner together, which can also enhance the feelings of the old people on both sides.

Whether it is the in-laws' family, or the mother's family, or the father-in-law and mother-in-law are their own elders, if I divide you, I should not choose to enter the marriage, your parents are parents, and other people's parents are also parents.

There is no reason for housework. In fact, it's all caused by family planning.

You can go home, but don't drag your husband. Since you are so particular about equality, I think it is better to go back to your own house and find your own mother. You don't even talk about tradition, so why should the man give you a bride price? Really!

It was you who got married, you are the water spilled by your husband who married and married her daughter!

No one has entered your house! Do you want to spend the New Year at your house? You have a problem with your head???

There are too many rules, tangled... We really don't know how to celebrate the New Year. Every year we have to go back to my grandmother's house, and I really want to see her, I haven't seen her for a long time. Discuss with your husband, you can go to their house first and then go back to your house.

There are no rules, just a long-standing tradition.

You should go to your mother-in-law's house, mainly to have a good relationship with your mother-in-law, first, you don't have to be angry in the future, and second, your husband won't be caught in the middle. And the water spilled by the married daughter, your mother must have come over like this back then, and she will definitely understand that you may still support you. I wish you a happy marriage.

Yes, that's how it should be when you're married. Nowadays, young people don't deliberately regulate you, you can do whatever you want.

You can earn money to repay your debts, and you will pay them off quickly when you are at work. But the car was bought by your mother's family, and if you sell the car to pay off the debt, your parents will definitely be unhappy when they know it. It's better not to sell the car anymore. The child can also be brought to the mother-in-law.

Hey, my situation is the same as yours, I also got married on October 1 this year, my husband's house is in the mountains, my mother-in-law has been with bad legs, I can't take care of myself, my husband and I have already come out to work, in a small city, two people relied on their own savings to buy a house, life is not satisfactory, not rich. It's about to be the New Year, think about the lack of heating and air conditioning on the mountain, and take care of my mother-in-law and people who go to pay New Year's greetings, and give red envelopes to children, it's really a bit overwhelming, but I don't want my husband to be sad, hey, it's difficult! But in response to your question, if your husband doesn't go back, I don't think you have to go back.

Because you're in your first year of marriage, it's not good for you to go back. However, according to my husband, it seems that the elders and relatives in the village prepare red envelopes for the newlyweds, which should be a custom. It's best to ask your husband to send you back and stay for a day and a half and come back.

Actually, I think you should be by your husband's side, let me ask, if you can't go back to your parents' house, is your husband willing to go back to your house alone to face your parents alone? Definitely not. It's best to let your in-laws come to you for the New Year, it's all modern society, and there is not so much exquisiteness.

It's better to go back, if you don't want to stay for a long time, stay for two days and come back. You should go back if you are reasonable, which is also good for the development of your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship in the future. Give the money, New Year's goods, what should be bought, what should be given, and the number of gifts will be OK.

When you come back, you can say that you have to go back in a hurry, who can you call you a **, hehe, it's fake, pretend to be in a hurry, you know...

You must go back, you can buy some New Year's goods, give the elderly some festival money, even if you don't stay for a few days, at least go back and show up.

Whether it is from customs or feelings, it has to be returned.